Anyone waiting on RPL testings before TTC again?

mystik817 · 09-29-2005, 12:06 AM

I posted this on the TTC, but didn't get much response. Maybe there are more of us on this board. Thanks.

I have a specialist appointment on Monday because my old OBGYN doesnt think she can help me after two m/c. Both were on Clomid cycles.
I was just wondering if anyone else was on hold for TTC because of m/c and were awaiting testing before trying again.

I hope there isnt too many of us,,, but also that someone can relate. All the 'should we shouldnt we' questions, the pain of missing angels but the pain of not knowing if we can try again, feeling O pains and wondering if we are wasting a good egg, etc. (these are just a few thoughts that are running through my mind)

kwannabee · 09-29-2005, 10:32 AM

I dont have alot of experience with this but you should talk to Angeleyes1975 and i think maybe Salukifan...they'd have alot of info about this.

good luck

SABTeacher · 09-29-2005, 11:23 AM

I had my 2nd m/c in April and have been on hold since then. My OB/GYN also sent me to a specialist after the second m/c because she felt it was out of her expertise now. I wasn't able to get an RE appointment until June, and the testing has been going on since then. We have tested for everything including anatomical issues, chromosomal, hormonal, male factor, immunilogical/blood clotting, and general medical (e.g., thyroid, diabetes). I made a choice to take a break while this was going on and I'm so glad I did. We found out that I have some of the blood clotting issues, and if I was to keep trying without treatment, I'd probably just keep miscarrying. Now, we're just finishing up testing with a hematologist (blood doctor) so that he can put me on the right treatment plan. At this point, I'm not planning to try again until after the new year.

For me, the choice to wait was necessary because I could not physically or emotionally go through another m/c after having 2 within 5 months. I want to make sure that I do everything in my power to make my next pregnancy stick. Everyone has to do what's best for them.

best wishes to you!
Shari

Mustard Seed · 09-29-2005, 01:50 PM

Misty - I've only just gone through my first m/c, so we aren't having any testing done and we are hoping to ttc again soon, but I just wanted to tell you that you're in my thoughts. I hope your appointment on Monday goes well, and I'm glad you didn't have to wait too long for that. Sorry I can't be too helpful with any information about testing... I hope you get some more answers soon! {{hugs}}

Kristina921 · 09-29-2005, 02:38 PM

I had my third m/c in July and I finally got my first AF. I was on hold but now I am thinking of trying again...We did all the immune and clotting blood work and it was all normal. I am waiting to go for an HSG. You are not alone

I was actually thinking of waiting another cycle or 2 but I'm so torn between wanting to and the fear of another loss...

jennyp72 · 09-29-2005, 03:35 PM

Misty~ My heart goes out to you, and I was where you are exactly 2 years ago. I had my 2nd loss the end of Sept and they found an ectopic twin a week later the 1st week of Oct 2003, and I was for sure that this was a terrible sign for our future. We took all of Oct. off for the ectopic to be resolved with Methatrexate and then did the tests for chomosomal deficits, clotting, etc in November. All were normal, which I am told, is common. I had to O for the biopsy, and was too afraid to try for a pg with so much in the air. RE decided to do another (my 3rd) HSG, with endometrial biopsy, laprascopy, and hysteroscopy and while we tried for December, I got pneumonia the week before sx, and the injectable cycle was wasted,a s I still refused to try an IUI until I got a better picture of the problem. Just like you said, I wanted to move, but was too afaid of another loss. We did the injections in January 2004and I had surgery, finding a shifted luteal phase as the only culprit. They increased by p4 support for the cycle in March 2004, and I have an amazing little man. It CAN happen. You aren't alone. Best wishes, jennifer

saluki_fan · 09-29-2005, 04:27 PM

I had my 3rd loss in early March and couldn't get in to see my RE till April 6th. We chose to "not prevent" in March using Metformin only, but nothing happened. I confess I was a bit relieved that nothing happened, especially since my RE wanted to do a hysteroscopy on me and couldn't have done that if we had conceived that month.

