Anyone have trouble holding down a job???

preciousmoment03 · 01-15-2003, 08:20 AM

I haven't posted or even been on this site regularly in a long while. I guess I've just had a lot going on. Anyway, I just lost my job yesterday and for good reason. I can't seem to hold down a job...I'm always calling in sick. I hurt all the time, and my emotional state is shoot. My doctor put me on lexapro the other day because of my depression. I always swore that I would never take antidepressants because I thought it was all in my head....well, that changed in a hurry...I was desperate to try anything.

My husband tries to be understanding of my situation and what I'm going through, but I know he is getting fed up with me not being able to hold down a job.

Does anyone have and advice???

Is anyone else going through this???

Amanda

Chalex · 01-17-2003, 06:01 PM

Hi Preciousmoment03,

I too, have a hard time working.
I'm gung-ho at first then something happens to make me dread going. Sometimes I'm in a great mood and then suddenly a problem arises and I snap. I just don't seem to be able to let things roll off my back like others. I wonder why my co-workers aren't effected by the same things and I feel like a horrible freak of nature. I'm now looking for a part time position. At my last job, I felt alot better working only a few days per week. Maybe it's because I had a longer 'recovery time'?

I've tried many different jobs & still haven't found one I've loved. I'm jealous of people who know what they want to do and do it.

I was on Paxil for a bit but I found that it only made me sleepy. Not good.

Take Care & know that you aren't alone.

sunnier · 01-17-2003, 08:43 PM

hi,
your not alone preciousmoments i too have trouble at work, thank god so far at this job i have been her 1 1/2 years, most jobs i have held have been for a year and than i end up slipping back into obessing and negative thoughts which interfere with my performance.

i had a question, does anyone know someone who had concieved while taking anti-depressants and the baby came out fine.

CTCyster · 01-22-2003, 01:51 AM

I have not had a job in almost 3 years (how depressing, huh?... LOL). I have been fighting a PCOS/Anxiety/Depression battle the whole time and even though we really *could* use the money- the thought of going back out there scares the crap out of me. I had two very bad experiences one right after the other at two different jobs. I am afraid that if I go back to work and have another experience like the ones I have had that I just won't be able to recover.

Good thing I went to college, huh? I mean, sure, I have a degree- but really it's just a stupid piece of paper- not worth very much. Unfortunately, the folks who issue student loans don't really care whether or not I am employed- they still send that nice big bill every month to remind me that I owe them lots and lots of money. I am just thankful DH has a good job and is supportive of me. I know I have a lot to be thankful for.

Hang in there, cyster!
*Aimee*

elainemay · 01-23-2003, 08:44 AM

Hang in there sister! For Aimee, I have a question, do you think it is safe to take prozac and rivotril and metformin and progesterone at the same time. Pls. help

CTCyster · 01-23-2003, 03:48 PM

Elainemay-

I am really not sure about that med combo- I would advise that you check with your docs (if you are seeing more than one who prescribe different meds) to see if they are all compatible with each other.

I myself take Metformin and Wellbutrin xr as well as a bunch of other meds together and have never had a problem. But different meds react in different ways, so I'd strongly suggest you check in with the docs to make sure.

Sorry I couldn't be of more help- let us all know what th doc(s) say.

*Aimee*

ecaryn · 01-26-2003, 05:51 AM

Now this is only a suggestion, may not seem to appealing to everyone. I have been working as a hotel auditor for 3 years now (longest I have ever held the same job). I think the reason it has been so easy for me to maintain is because I work at night by myself. (It's not one bit scary either). Alot of the pressures of the job are relieved when you dont have eccentric or even annoying coworkers to deal with. Even better when you dont have your boss there to breath over your shoulder. It is an all night graveyard shift though so its not for everyone as I said. You do the accounting and audit work for the hotel, nothing to complicated. There is usually a choice of 2-3 nights per week for part-time work so you wouldnt have to be there alot. Pay is reasonable and no experience other than basic office and bookkeeping skills is required. And when I am feeling depressed or blah working at night in the dark is a blessing. Much easier to hide that way.

