Am I miscarrying?

stormspirit · 10-07-2003, 10:11 AM

I hope you ladies can give me your opinions on what I'm going through. I started spotting 4 days ago. It was very light pink and only lasted a few hours so I didn't worry about it. The next day there was no spotting, but the day after that DH and I had sex and when I went to the bathroom afterward I noticed alot of blood. More than spotting, I was bleeding. Well, that was on a Sunday and I didn't want to go to the ER so I decided to wait it out since I know some bleeding after sex is normal. Well, Monday when I woke up I had bled all night, enough to soak my panties and the pants I was wearing. I called the doctor and they had me in right then. So he did an U/S, which is my first since being pregnant, and found no hb, no fetal pole, no yolk sac. So he said that maybe I'm not as far along as I thought and the bleeding is coming from somewhere else, otherwise it looks like I'm miscarrying. The good new was my cervix was closed. Ok, well the rest of the day I had horrible cramps. I've never experienced labor, but I imagine this is what it must feel like. Eventually I started to pass blood clots, but it doesn't look like I've passed the fetus yet. Now my cramps are much much better. I'm still bleeding and passing some clots though. I don't go back to the doctor for a f/u u/s until Friday. So what I want to know is what is it like to have a miscarriage? What does it actually look like when it comes out? I've never been through this before, and I'm trying to stay strong. My mother is here, and she's a nurse, and she says that she's seen lots of women come into the doctor's office bleeding and cramping like this and still end up carrying the baby, and she says that passing the clots COULD be a good sign cuz it means my body is trying to stop the bleeding. But, I wanted the opinons of my cysters. I know you have all been through what I'm going through. I thought the ttc was tough and emotional, but this is horrible. The not knowing if my baby is going to live or die. I'm so confused. Thank you all for listening.

Leigh Ann

Brandy B · 10-07-2003, 11:06 AM

Ah Sweetie, I prayed that I wouldn't see any of my EDD buddies here. I can't tell you if what you are experienceing is a m/c or not. I'm still waiting for mine to happen. Just know that I'm praying for you and your family. Hoping that this scare is only that - a scare. Sending lots of hugs and love...
Please keep us updated...

BB

indiana_troll · 10-07-2003, 11:15 AM

Leigh Ann. I've never been through a miscarriage myself. So I can't help you out there. I just wanted to let you know I will be thinking about you. Hope everything turns out for the best for you and your baby. Good luck.

Patty

Vaughn · 10-07-2003, 02:59 PM

I saw that a lot of people had looked at your post but very few had answered so I thought I would.

I can only give you my experience and I wish I could bring you better news. Your symptoms sound a lot like mine when I miscarried last year. I had an ultrasound that showed a sac but no real heartbeat. I was scheduled for a repeat us one week later. I had been spotting off and on. That weekend I started to have really bad cramps and eventually had to go to the hopsital. They removed the last "products of conception" which is the lovely term they used so I never saw it.

The worst thing is there is nothing you can do. You mom may be right and the fact that your cervix is closed is also a good sign.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that you have good news come Friday.

I know how hard the wait can be. If you need to pm me and we can chat more.

Vaughn

lots_of_dots · 10-07-2003, 05:19 PM

((((hugs Leigh Ann))))

I'm so sorry you are experiencing this in what should be a happy time. I pray that your body is just trying to heal and that's what is causing the blood clots.

****Warning TMI****

I've had two m/c's. During both of them, I didn't start passing clots until after I lost the sac. I lost the first one at 6w4d and it kind of looked like a grape without the skin and was about the same size as a large grape. I could also see a flesh colored line inside of it which I'm guessing was the fetal pole. I lost the second one at 5w2d and the sac looked like a group of tiny grapes without the skin clumped together (it was only about the size of a pea).

I hope that helps you. I know how hard a m/c is to go through and I pray with everything in me that this is not what is happening to you.

Love,

Kaymara · 10-07-2003, 05:51 PM

(((HUGS)))

I can only give you my expierence with a m/c since the one and only time I have been pregnant it ended with that...

When I m/c I started bleeding slowly at first. My cervix was also closed so the doctors told me I was threatened miscarraige and put me on bedrest. I continued to bleed a decent amount (but no clots) I had my hcg rechecked and it had dropped. I was told to expect m/c at anytime. I started to bleed rather heavy and passed alot of clots. Then I passed (TMI warning!) Tissue about the size of a large grape as well. Was greyish in color with a tiny bit of red. Then I continued to pass alot of clots and the bleeding intensified. My doctor informed me that was the actual m/c I was rechecked 2 weeks later and it was a complete m/c. I had very little cramping at all until the actual m/c started. but that was me..

