I haven't been on the boards for a looong time. I have tried to deal w my depression and relationships on my own but to no avail. I have met one bad guy after another and I am 28 and I have been writing on these boards for 4 years about how upset I am about being single and nothing seems to change. I recently met a guy i think is a good guy and we have been together for 6 weeks but all of a sudden this past week things have been different and he isn't txting me or calling me as much. I know from past crappy experiences that when this happens it usually means its over and now I am sick to my stomach and full of anxiety. I havent' called or txt him to give him his space really trying to do the right thing. I had been doing so well feeling great about everything and now this. I just don't know what to do and the thought of yet another guy doing this to me makes me sick... what can I do to get rid of the anxiety and is it a really bad sign trhat I have it or is it my own crap from old relationships???
Perhaps you need some time to yourself for a while to sort our your feelings before getting into another relationship.
I'm 42 and have never been married. I guess that is because I've been very career oriented. I go out with a friend of mine who is the same age and she's divorced. We have fun meeting different guys and just hanging out. I figure when something will happen, it will. I don't force it.
Do you have close friends or family who you can confide in and who can help and support you with this situation?
I would imagine it's easy to gravitate toward the same type of person even if it's not a good thing. I think it takes a lot of soul searching and thought to determine why you are getting into bad relationships on a regular basis. That will take some time and effort on your part.
I think what you're feeling is pretty normal in relationships. Dating can be a real emotional rollercoaster, especially when you're not sure whether he likes you like you like him and so on.
My recommendations: go out with girlfriends, do girly stuff, eat chocolate, treat yourself to stuff you don't normally get to have-- focus on yourself for a little while and try to keep your mind off where the relationship is going (yes, easier said than done, but it's good to remind yourself that you're an awesome person that knows how to have fun even if this particular guy leaves your life).
It's hard to say what the cause is, and short of asking the guy in question, you may not find out. When you say that you've met one bad guy after another, I do wonder a bit if you might be settling for someone who you know is not right just to have someone. I don't know if that's the case because I'm reading between the lines a bit.
For you to have any good relationship you need to take care of yourself for awhile. It's funny but about a year after I made the decision to live my life without worrying about someone coming along, I met my husband. I agree with the other posters. If it's meant to happen, it will. Take care of your old issues & create a place where it would be great if you happened to meet the right guy, but it's okay if you don't.
Of all the bad guys I have met I have gotten rid of them pretty soon after their "true colors" came out. I have been single for over 3 years(I'm 27) my ex my only bf who was ****ty too recently got married and I am always alone. I do love myself and have a life and friends and stuff and usually I am single and lonely but I do not settle. I just don't understand why guys have to be this way and why they all start off great and then poof disappear. I am ok with being single but that doesnt mean I like it I am lonely and sad and scared that's how it will be forever... I go through a lot of dry spells so it's not like I am dating very often and I live in nyc where it is super hard. Almost all of my friends are with someone in a serious relationshiip and it has it's moments for me that are rough. I just really like this guy and he was so great and now hes playing some sort of game by not calling and making me nuts.. I can't eat it's nuts. I hate being like this!
Anxiety!!! 
