All Jehovah's Witnesses!! APRIL 08 EDITION - Page 5

HOLLAND · 04-24-2008, 02:14 PM

I'm sure your happy about that. You have been talking about going back for a long time. I hope it works out for you to get there.

HOLLAND · 04-26-2008, 02:39 PM

Anyone heard what the annoucement is going to be tomorrow?

ChloeDuvall · 04-27-2008, 01:56 AM

Nope, not me!

deliciousdiva · 04-27-2008, 02:57 AM

Sadie - I'll be thinking of you Monday. Enjoy the game.

Kerri - I'm sure your glad. Are you going to be near family now? We are moving too the end of May.

Steph - I haven't heard anything about an annoucement. But, I'll be there to hear it if there is one.

I'm off to pump and bed.
Erika

~*Heart*~ · 04-27-2008, 11:24 AM

I haven't heard anything about an announcement, either. We're having our Special Assembly Day today, but we just can't do it with all three kids and NO HELP. One of the elders suggested having a younger sister ride up with us to help during the drive, but what are we supposed to do DURING the program when our son, the veloceraptor, decides to let loose with an ear-piercing screech and our daughter doesn't want to sit still and starts screaming, and our baby starts crying...all at the same time?? No one helps us, no one offers to take the kids, but yet everyone expects we should make every single meeting and assembly as if it's just so easy. The same elder suggested we sit in the car all day and listen on the radio. This is a man who has never had kids, so I don't expect him to understand and I don't fault him...I know he's just trying to help. But it's just so frustrating. Thankfully, we WILL be with family and friends in Hawaii and will have help when we need it. Grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc. So we'll be able to make ALL the meetings and assemblies. We just can't do it right now. We switch off...DH takes one kid and I listen in on the phone, and then the next meeting I take one kid and he listens in on the phone. At least this way we're both getting the meetings. But I HATE that people kind of look down their noses at us because we're not making all the meetings as a family. They all think it's just so easy and we should just do it. I'd rather go to the meetings sporadically and get something out of them and listen at home and get something out of them than take everyone to the meetings and get NOTHING out of them. *sigh* I just wish people could be more understanding and less judgmental.

Sadie06 · 04-27-2008, 03:46 PM

My mom went to her meeting this morning and there's to be an announcement at the end of the meeting but she said she couldn't tell me what it was. Our meeting is in an hour-can't wait!

HajisPrincess · 04-27-2008, 04:47 PM

So I know I have been out of the loop for a while ~~~>

Codi ~ congrats! so super excited 4 u!
Holland ~ hows ur mom?
Sadie ~ hope all is well with the baby

So todays announcement was so very exciting, a true answer to our prayers! Jehovah truly does care for his people.

An update on me ~ I went to the docs and she basically said that because I am losing weight at a good rate, she is hesitant to diagnosis me with PCOS! Does this sound right?
Other than that not much new, struggling with my diet and exercise, trying not to become anorexic like when i was a teenager, can't seemed to be balanced ~ either binge eat or want to not eat!
Whatever I guess I just have been struggling with my depression lately! Have to look for a new job and then today at my meeting an old friend who is difellowshipped came in with his 3 month old baby! So number one the fact that hes still disfellowshipped upset me and the fact that he had a baby and I can't (he didn't even want a baby, his g/f became preg out of wed-lock...) then i got thinking about the fact that 5 of my friends are disfellowshipped. That just added to my depression. I can't seem to click to make friends with any of the young sisters in my hall. The only other married couple I was getting close to just had their baby last week! Ugh!!! I don't want to be jealous or depressed because my friends and aquantances are having babies but I can't seem to help it! I feel horrible!!!!

Okay so excuse the ranting, so sorry, luv to u all ♥

-Becca

HajisPrincess · 04-27-2008, 10:55 PM

I know what a blessing from Jah ~ this might sound corny but as soon as the brother announced it, in my head I was like "thank you Jehovah!" This is the one area due to my DH's work schedule that is so very hard...

Holland ~ Thanks so very much! It was exactly what I needed on this down day I am having...SO nice to have caring sisters/cysters to talk with. Wow 9 huh? I think I would go INSANE! well at least don't feel alone in my feelings...

So random question but is anyone from the DC/VA/MD area going to Richmond for their DC? Me and DH decided to go the last weekend in July since thats where his old friends and his family go as well as my parents and brother...? Not that we could prob ever meet with that many people but wud be neat to know I would be amongst cysters!

♥ becca ♥

deliciousdiva · 04-27-2008, 11:59 PM

Wow that announcement was awesome. I explained to DD that this meant that we have more time to study. Not more t.v. time. I also told her that at times I know I don't always do what I need to do. B/c I'm tired or just feel like I need a break. That Jehovah is probably telling me .. "How many times do I have to tell you to...." Like I tell her all the time. I think she appreciated my honesty. That made it easier for us to study the lesson for children in the April issue of the Watchtower.

