I was diagnosed with PCOS about a month ago, but I've been researching it for a while. I've tried to explain the issues/symptoms/etc with my husband but he doesn't seem to really be interested in learning anything about it. We aren't TTC right now and it feels almost like he just doesn't care because he believes its just a problem with trying to get pg.
Has anyone else gone through this? Does anyone have any ideas, or ways to talk to DH about this so he may be more interested in learning more about it?
Can you find a print out that explains the basic ins and outs of PCOS. That's what i did with my h2b, and it worked really well as he could take the time to read it and then ask me the questions he wanted to. I didn't force him to read straight away, but just let him know it was important to me that he made the time to read it over the next few days. It did take a couple of gentle reminders, but he read it all eventually, hehe.
I'm having the same problem with my boyfriend. He seems to think that it is no big deal. The only thing that has concerned him are my missed periods and I think that is only because he misses the reassurance that I am not preggo every month.
As a guy I will say this....If you have no interest in what is going on with your wife/girlfriend at all times and want to know every little detail....then your not really there for them at all really....maybe I am wrong, but that is the way I look at it.....If you supposedly love someone, you will be there for them and know what is going on in their lives and want to know more about every little problem/obstacle they are facing....
Same with me....
but it's not that he doesn't think that it is a big deal, I guess its more of something that he will want to know and learn more about in the future when trying to have children.
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Originally Posted by alisha327
I'm having the same problem with my boyfriend. He seems to think that it is no big deal. The only thing that has concerned him are my missed periods and I think that is only because he misses the reassurance that I am not preggo every month.
There's a "pamplet for husbands/loved ones" or something pinned on this board. It does a pretty good job explaining it. http://www.nichd.nih.gov/publication...OS_booklet.pdf here's a booklet about PCOS from the National Institute of Health... and it's actually fairly comprehensive, and its name helps.. "Beyond Infertility"... it talks about PCOS and the rest of it. It is really quite important to know what it means for things beyond getting pregnant.. like that having PCOS heightens your risks for heart attacks, heart disease, diabetes, and reproductive cancers... and one of the biggest things any of us can do to improve our condition is to keep on working on the weight loss- because studies have shown that weight loss improves nearly every symptom and aspect of the syndrome- and your DH can help you and be your cheerleader in that, if he realizes that it is important.
__________________ Diagnosed September 2008.
Current Medications:
Spironolactone (in adjustment- 100mg made me dizzy)
Metformin 2000mg
Mirena IUD- placed 8/27/09
hopefully its not that they don't care...
my guy tries to listen about it, but I don't think he is fully comforatable talking about 'womans issues' I just found out about PCOS last week...so he hasn't had a lot of time to think about it either...hopefully he gets better with it...
My husband cares, he just wants me to tell him everything and while I can do that with some stuff I don't know everything. For every one question he has, I probably have two or three. He tries to understand what is going on with my body since I had to get on metformin and prometrium but I don't think that he fully grasp the mental and emotional part of what we as women deal with. Since we are trying to get pregnant I feel it is so much more on me than him. It's all happening to me and he is just on the outside of it. I feel like since it's not his body he isn't ever going to fully comprehend it. I love him and he loves me, that's the important part and I know that he will help any way he can.
Had the same problem with my DH. We're just now this month ttc. And I told him that it could take a long time. He says "just go to the doctor and get it fixed". I think men don't really want to feel helpless and that's why he is disinterested and because at this point it's not affecting him or what he wants. I'd print something off for him and leave it in a place he'll run into it. He'll probably read it (even though he won't admit it). Maybe it'll give him some insight into what's going on and that it's an everyday struggle for you.
With my DH, I just gave him a little information over time. And one day I just sat him down for a talk. It really helped. It actually made us a lot closer for him to understand what we're going through. I think that is something men forget the "us" part. Maybe you just need to remind him.
My husband just yells at me tells me i am delusional and that pcos is all in my head. I want to start trying for kids early because of all the challenges us cysters often face with that and he claims there is no reason to because pcos is nothing and I don't even have it. He wants to wait a few years until he parties and travels. He just yells at me and says I am crazy everytime I try to bring it up. Any advice?
My husband just yells at me tells me i am delusional and that pcos is all in my head. I want to start trying for kids early because of all the challenges us cysters often face with that and he claims there is no reason to because pcos is nothing and I don't even have it. He wants to wait a few years until he parties and travels. He just yells at me and says I am crazy everytime I try to bring it up. Any advice?
My advice? Dont have kids with him. If he, 1. YELLS AT YOU and 2. SAYS THOSE THINGS TO YOU, I'd say that's two good reasons not have have kids with him. Wake up honey. Life is tooo short.
Any ideas on some help with DH? 
