Anyone Isn't Intrested In Fertility Right Now Like Me, But Has Pcos??

ASHLYCOCHRAN · 02-24-2005, 12:51 AM

JUST WONDERING IF ANYONE ELSE JUST HAS PCOS AND TRYING TO GET IT UNDER CONTROL OR JUST HELP SOMEONE OUT. I DO NOT WANT TO THINK OF FERTILITY PROBLEMS RIGHT NOW. THAT IS ALL THAT I CAN SEEM TO FIND. IF SO PLEASE E-MAIL ME. ASHELIZFL@AOL.COM

vancouverNicole · 02-24-2005, 03:33 AM

im not ttc, and its true that it is hard to find resources that arnt directed at ttc sometimes, but there are tons of us on here who are more concerened with other ssymptoms right now

Chaque · 02-24-2005, 04:09 AM

I am also not currently trying to concieve.

I have been married for almost 5 years and while we arent ttc, we havent been using protection. I also had a boyfriend in college that I was with for about 4 years. There were many times that we didnt use protection. I always sorta took it for granted in college, but after being married for 4+ years, I started to get concerned about it and the possibilities of not being able to get pregnant in the future if/when I wanted to.

I had gained ~100 lbs in a very short amount of time, with not much change in eating habbits. I finally went to the doctor and he ran all the normal tests and diagnosed me this past Novement. I started Met in November and will be starting birth control next month.

So, no... you arent the only one trying to get everything under control, while not trying to get pregnant.

I have been reading this board since November and while there are a large majority trying to concieve, there are plenty of us who are just trying to get all the other symptons under control.

malcat22 · 02-24-2005, 10:10 AM

thank heavens, someone else asking the same question. my friends can't understand why i'm worried about getting treatment for pcos when i'm young free and single and certainly NOT trying to concieve, good to know someone else is in the same boat.
feel free to e-mail me at malissa_mcwilliams@hotmail.com
malissa

OrangeDaisy · 02-24-2005, 01:52 PM

I'm single and past the age where I would want to have children. I did want them earlier in life, but my love life just never worked out so that I was blessed with them. I assume that is God's intention for my life. He's obviously got something else in mind for me, so I've accepted it. I just want to be healthy (PCOS is a health risk - diabetes, heart disease, etc.) and feel more feminine (lose weight, control the excess hair, quit losing hair on my head, get my complexion under control). There's plenty written on these boards by those of us who are not TTC, with our gripes about what we all have to deal with and great ideas for managing PCOS through diet, exercise and meds. There are boards set up just for those TTC, and I don't go to those boards. Sometimes the issues intermingle, and wind up on all the boards, but that's OK. Most people don't dwell on TTC on a non-TTC board.

cyster christy · 02-24-2005, 04:42 PM

Pssst..hey check your e-mail.:p

Moza · 02-25-2005, 06:37 AM

I'm still waiting for an official diagnosis of PCOS, but neither myself not my partner want kids. We never have done. It gets annoying when people, including my sis-in-law who is 10 years my junior, give me that condescending smile, and say "Oh you'll change your mind." Er, no, I won't. If I don't want kids by 32, then I think that's that. I love other people's kids, just don't want my own!

The main reason I want to get my PCOS under control is my weight and health. I've always been big, and it's never really bothered my before, but I put on about 40lb in the past couple of years, making me my heaviest yet, and *now* it's starting to get me down. On top of that, I'm a beauty therapist, and although it doesn't physically affect my job, some people tend to make judgements about me and my abilities based on my appeareance/weight.

Shiphrah · 02-25-2005, 10:30 AM

I'm 34 (nearly 35) and single...and I really don't see a husband and children in my future.

I just want to be healthy and feel pretty. I'm soooo tired of feeling that there is something wrong with me, and hating the way I look, and just not feeling "like a girl."

I wonder sometimes if my life could have been different if I'd known about PCOS years ago. I was having symptoms when I was quite young, and by the time I was 16 I was tested for thyroid and blood sugar problems. But the doctors couldn't figure out what was wrong with me, so I just ignored it.

And I wonder sometimes if there really was a man I was supposed to meet and fall in love with...and children I was supposed to mother...and my totally whacked-out, confused body made me miss all that.

But I have to quote OrangeDaisy, "I assume that is God's intention for my life. He's obviously got something else in mind for me, so I've accepted it." That's all I can do.

eternal · 02-26-2005, 02:24 PM

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I'm single and past the age where I would want to have children. I did want them earlier in life, but my love life just never worked out so that I was blessed with them. I assume that is God's intention for my life. He's obviously got something else in mind for me, so I've accepted it. I just want to be healthy.

Amen, and amen! You are singing my very song..
I just hope that I am truly accepting all this like I think I am

disintegration · 02-26-2005, 02:31 PM

Maybe someday but at 26 I am so totally not interested in TTC. As a matter of fact, I take great steps not to get pregnant! I eventually want to have kids, just not in my plans right now. There is a ton of information here for the non-TTC girl....try to search function!

MyBagelhasBunions · 02-28-2005, 03:57 PM

I sympathize, I'm happily childfree and intend to stay that way, and this is most frustrating with having PCOS. 99% of all resources I've found have been "Have PCOS? Want to concieve? No problem! Follow these 10 easy steps!" etc.

I've also had trouble finding a Dr who will treat me. "Oh, well if you're not TTC, then you don't need to worry about Tx." or "Come back when you're trying to get pregnant."

Maddening, isn't it?

Vlal · 03-01-2005, 12:19 PM

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Originally posted by MyBagelhasBunions

I've also had trouble finding a Dr who will treat me. "Oh, well if you're not TTC, then you don't need to worry about Tx." or "Come back when you're trying to get pregnant."

Maddening, isn't it?

It really is so stupid that drs take that attitude!! I am not ttc either. I am not married and even if I was I wouldn't want a child right now. I am just not sorted out enough with the PCOS and my other health problems to be able to take care of someone else!! I really want to improve my PCOS symptoms so that I feel better about my body and feel more healthy so that if and when I do want to ttc then I am at a good starting point.

Vicky-Louise

Bethann · 03-01-2005, 12:36 PM

I'm Child Free, and was told for 4 years, by 3 seperate doctors that I didn't need to worry about my PCOS until I wanted to conceive, that it didn't pose any health problems for me, etc. This attitude makes me very angry, whether you're actively trying to conceive, waiting for later, or never want children, your health should be of extreme importance to your doctor.

What worked for me, was finding an endocrinologist who works mostly with diabetics and PCOS patients. My first appointment, she asked me if I would like to TTC in the future, I said no, and she hasn't brought it up since. My GP, on the other hand, keeps trying to convince me to have kids (I know, I need to find another GP) which infuriates me.

Vlal · 03-01-2005, 01:39 PM

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Originally posted by Bethann
My GP, on the other hand, keeps trying to convince me to have kids (I know, I need to find another GP) which infuriates me.

That's just WRONG!!! Who do they think they are to tell you something like that?? Actually a doctor said that to my mum before she had children... kept saying that she must be depressed because she was in excrutiating pain... and that she was either depressed about her relationship or because she didn't have children. Turned out she had a rare bone tumour fused between two bones in her ankle!!!

tariana · 03-01-2005, 02:05 PM

Not sure if I'll be welcome here as I am in somewhat of a different situation... I am married and very much want to be TTC but we can't for financial reasons. So while we are not TTC I would like to be. Do I count here? I feel as I'm somewhat in the middle.