Unwed mothers - Sensitive issue for me. I used to be one. I'll just say that sometimes the friends can be too judgemental and too calous just b/c they know what you have been doing. (Even people that did the same exact thing when they were young.) It's just as bad as something that anyone else with a sinful tendency can do w/o everyone knowing what they did. People just think they know you and your circumstance b/c you produced a child. No one knew my complete circumstances but Jehovah. Not the brothers, not my family. No one knew my mental circumstances surrounding that. I don't know too many people that want to be known as an unwed mother and purposely get pregnant. I know I wasn't trying. That's why it was so hard for me to grasp that I now had fertitily issues once I was actually married and in love with my husband. Now, disfellowshipped ones getting gifts I think is a little absurd. Doesn't that go against the whole no associating princple. I wasn't disfellowshiped b/c I wasn't baptized I was a publisher. We should all just remember that Jehovah is the only one who knows the circumstances no matter what sin someone has commited, when they come back we need to forgive them like Jehovah. The thing that helped me come back the most is the people that treated me the same before and after. These are the friends that really let me see how it still fit into Jehovah's organization. **OK. my rant is over. LOL. I said it was a touchy subject for me.**

Kerri - I know it's hard to go to the meetings and such. I just pray about it and ask people to do stuff. Like today I had all the kids by myself. MY DH (not in the truth, but usually comes to all the meetings) was at work today. I just ask anyone in the parking lot to help me get the babies out. Yes, I hate being in the bathroom most of the time. But our telephone hook up is not reliable and they are in desperate need of a new system. Just pray to Jehovah for sanity. I took the kids alone to the circuit assembly I did have a family that was willing to help though. At times I know it feels like three against too hunh? It will get better as they get older.

Holland - Glad your mother is feeling a little better. Is there a group of friends that are coming to see her? If not she may want to mention to her Book Study Overseer that she would like visitors. Maybe someone else can run errands too. Take the pressure off of you and your dad. Hopefully DH will not be too bad after the Hep B shots. I had to take them for work and didn't feel any different. But things are not the same for all people.

Becca - Have you thought of making friends in a different age group? My best friend here is a sister that is older than my mom and she has really been a source of strength for me going through everything especially with my family being so far away. Just a thought.

Friends having babies - I completely understand. Before I got preggo I made a pack to myself not to hold any babies, be around people w/ babies, or talk about other peoples kids. I was just too emotional. I also told DH that the next baby shower I went to was going to be my own. You have the right to be angry and mad. It's natural and normal. If you didn't get irritated we'd have to check your pulse. LOL! Remebering my feelings like that help me feel even more blessed to have the family I do. When you two do hold your babies you will feel the same way. You'll remeber all the fustration, all the tears and pain and suddenly it will feel years away, but still right in your throat. That's how I felt at the hall on Friday.

I have to go. I need to reconnect w/ DH after the day and explain the new arrangement to him. I so hope that one day he studies but w/ the way things are going he's running out of time. Agape.
Erika

HajisPrincess · 04-28-2008, 12:40 AM

Erika ~
Well first off I in no way meant to affend anyone... my complaint wasn't that unwed sisters were getting preggo just that I feel so jealous and frustrated since I am married and can't get preggo and they aren't even wanting a baby at this time in their life! Just sometimes it doesn't feel fair. But those are my own feelings I need to deal with. Hopefully I didn't offend!!!
Also, I in no way judge sisters or brothers who get disfellowshipped since I very easily could of been and still could be in the future one who is. I hope that doesn't happen but we all are inperfect. I just get frustrated because like I said above I can't make many friends (i'm in a tiny hall) and my oldest friends are disfellowshipped. Makes me sad, i miss them... Actually it was really hard last year when my life long friend and my brother & sister n' law were disfellowshipped. Anyways I will keep praying to Jah, and again much luv to all, i hope u understand. Sorry again for the ranting... LOL

♥ becca ♥

Blondie87 · 04-28-2008, 01:17 AM

Today has been a crazy day.. just to warn you this is going to be really long..

So my sister is 14.. and she got baptized at 12. She's been going through alot lately. You know... at that age most witnesses go through not wanting to be a witness because of restrictions and such. Sam (my sister) says it seems more like a cult all the time and that she doesn't want to be any part of it and she has been wanting to write her letter to be removed from our congregation. We have all been begging her, bribing her, anything just to get her to give it a little more time. She has a meeting scheduled with the elders today before meeting and my parents, who are divorced and my dad lives in Spokane, WA and isn't a believer, told her yesterday that if she decided to turn in her letter that she would have to go live with my dad that day. She told me last night that she wasn't going to turn it in JUST because she didn't wanna go to my dad's. And today they had a meeting with the elders to decide what she wanted to do and she turned in her letter. My mom has been bawling off and on.. it's been a crazy day. So today my DH and I took her to the airport and she went to my dads! Hopefully she figures stuff out and comes back soon. It was so sad.. when my mom hugged her goodbye she was crying so hard. I just am praying that my sister gets a clue before it's too late..

ChloeDuvall · 04-28-2008, 04:40 AM

Wow, just reading everyone's posts here, I can tell that Satan is working overtime to bring us down!