georgialady39 · 02-05-2003, 04:22 PM

What about trying to do something home based or starting your own business? Maybe if you feel your doing it for yourself instead of your boss it might make you more motivated. I had my own home daycare for a few years and I loved it. I was forced to go back to a "regular job" when my ex-dh decided to take a permanant vacation. I would love to do something like that again and probably will when my circumstances allow it. It's good for your self esteem I think.....because you are accomplishing something on your own.

puffin2424 · 02-05-2003, 04:43 PM

I thought I was the only one haveing that problem.It has been3 months since my last job,I have never held a job much over a year.It's verry frustrating because I wan't to work.My problem is I do real well for 3 or 4 monthes and then something happens to make me wan't to leave.After I leave a job I usually don't wan't another for a good two monthes ,then comes the battle of finding another job.

curlygrrl · 02-12-2003, 12:29 PM

I've been at the same job for three years but I don't know how much longer...I'm screwing up left and right because I can't concentrate or remember anything. I've been calling in sick a lot more too, I just can't face it sometimes.

Today, I'm going to see a Dr about antidpressants today, I hate medicine but I don't want to turn my back on something that might help me break free from this!

((hugs)) to you!

Tamara

sweeterthenmost · 02-12-2003, 04:03 PM

Tamara
Just wanted to tell u I feel for u...I have been in ur shoes more then once...its so frustrating..seemed in my case the more I wanted to do better at work, the more I tried to concentrate and do a good job, the worse I did!! The 3 year mark seemed to be the point at which things would start going wrong for me and I would either get so frustrated and quit or get fired =(
Its tough I know......hang in there and I will be pulling for u

preciousmoment03 · 02-13-2003, 02:53 AM

Well, it's part-time, but that's a start.

I am a nurse so I will be working in a nursing home a few days a week and then possibly go to full time later on.

I am so happy!!! I was actually starting to get a little bored sitting around the house.

I think this will work out though. I appreciate everyone's advice.

Thanks.

Amanda

stefstef · 02-13-2003, 09:49 PM

Come March 15th Im going part-time at my longest held full time job 1.5 years :o . I work at a dermatologist office and its extremely crazy!!! My DH use to say I dont give a job enough time to see if it will get better. With this job though Ive finally got my DH to believe its really bad lol. Im begining to believe the only way Ill ever be happy is if i start my own business but then I will just find a way to annoy myself lol

suzisk8 · 02-14-2003, 01:30 AM

I know the feeling! The longest my jobs have been is 2 yrs. And right now I am self destructing again! This week has been hell for me and I don't want to talk to anyone. But my big boss is so cool about everything. So we will see if I have a job anymore. I am feeling a little better and comming to the boards and chat room here are helping a lot, I will keep everyone updated! But even if I don't get this job back, I am going back into coaching ice skating. The skating director offered my job back to me so I am happy about that. Plus hubby is going back to his old trucking company that pays really well and has excellent benefits. But all I do have to say is thank God for such a wonderful, understanding hubby!

FLALATINA · 02-14-2003, 05:14 PM

Last year in may i had quit my job that i had been at for almost 3yrs, i was making alot of money but i was so depressed. Since then i have had 3 jobs. Each of them i start out all pump up and then once i call out one day it is over. I no longer want to work there. My boyfriend is getting frustrated with me. I'm having to ask my parents for money. Is not me. I feel out of control. Like i'm living in someone else's body. I've gain so much weight that when i start new jobs i can't tell they treat me differently. If you call out sick they want to know what is wrong with. Like i want to go into the story of PCOS. I didnt' use to fill like this. Before PCOS i wasn't depressed and I always went to work. But now I don't want to work. I want to stay home take care of my house, boyfriend and I want to be pregnant. I guess when i start a new job all i can think about is all i want for my life and how i'm not getting it there. It is hopeless. I have giving into this feeling out now way out when i comes to a job or this PCOS thing.