One way that I "test" guys is that the first time I decide it's the right time to make out with someone I've been dating, I tell them "Just so you know, I've got a beard". I'm so forward and up-front about it, they're more caught off guard by my apparent lack of self-consciousness rather than the fact I have facial hair. The "keepers" are the ones that either shrug and say "Whatever!" or challenge me to a who-has-the-thicker-beard contest.
I agree completely with you about being up-front about the fact of having a beard and also with describing it as a beard. And the sort that will challenge you to a beard-growing competition are the ones who you know will enjoy having their relation with you enhanced by something you'll share with them that other girls can't. Have any of them offered to shave your face yet?
this is a great post. when i was in high school (i'm now 25) my mom and i actually sat down and discussed how we would pluck eachothers chins if we were ever in the hospital.
YES!! I didn't read through all of the posts, but I used to obsess about this. My friend and I have a deal that we will take care of eachother's face in the hospital.
Also, I always wonder if they are allowed to secretly bring tweezers on Survivor!!!
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It is so funny that I found this board and read this thread. I told my mother not a month ago that I want a baby, but I'm terrified of being in the hospital with flourescent lighting because of my hairy face. She thought I was crazy. I told my dr. this too and I also got a blank stare. I guess unless you've been through it, you wouldn't understand how big of a deal it is or how it can affect a person's daily life.
i worry about this too! i am just hoping that i don't end up in that situation before i get laser now that my doctor says it *should* work after the spiro kicks in for a couple of months (we'll see that when it happens, lol). otherwise, i hope that it doesn't bother the kind hospital staff when i or my mom ask them to take care of this for me.
I had no idea anyone else worried about these things!!! It's such a relief to find I'm not alone! I do think about what would happen if I was temporarily unable to care for myself and everyone would find out my "secret".
I consider myself a fairly low maintenance girl, but I find myself spending more and more time in the bathroom every morning trimming before I consider myself presentable. I'm even starting to wear foundation in an effort to conceal stubbley hairs. I'm an affectionate person, but can't stand it when anyone gets too close to my face and inwardly squirm when my 2 year old niece rubs her soft hand against my prickley chin and giggles.
I would love to be able to have a close photograph taken without being terrified that a trace of my facial hair will be apparent or to be kissed by my hubby without the fear that a few stray hairs will ruin the moment.
I consider myself a fairly low maintenance girl, but I find myself spending more and more time in the bathroom every morning trimming before I consider myself presentable.
Trimming? As with scissors?
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I'm even starting to wear foundation in an effort to conceal stubbley hairs. I'm an affectionate person, but can't stand it when anyone gets too close to my face and inwardly squirm when my 2 year old niece rubs her soft hand against my prickley chin and giggles.
She obviously feels your bristles and knows. There are few secrets from kids. But she doesn't dislike it or she wouldn't giggle. To her, it's just part of being you that you've got a bristly chin.
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I would love to be able to have a close photograph taken without being terrified that a trace of my facial hair will be apparent or to be kissed by my hubby without the fear that a few stray hairs will ruin the moment.
He undoubtedly knows as well and he'll love you because you're you. If it bothers you, get a good-quality men's-type electric razor. It's a whole lot closer than trimming. If your beard growth is bristly, then it's the simple answer.
I have been using a small pair of sewing shears over the last few years to trim close to my chin (as well as plucking ) as I have always heard that a razor could make stubble grow in thicker or darker. Perhaps I've been miss-informed???
I have been very blessed with a loving hubby, niece and others. Sometimes my self consciousness gets the better of me. As I get older, I do find myself becoming more confident in who I am and the way I have been made. There are those moments, however, when it gets the best of me. I still cringe when I go to the dentist for a cleaning and think of them being so close to my face under those horrible lights and I refuse to have a facial or to have my makeup done at a department store counter for fear of the looks I'll get. Flourescent lights are my enemy!
I have been using a small pair of sewing shears over the last few years to trim close to my chin (as well as plucking ) as I have always heard that a razor could make stubble grow in thicker or darker. Perhaps I've been miss-informed???
I have been very blessed with a loving hubby, niece and others. Sometimes my self consciousness gets the better of me. As I get older, I do find myself becoming more confident in who I am and the way I have been made. There are those moments, however, when it gets the best of me. I still cringe when I go to the dentist for a cleaning and think of them being so close to my face under those horrible lights and I refuse to have a facial or to have my makeup done at a department store counter for fear of the looks I'll get. Flourescent lights are my enemy!
Perhaps I am being too hard on myself???
You're undoubtedly being far too hard on yourself.
Shaving is no different from cutting, except it's much closer to the skin. It doesn't increase hair growth. You'd probably find a good men's-type electric razor a whole lot less hassle.
I used to really worry about it until i was ill in hospital for a week the nurses were lovely and helped me as much as they could to make me feel better about myself and also help me to the loo to remove my facial hair
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Suzanne- That was very nice of the nurses to help you! I'm glad you had a good experience. Perhaps there's hope for me after all!
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I was in the hospital back in 2002 with really bad pneumonia well i was in and out of sleep almost constantly because of how high the fever was.. well my Mother who KNEW better that the hair on my face embarrassed me left it to grow.. 14 days later.. when I was up and around and feeling better I made the mistake of looking in the mirror for the first time.. lo and behold there I was with a beard some men would be jealous of.. and in a hospital room FULL of florescent lights. The realization crept in of all the people who had seen me friends that had come by the visit me while I was ill. I did not speak to my Mother for 6 months. Luckily soon to be hubby knows better
I used to really worry about it until i was ill in hospital for a week the nurses were lovely and helped me as much as they could to make me feel better about myself and also help me to the loo to remove my facial hair
Glad that you had help. It's quite routine in a lot of hospitals. More so, if the ward is a mixed ward. On wards where the ward (not necessarily the room!) is mixed they'll almost certainly have electric razors available.