Now try not to worry yourself sick (I know, easier said then done) But if I were you I would stick to bedrest until your next appt with the doctor. Keep your feet elevated, no sex, no tampons, no baths, no heavy lifting etc. (I was told this because at that point when I started m/cing that would cause infection) This will also help to make sure nothing gets irriated in the case that maybe your cervix is just irritated from sex or something. No 2 bodies are alike and no 2 pregnancies are alike. You could be fine, and are just having a bleeding episode that can happen in the first trimester. Just pamper yourself and be extra cautious until that next appt.

Take care of yourself! You and your family are in my thoughts. Big hugs to you!

stormspirit · 10-07-2003, 06:43 PM

I really want to thank everyone who has responded. This is a very hard thing to go through. I just feel like it's so unfair. After all it took for us to get pregnant... now this.

I am still having some mild cramping today, but the bleeding is very light now. Much, much lighter than it was yesterday. Yesterday it was like the heaviest day of my period. They called me back today with my beta result from yesterday and it was 7821, which they said was slightly low. From what you all have told me I haven't actually miscarried. My mom has inspected every clot I've passed (sorry TMI). That's the nurse in her, and as much as it grossed me out I'm glad she's here.

I have spent the whole day laying on the couch. I happen to be on vacation this week (nice vacation, huh) so I plan to lay around all week. I've cancelled our vacation to Pigeon Forge. I go tomorrow for another beta so I guess I'll know for sure what's going on then. I'm staying optimistic as long as I can. Until they tell me it's over, I'm praying it's not.

Thank you all again for the thoughts and prayers. It really means alot to me.

Leigh Ann

Louie · 10-07-2003, 07:32 PM

Hi Leigh Ann... so sorry you are going through this. I hope it turns out well and not a m/c. Just wanted to let you know that I m/c'd at about the same time (9w2d) as you are currently in your pr. Actually, the baby was 9w2d when it died and I did not m/c it until about 10 days later. It was about three inches long, flesh colored and looked just like a tiny fetus with arms and legs, fingers etc. I used a strainer in the toilet to prevent it from falling in.

A lot of times, the baby dies before it actually comes out, so if you m/c, yours may be much smaller than how mine was. They should definitely be able to see it on u/s (trans-vaginal) with a beta over 2500... so perhaps you should have another one to check again. If you have any doubt at all, don't let them talk you into a d&c (til you have evidence that the baby is gone). In the meanwhile, try to stay hopeful. Best of luck.

Iluvstjohn · 10-08-2003, 12:33 PM

Sounds like you've miscarried

, and I'm sorry for your loss. If you were 9 weeks along, you would definitely have seen a baby by now. The fact that they didn't see a sac, fetal pole or anything, makes me feel like you've probably already have passed the fetal tissue (and if the baby stopped developing very early, there wouldn't be much "baby-like" tissue to expel). I think we've all been in your shoes and it's not fun. The cramping, bleeding, and passing clots sound all too familiar. My baby had a heartbeat and I knew very early on that all was not well. I knew at 6 weeks that things weren't progressing normally, and at 10 weeks, I finally m/c.....not a good point in my life, that's for sure. We will be thinking of you in your time of loss....hope brighter days are ahead.

stormspirit · 10-08-2003, 03:59 PM

Well, I just miscarried. It was just like you all said. I'm just glad it's over. I know it's going to be hard for me to get over, and DH is pretty upset, but at least now I know and I can begin to get on with my life. Thank you all.

Leigh Ann

Ange75 · 10-08-2003, 04:05 PM

Leigh ann - I am so so sorry..we were cycle buddies a few months back and I just can't imagine how hard this must be for you. LOTS AND LOTS OF HUGS TO YOU and DH!!!!!!

indiana_troll · 10-08-2003, 04:15 PM

(((((HUGS))))) Leigh Ann.

Patty

Kaymara · 10-08-2003, 04:24 PM

I am so sorry. Big hugs to you! You and your family are in my thoughts!

Brandy B · 10-08-2003, 05:05 PM

Oh, Honey, I'm so, so sorry. Please know that we'll be here for you if and when you would like to talk. Thinking and praying for you and your family....
Much love and many hugs...

BB

Vaughn · 10-08-2003, 05:10 PM

I'm so sorry to hear that. If you want to talk about it all don't hesitate. There are (unfortunately) a lot of us here who have gone through what you are experiencing and have had some time to heal.

Vaughn