mkbaby74

So here is the story. My younger sister took these classes through her church on running support groups. Her church is very big and they have a lot of them. I asked if they had one for miscarriage and infertility. She said that they did not but she would talk to her pastor about starting one.
I thought it would be great because I am sure there are a lot of people in the church that are having these same issues and for me it makes me question God and everything (but that is a whole other topic). Anyway the church decided to start the group and they did a lot of research and stuff. I was thinking about joining. However, my sister just informs me that she is running the group.
She has no idea about miscarriage and infertility! She has not had either problem. I am so bitter about it. I do not think that someone that does not have any experience should be running this support group and she nor the church see a problem with it.
I think of all the insensitive comments she has made, not on purpose but because she does not realize that when she is trying to help it is actually hurting. I do not blame her for that because how could she know. But how is she suppose to help others? When she has not been through it herself.
I go to a support group and I can not imagine someone running it that does not know the feelings I feel.
She does not understand why I will not join. I said because A. you are my sister and b. you don't know what it feels like.
Am I crazy? Am I being to sensitive?

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Michelle


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Me 34 DH 42
TTC since 2000
Diagnosed with PCOS 2004
1500 mg metformin
4 angel babies
#1 mc at 6 weeks 01/2005
#2 ectopic (cervical) 8 weeks 03/2006
#3 mc at 6 weeks 07/2007
#4 ectopic 6 weeks 07/2008

Purple_monkfish

I totally understand where you're comming from, hopefully enough women together will educate her on the subject but it's a bit iffy I agree. How can you understand the full impact of miscarriage till you've suffered it? I mean, I THOUGHT I understood, but nothing prepared me for losing this baby. The way I feel now.. well two months ago i'd have never imagined i'd still be in a state.

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SheriKCMO

I completely agree with you. I'm glad you're able to be honest with your sister! I'm not sure I would be able to say those things, so congratulations on that. Is there anyone else in your church you can discuss this with and get a different group leader? Good luck!!

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