Advice for DH's w/wives on Clomid?!

shorty1kanobi · 12-08-2003, 02:15 PM

Alright guys, I'm getting ready to start Clomid.The ladies & my doc have advised me that this medication is going to do a real number on my emotions. It can either make ladies really weepy or irritable. And, according to many of the gals who've taken clomid, knowing that it can do this hasn't helped them to avoid or negate the mood swings.

So, here's my ?. I love my DH and we want this baby. What advice can you give me to keep him from hating me or taking all this personally if and when the ugly 2 headed monster of hormones takes over? The good news is that it seems it will only last a week, but I haven't been through the effects of clomid before and I don't want to :
a. hurt his feelings
b. make him want to kill me (ha ha)
c. get so mad that the week after he wants nothing to do with me in the bedroom.

So, if any of you have gone through the Clomid stuff with your wives, could you give me some words of wisdom both for myself and DH?

TxHubby · 12-08-2003, 03:07 PM

From my personal experience, I can tell you that when my DW took Clomid, the only real change that I noticed was that she tended to cry a lot more and a lot easier. I think that part of that was just due to the emotional roller coaster that we were on, because we were TTC and still trying to come to terms with the whole PCOS thing. As each month went by & we found out each time that we weren't pregnant, she would get depressed & upset, so that of course played a part in it as well. It was just a very emotional time for us...so I'm not sure how much was actually due to the Clomid, and how much was due to all the other things that we were up against, you know ?? The best thing I could tell your DH is to just try to stay positive & try to be there for you, whenever you need him to be. It's really an emotionally trying time for both of you, so you just have to lean on each other & keep the faith that everything will work out ok in the end.

We were lucky....it only took a few months of us TTC before we got pregnant, and I know it takes some people years, so we were very fortunate in that regard. You just have to try to stay positive & not give up...it can be frustrating, but if you stick together, it'll be allright.

I hope this helped a little bit...let us know how things go & if we can do anything else to help out, don't hesitate to ask.

shorty1kanobi · 12-09-2003, 12:36 PM

Thanks! I'm copying your comments over to an email for hubby...I appreciate your input! I've told him that I'm going to try to keep as level a head as possible, but I figure that if so many women get emotional during that time, chances are I'm not going to be an exception.

TxHubby · 12-09-2003, 02:24 PM

Since you both already know about the possible side effects, that kind of gives you an advantage, because you're both going into this with your eyes open & knowing what could possibly happen. That way if you do have some emotional moments, you both know what's causing them & hopefully he'll understand that it's nothing personal, it's just a side effect of the medicine.

I'm sure it won't be as bad as what you think...I know it wasn't that bad for my DW...and after the first couple of times, you kind of know what to expect, so it gets easier as you go along.

Good Luck !!!

shorty1kanobi · 12-30-2003, 05:53 PM

TxHubby - I just wanted to thank you again for your advice.. I made it through my first round of clomid without much incident, and we were well prepared for the few moments of crabbiness!

TxHubby · 01-05-2004, 11:13 AM

You're Welcome...and I'm glad to hear that everything went fairly smoothly for you !!! Good Luck !!!

SoulHubby · 01-07-2004, 09:52 PM

Rock on.. not a lot of side effects... god willing it will have the desired effect.

All the best-

-=\Eric/=-

shorty1kanobi · 01-08-2004, 12:29 PM

Thanks guys! So far.....we know it accomplished at least 1/2 of the desired effect (ovulation) ....just have to wait a while for the other 1/2.

Have I mentioned lately how absolutely cool it is that you guys come on here and take an active part in what's going on with your wives? I don't think I had done that lately, so........you guys are awesome!