I've personally been dealing with so much regarding my spirituality and my meeting attendance. I was thinking, "If this is Jehovah's organization, why is it so hard to go to meetings? Or go out in service?" Then i realized it's because it is Jehovah's organization that makes it hard. Because Satan does double duty on us! I love when i'm at the meetings, i feel so great and safe. But getting there is another story for me.

My personal study has dropped, which strains my relationship with Jehovah on my part because he has no way to communicate with me if i'm not studying, or going to meetings, or going in service, or praying enough. And if i don't study, i don't feel motivated to go to meetings. And if im not at the meetings, i feel weird about going out in service. It's a horrible domino effect for me.

I talked to DH about this today, and he was so encouraging. My short term personal goal is to make my personal study regular. My long term goal is to be a regular pioneer. I hope to succeed. Only with Jehovah's help will I be able to.

I feel so terrible about what everyone is going through. I will keep all of you sisters in my prayers.

Agape,

Teri

deliciousdiva · 04-28-2008, 09:34 AM

Becca - Didn't mean to sound like I was attacking you or Steph. Sorry if it sounded like it. It's just sensitive to me. I understand the fustration:

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Originally Posted by deliciousdiva

That's why it was so hard for me to grasp that I now had fertitily issues once I was actually married and in love with my husband.

I became an unwed mother after having sex w/ DD's donor (as I call him) once. Not twice, never to be repeated again, but a disgusting one time thing. Now, I can't imagine life w/o her, but if there was one experience that has changed me and the way I see things in life. It's was super hard raising a child on my own. I didn't marry my DH until she was 4 years old. I know it's fustrating to TTC. I felt like I was being punished when I couldn't have children w/ my DH. We were trying but not trying for two years before we searched out help to TTC and that took a year too. I don't see how some of you have TTC for longer than that, you are definatley stronger than me. I was going to stop TTC in April and got a BFP in March. I was turing into a mad woman.

Blondie - So sorry about your sister. Seems like someone else is putting ideas into her head. But Satan is definately working overtime. I hope everything turns out for the better. In these situations it seems to take time. I really feel bad for your mom. I hope she doesn't blame herself, but as a parent you tend to.

Teri - I feel the same way about personal study. I know it was mostly a temporary thing b/c of the twins but it has been so hard. I finally was able to do part of the WT with them awake. They were rolling all over the floor so I just had to keep stopping. (No pack n play time yet, due to hair pulling.) I told my DD that I'm going to make us a check off list for personal study for the week and we are limiting ourselves to one or two t.v. shows a week like the assembly suggested. For me it's so easy to veg out after dealing w/ rushing to work, rushing home, rushing dinner, and rushing baths. I just want to sit but I'm going to limit that to a good 15 mintues so I can do what I need to do.

The only thing I hate about moving right now is that I have gotten a circle of friends. A small circle but I like my three good friends. It's really hard to make real friends even in Jah's organization, like Becca was bringing out. I know I'm going back to my hometown and I have plenty of friends but, none this close. Mostly associates not real friends. I have to tell one of my closet friends that we are moving today or after the book study Tuesday. She's going to wig out, I'm sure she doesn't take news like this good. Whew, I can't wait for this system to be over so we can live at Jehovah's pace.

deliciousdiva · 04-28-2008, 09:49 AM

Oh yeah I forgot to mention my exciting news. (Well exciting to me.) When DH goes out of town this weekend, I'm cutting and coloring my hair. I haven't cut my hair for the last six years. I'm ready to cut it. I'm too busy to do anything different. I'm still going to have locs, but their going to be shorter. I found a cut I want out of a magazine.

Kerri - I feel you on moving for family. That's part of the reason that we are moving too. I can't stand being home by myself three weekends out of the month w/ the kids alone. I just want to go somewhere and it's hard. I did manage to stay out of the house most of Saturday once everyone finally got ready.

Ok... I really must get ready for this thing they call a JOB.
Erika

HajisPrincess · 04-28-2008, 02:36 PM

Wow sorry to all my sisters,I agree it does seem like Satan is working really hard right now to discourage us!

Erika ~ U have to let us know how the hair turns out!

Blondie ~ So very sorry about your sister. I can sort of relate cuz my uncle did the same thing basically and my friends sister did exactly the same thing. I know its tough. All I can say is I will be praying for you and your family and make sure you take care of yourself for your babies sake ya know? Maybe once she gets out there with her dad she will start to realize what she did or once she really wants to be involved with her new niece or nephew?

Chloe ~ I totally agree with the dominoe effect thing. Honestly I used to be a pioneer for three years and service is so very hard still for me to this very day. Jehovah will deff help u reach that goal! The month slips by alot so fast and I don't even have any time in! (like this month ~ o no!) LOL, well my situation is a lil diff since my DH works sat, sun, mon nites from 6-6 so by the time he gets home sunday morning its almost 7 and then we have to leave at 9:30 for the meeting so he sleeps for like an hour and half so Sundays are our hardest to get to.

Holland ~ I totally understand what u mean about crying... Sunday I started to and had to actually got out to the car for a bit to calm down. So sorry, maybe the new hall will help.

You are all in my prayers!

♥ becca ♥