Anyone else make this mistake???

SABTeacher · 09-22-2005, 06:59 PM

When I was pregnant for the first time it never crossed my mind that I might miscarry. Nobody I knew miscarried, so why would I? Well, I jumped the gun a bit and signed up for stuff that I am still getting to this day. For example, I subscribed to Parenting magazine. Here I am 11 months and 2 miscarriages later, and I'm still getting this stupid magazine every month to remind me of what I lost.

On top of that, my mother was so excited when we first got pregnant. She insisted on taking me out for my first maternity outfit. I was only 8 weeks pregnant, but I happily went along with that. Now, I have a maternity outfit in my closet that I look at all the time. We bought the outfit at Motherhood, and they must've sent my info along to other mailing lists. I keep getting Infamil formula coupons and samples sent in the mail! I also keep getting coupons from Baby's R US and other places. It's driving me MAD!!!

I feel like every week or two, I get another reminder of my miscarriages and the fact that I have no children. Does anyone else have this problem?

Shari

enits · 09-22-2005, 07:14 PM

Well, I didn't sign up for anything. I was going to, but I started having problems early on that preventing me from enjoying my first pregnancy from the very beginning. A friend of mine signed me up at Baby's R Us' coupon mailing list. It's annoying. I still get some of their stuff. *sigh* I wish she hadn't done that. First of all, I don't like being on someone's mailing list. Second of all, I didn't really want to sign up for any baby stuff.

Shari, can you contact Parenting Magazine to unsubscribe?

mystik817 · 09-22-2005, 08:49 PM

I signed up at pregnancy.com or babycenter.com or some website like that, and I get emails once a month or so about birth or infant facts etc. Its all because I signed up as a member to read up on fertility issues about 9 months ago and now they think I should have conceived and be close to delovery. I also get a Babies R Us catalog from time to time, which I dont know why because Ive never signed upfor that . I think its a cruel joke someone has played on me sometimes. I almost bought a maternity outfit my last pg because I was told after my first m/c my only problem was progesterone so I was on supplements and thought nothing would go wrong... I hate false hope. Anyways, your not alone. Most of us have those reminders adn I know I just have to get past them one at a time.
((HUGS))

JuliannePCOS · 09-22-2005, 09:37 PM

I kept getting emails from some sort of baby site and I emailed them and asked them to take me off the list because I m/c. They wanted me to confirm that it was really me watching to cancel it?? I was like...who the heck would lie about something like that??

They did take me off their list.

SABTeacher · 09-22-2005, 11:27 PM

Glad to see I'm not the only one. I know I should call these places and ask them to stop sending me these things, but I just haven't had the time or energy to do so. I also wonder how much of me is just hopeful that the stuff will come in handy one of these days.

SheriKCMO · 09-22-2005, 11:39 PM

I still get stuff about my toddler who was never to be a toddler. I don't know when it will stop. I even got a form letter from the governor congratulating me on the birth as if she survived. It was too emotionally exhausting to deal with reality... I didn't have anything left to do anything about the samples and coupons. I just cried and quickly put them away.

saluki_fan · 09-23-2005, 12:35 AM

I went overboard buying clothing the first time around. It really sucked to have to put it away. I never bothered to get it out for loss 2 and loss 3. It's out now, but I didn't get it out till I had to - maybe 3 weeks ago or so.

Luckily babycenter.com took me off their email list very quickly and easily, and I hadn't signed up for other emails.

Right around my due date (about a month before) I got samples of formula in the mail. That was HORRIBLE, I cried (the fact I took Clomid that morning didn't help.) I did not throw it away though, I didn't want to waste it. Later in the spring, the local Girl Scout troop was doing a personal-items drive for a local women's shelter and I donated it to their drive.

Also, with the formula coupons, I just post on the Mommy Board with what kind they are and how much they are worth and say "First to PM me can have them, I'll mail them to you." That way I feel like I'm helping others a bit.

JuliannePCOS · 09-23-2005, 01:26 AM

I get the formula samples, the diaper samples, the rice cereal samples, the Parenting magazines, etc etc.

