alexander4372

My husband and I are looking into international adoption. We are very interested in Hatii or Ethiopia. We have an adopted daughter already who is caucasian and a bio daughter too. We would love to hear ideas on other families who have mixed races. Just wondering how a child might feel if she looked different then her family. Do you think that would matter? Thanks for your thoughts.

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acrosaz

I have a mixed race family and also grew up as the only black person in my family. It is hard, there will be challenges, but love and acceptance are the most important things a child needs. My only suggestion is to make sure that your child is exposed to images, dolls, and people that look like him/her, so they don't feel like it's not ok to look the way they do. It might not sound very hard, but you actually have to work at it quite a bit. There are some great resources on the internet like Dolls Like Me and others. Good luck!

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AboveTheExtreme

i agree with her.

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dna

We are in the midst of raising a child from a different race. We have the dolls and try to expose her to her heritage but most of all we love her. Completely. Unconditionally. She is almost 2 and I know this is young and we have a lot of growing up to do with her but we will always be honest with her about her adoption (same as we are with our caucasion son) and her race. I think my 5 year old put it best.

"Mommy if we all looked the same the world would be a pretty boring place!"

Simple yet powerful and effective !

For me knowledge is power...the more I can educate her and teach her the more she will have confidence in herself and about her origins.

Good luck ! Every child deserves a home

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Lisa67

I agree with the previous posters. We do all of the same with our 2 daughters we adopted from China. We also make sure we stay connected with families that are like ours so that our girls see that they are normal.

I find it a lot of fun and extremely beneficial to experience another race and be involved in a culture that I might not normally have been a part of. When we adopted the first time, my oldest daughter was 8 y/o (who is bio, caucasian) and she said "Now I am part Chinese too". It was a wonderful moment of knowing we would be OK!! We are a multi-cultural family and it is just great! Granted, my children are 12, nearly 5, & 3 so still young--we have lots of learning and growing to do but it is a fantastic experience.

Good luck in your decision!!

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