Hi Tammy! I'm not a frequent poster, but your post caught my attention, and I have some info to share. We adopted a sibling set when they were 7, 6, and 2, and, over 5 years later, I have absolutely no regrets. We are an awesome family, if I may say so myself! It can be done successfully. My kids had lots of issues (with many things including food, which it sounds like these boys may have, and we resolved the issues with some counseling & lots of time and love). Also, six is not that old! (I teach kindergarten....trust me, they're still just babies in bigger bodies!!)
On the other hand, if you have your heart set on an infant, this isn't the situation for you. As you journey throughout the adoption process, especially after dealing with infertility, you will undoubtedly want to "save" every waiting child you see or hear about, and you have to come to terms with the fact that you can't.
I'd also be wary of the closeness of your aunt to the situation. A few years before our adoption through an agency, we had a potential adoption lined up....a "friend of a friend of a friend" kind of thing that fell through and just about killed me. In my opinion, it's so much better to be as far away (both physically and emotionally) from the birth situation as possible. I'm certainly not trying to say that you shouldn't or wouldn't trust your aunt (obviously, since I don't know her!) but just that you may end up having to have more contact with the birth family than you'd like, if they are close with your aunt.
OK, it's becoming rapidly obvious that I could write a book on the subject, so, please PM me if you want to chat further. I wish you the best no matter what you decide. | 