Gnzls924 · 09-23-2005, 01:37 AM

well Jcpenny keeps emailing me baby furniture stuff because i ordered 2 pairs of maternity pants from them...Just 2 pairs!!! Babycenter.com was quick to take me off of their mailing list. When I indicated the reason why, they went so far as to offer resources for dealing with my loss. I thought that was nice.

enits · 09-23-2005, 01:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Gnzls924

well Jcpenny keeps emailing me baby furniture stuff because i ordered 2 pairs of maternity pants from them...Just 2 pairs!!!

Oh how can I forget about good ole JC Penney? I ordered a couple of maternity pants from them as well! They've been sending me catalogs on baby stuff as well. I just automatically chuck 'em. Right now I don't feel any pain when I see stuff like that in the mail. I hope I'm not becoming too cold or too stoic to care.

~Traci~ · 09-23-2005, 01:55 AM

I still get things b/c I should have a toddler right now. At first DH was hiding everything from me but now he gives things to me. It definately doesn't bother me now as much as it used to b/c it started a couple years ago, I've had time to "adjust" to the constant mail (which has gotten a lot less than it used to be).

{{{{HUGS}}}}
Traci

saluki_fan · 09-23-2005, 11:56 AM

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Babycenter.com was quick to take me off of their mailing list. When I indicated the reason why, they went so far as to offer resources for dealing with my loss. I thought that was nice.

I forgot to mention that. When I cancelled my email subscription, they asked why, and when I checked the box that said "I had a miscarriage / pregnancy / infant loss" they came back with additional links and resources. That was very nice. "Props" to babycenter.com for being compassionate!

Mustard Seed · 09-23-2005, 12:07 PM

I get some stuff in the mail, and through email too. Yesterday I got a Babies 'R Us magazine, and I have no idea why, since I didn't sign up for it. But I did sign up for email newsletters through babycenter.com (I think it was that one...), and I got one this week telling me all about the 13th week. GRRR. I just got on their website and found where I could contact them, and wrote a note saying to take me off their mailing list because I m/c and didn't need to be reminded of where my pregnancy would be each week. I guess it was my fault though for signing up for that, but it still made me a little mad/annoyed.

I signed up for 12 free issues of American Baby back in January, which was still a month before I even stopped taking the bcp. But DH and I knew we wanted to start trying in February. Well, here I am 7 months later still getting their magazines. For the first month on clomid when I only ovulated on it, and now since the m/c, I've just put the magazines into a drawer and not even looked at them when they came. I still holding out hope that I shouldn't throw them away just yet... but I don't want to look through them either.

SABTeacher · 09-23-2005, 02:20 PM

Alenna--That's what I've been doing with the Parenting Mag. I just keep piling them up in a closet. I don't even look at them when they come. I figure that I'll be able to enjoy them one day.

Meghan and Diana--How nice that those companies offered resources to support you when they found out about your losses. At least they were being helpful.

On a similar note, don't you worry when a friend or colleague announces their pregnancy really really early? I always kept mine a secret. When I was pregnant the 2nd time, there was another teacher at work due around the same time. She told everyone immediately! I was so worried for her, but I didn't say anything. Luckily, she carried to term, but I always worry for those people who share their news with the world...especially when 20% of pregnancies end in m/c.

Shari

GabrielsMom · 09-23-2005, 02:39 PM

I signed up for everything. EVERYTHING. Once I got into the second tri, I was so confident that I went to every baby-related website I could find and signed up for their mailing lists. Needless to say, I still get a lot of things in the mail. Usually, I'm okay with it. I guess I just developed a thick skin. I don't think anyone should feel guilty if it doesn't bother them... we need to protect ourselves. I cannot break down in tears every time I see an ad, although I do sometimes. I donated all the formula I got to the local crisis pregnancy center, and that made me feel good, at least. I used to bring them the coupons as well, but as time goes on, they're less and less so I just throw them out. I keep the parenting mags in a pile, like some of you do. I WILL read them again, someday.

Back in Nov or Dec, I packed up all of my pregnancy stuff, including maternity clothes, books and magazines, baby clothes, diaper bag, etc. I put them all in a tote and put it in the attic, so I don't have to see this stuff all the time. It's sort of like a time capsule. I told DH that the next time I get pregnant, we'll take it out as part of our celebration. I hope it won't be too much longer....