I guess maybe after all we have been through I might be able to see the edge of God's plan for us. Yesterday which was 13 DPO on our first injectible cycle, I could feel AF gearing up. On my way home from work I forgot to stop and pay our taxes, and had to go back out. When I got there the check that was already filled out was gone and so after 15 minutes of frantic searching I decided to say screw it, and wrote another one.
On my way home I had already past go mart and for some reason made my way back there to get a pack of cigs. I smoke very very little but I decided that since AF was showing I might want to have a drink or two and a smoke to calm my nerves. I even had a few lights left but for some reason I wanted menthol. I never go in this store because we have a little stop n go right beside our house. So I have no clue how or why I ended up there.
While I was standing in line I heard someone say hurry up. When I looked behind me it was a former student. I went back to see how he was doing. I told him I heard he was working and had been doing really well with his re-hab program. I asked about his 10 month old little boy, and then his wife walked over and asked how our little girl was. I proceded to tell them that they moved her to a family in PA and we didn't get to adopt her.
So the conversation kinda migrated out side, and they asked what we were going to do. I said we were going to do lap in about a week, and a few more cycles and then try for a private adoption or possibly search for an agency. Completly out of no where his wife says do you want to adopt our baby. I looked at her like I was gonna keel over, and I said he's adorable, I would do it in a second, are you serious? She said not Kyle, this baby and pointed to her stomach.
I was in shock to say the least. She continued to tell me that she had been really upset because they could in no way handle another baby, and didn't want to either. They both swore up and down they were really careful and used combined BC methods. They said they really didn't want to abort, and had been looking for somebody they trusted to adopt but couldn't find ANYBODY. So they had scheduled an abortion for next week, but both of them were really bothered by it, and would rather go through with an adoption. They had even contacted an agency but didn't want strangers to adopt the baby.
We talked for over an hour, and both of them were in tears because they were so relieved about the abortion. Finally, we parted ways and about 2 hours after I got home they called. They said they had told both of their parents, and they agreed that it was the best choice. Nobody is financially stable enough to help them with another baby, so they really supported the decision to either abort or adopt but they all though adoption was the best choice.
I will know more on the 9th because she has an appointment. She believes she is about 3-4 months, and hasn't gone to the doctor because she didn't want anybody to know. Their family pays their bills so they would find out when the doctor bill shows up.
Hopefully this is it for us. We have waited so long stumbling around and trying to figure out what God had planned for us, and for some reason it just makes sense now. We even have the same goals for the adoption. They want little or no contact, and since we will be moving to a different county soon things seem to look good. Fingers are crossed and praying every second that this works out.
OMG, thats awesome!!! so how do you know them? He was one of your students? Is he still?
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Both of them were former students a few years ago. They are 19 now, and both out of school. We are excited, scared and cautiously optimistic. AF was gearing up the day I talked to them, and I was so down. I really just didn't think I could make it through another cycle, and at least this gives me hope. I just worry about the things they have done in the past with drugs and all. But both of them have cleaned up, so hopefully everything will be o.k.
They seem pretty open about it all so one evening I think we are gonna sit down with them for dinner and talk about it so I can have some piece of mind as to what they have done. I am not so much worried about the past drug use as I am the chance they could have contracted something if they were shooting anything and sharing a needle. But I am not even sure they did that, I think it was mainly pills and stuff.
Wot thats great. I hope it works out for you. It sounds a lot like our birthfamily's story. They already had 2 children and didn't think they could handle another one in any way. They didn't want to abort and didn't want to use an agency either.
The birthmother knew in her heart that this child was not meant to be hers.
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Amazing.... 
