This would have been my babes first christmas, and I want more then anything to get a stocking for her, and to buy her a little gift to put under the tree. I'm terifide to say this idea out loud, let alone to my husband. I just dont know if this is a normal feeling, or if this is a sign I need mental help.....
I think it's perfectly natural and there's nothing wrong with wanting to remember your baby. Instead of buying a gift, why don't you buy or make an ornament in the baby's memory that you can hang each year in his/her honor?
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I don't think you're 'crazy', but I still don't think its a good idea to buy a gift. Maybe you need to look into more counselling to help you get over your loss.
my friend has recently lost a 2 day old baby, after going the full term...it was a genetic problem that wasn't traced...so I do kind of know what your going through. I'm thinking about you, it can't be easy.
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I'm getting a new ornament for Mary Catherine every year... this should be her second Christmas if she had gone to term, so I got a little sled with two snowflakes on it. Last year I got a single white dove. Next year I'll try for something with three somehow represented... We each just need to do what feels good. Today is her birthday, and just like last year, I'm buying gifts and donating them to a group that provides Christmas to the needy.
If you need to do it and don't feel safe discussing it with anyone, keep it all in a little memory box. Tell your husband if you are able to... he is hurting too, though it's a lot harder for him to show it. Just start by saying that you need him to open his mind and heart so you can share something very dear to you without feeling criticised.
((Hugs)) We'll get through this season together. Hang in there.
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Why not buy a gift in her memory and donate it to Toys for Tots or a homeless shelter of some kind? I think that's a great way to remember your child.
Also, an ornament...I am going to buy an ornament I saw at the mall that had 3 stockings hanging over a fireplace. They can personalize each stocking with a name. So I'll get each of my angel babies' names on a stocking and hang it on the tree. I'll get one for my parents too - they don't seem to want to remember, but I'm not giving them a choice.
Am I crazy for this? 
