Me and my husband talked about it if we were not able to get pregnant then we would adopt. I really want to carry our baby but if I can not and looking at all other options and adoption was the last then I think we would do it then.
I personally don't think that you should look at adoption as your last option. It is an option, but that means that you will go to all the other lengths to have a child and then if you "really have to" then you will adopt. Like you are forced to do it to have a child.
For us, we did see the inf. dr. and well, it was just too much. We knew beyond a doubt that we would love our child if they were biological or adopted. We are now going through the adoption process, and we know that this is the right thing for us to do.
You have to have that mind set, b/c adoption is llooonnnggg road and very emotional and you have to be strong to do it.
I personally don't think that you should look at adoption as your last option. It is an option, but that means that you will go to all the other lengths to have a child and then if you "really have to" then you will adopt. Like you are forced to do it to have a child.
For us, we did see the inf. dr. and well, it was just too much. We knew beyond a doubt that we would love our child if they were biological or adopted. We are now going through the adoption process, and we know that this is the right thing for us to do.
You have to have that mind set, b/c adoption is llooonnnggg road and very emotional and you have to be strong to do it.
I agree.
You make it sound like adoption is the last thing you would do to have a child. We gave up on trying for PG on our own or with help and put it in God's hands...he sent us our child in his way!!
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I didnt mean it that way and i am sorry you took it that way. I just ment that I want to try carrying a child and if I cant then I would like to adopt.
I didnt mean it that way and i am sorry you took it that way. I just ment that I want to try carrying a child and if I cant then I would like to adopt.
I've got alot of friends in the adoption world that they came to adoption through ttc and weren't successful. Before you ever consider adoption you are going to need to get over not be able to concieve....s/w are going to ask about it. Seriously, we had to go through all of that when we had our h/s. Although dh and I never really had to grieve the loss of ttc...yes, if I could I would be elated...but more than anything I want to be a mom and through any means that that happens I will be more than happy and considered blessed.
in all honesty, for us adoption is a last option. i want to be pregnant again, to give birth, to know my prenatal care existed etc, have an in depth family history, and most of al have a combo of DH and I. however, we have kinda decided we want another baby and we are tired of failed IVF's. we are now doing adoption through the foster care system. its a little different than foster to adopt. we will be titled pre-adoptive home and onlya baby with an adoption goal will be offered to us.
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I don't see it as a last option, but lets all be honest. Had we not had fertility problems how many would have adopted? I would have done it later because I have several adopted family members. But, I would like to be able to have a child, and experience pregnancy/birth as well. So this is not my last option, I guess it is my only option. We can't afford $18 per cycle for IVF, and I can't get into a shared risk program. So for us, adoption is the only way we can have the family that our hearts desire so badly.
I had given up ever having a child. I had a hystro at 30...dh and I knew we wouldn't have kids together when we got married but God had other plans for us. He sent us a little girl who needed parents and gave us the most wonderful gift. Adoption wasn't my last option it was my only option. I wasn't dx with PCOS until 10 years after my hystro...it was the only way to control the bleeding.... they don't know what they know now.
Sometimes I wonder if what would of happened if I was diagnosed earlier....
My daughter came from my heart and that is all I need. Someday... I can be a grandmother and go through her pregnancy... that is what I wish and hope for.
Adoption. 