We went the same route in April - "not preventing" on Metformin only - and it did happen that month. My bloodwork results had come back on 4/18, so they told me "just go ahead and start taking baby aspirin now." That may be what saved Quattro, in retrospect. I O'd on 4/24 (according to my charts) but we only BD'd once that could have resulted in this PG, unless DH had a freakezoid sperm that lived 7 days or something. (We only time we BD'd within range was the day of ovulation.) I had PG symptoms starting at 3 or 4 DPO (sore chest) but denied it was possible. I ignored it and just said "No way." But luckily I kept up w/the baby aspirin. Another cyster (Stillhavehope - a shout out to her, because she may have saved the baby's life) insisted that I had an implantation dip on my chart at 8 DPO. Our RE's follow-up appointment (to discuss test results, treatment, and TTC plans) took place on 5/5 at 11 DPO. While at the appointment, I mentioned that my chest hurt and a gal on my online boards thought I had an implantation dip, showed him my chart, and he drew blood for a beta "just in case." We were happy but shocked and scared when it came back + and started the heparin shots that night.

Traci (angeleyes_1975) had advised me to wait on TTC till the RPL testing process was over. I know she was right, especially because the hysteroscopy couldn't have been done if I were PG, but I chose to take a risk and "not prevent" instead. I admit that was a mistake to do that in March, and it's for the best that nothing happened. Since we got the test results back in mid-April and I hadn't O'd yet, I wasn't as worried about conceiving in that cycle, but I was still sore from the hysteroscopy and wasn't really in the mood to BD. And we had just figured we'd go back to actively TTC in May. Guess this one is a combination of luck and fate...

mystik817 · 09-29-2005, 04:48 PM

Thanks Ladies.
Salukifan gave me a few websites that I found really helpful. I have alot of ?s to ask my new doc... hope he isnt shy!

Shari- Im sorry for your losses. Im with you about the waiting though. Back to back m/c is hard enough... one more might have brokened the camels back ya know. I hope your only issue is the blood clotting problem. Like SalukiFan said, there is hope... she is proof.

Aleena- Deepest sympathies for your loss. I remember what my first loss did to me... I was a mess. I hope you find strength in this time of weakness.

Kristina- I totally understand being torn between the should we shouldnt we. Its a hard decision. I hope you make the one that is right for you.

Jennifer- I cried when I read the end of your story. You and Saluki give me hope when I feel I have none.

Saluki- again thank you. You are a wealth of knowledge that we all need. Im glad I found your wisdom and support!

If we get all the testing done before the holidays and find out we can treat whatever, if anything, the problem is, I know I will be ready to start again... Im so inpatient! But I have to consider DH. He has taken this hard too, and thinks he cant show his emotions because he has to be strong for me. So now, I have to be strong for him and make sure he is ready to TTC again,,,, even if that means waiting.

jennyp72 · 09-29-2005, 07:35 PM

You seem to have such a good attitude about your future, you just need a little prompt from us to stay that way!! I agree with keeping DH on the same page. Men are sometimes so hard to read and get to share their feelings, and I know Ian (my DH) hated to see what the losses did to me. But we talked a lot and I knew he was Ok with going ahead when we did. Hugs, again, jennifer

mystik817 · 09-29-2005, 09:09 PM

My DH, Gary, is getting better at letting out his emotions... I blame his Mom lol. His whole family doesn't express their feelings. After the first loss he said he was upset with God, and at first didnt really act any different than before we concieved. I grieved immediately, crying, whailing, etc. For about two weeks I would cry at the drop of the hat... a pampers commercial would set me off. About two weeks later, when I was almost over the worst of the emotional fit, something happened at work and his committment to his family and work was called out.

He is in the Army and his Sgt asked him "which is more important, soldiers or families"... he stated "family" and was told "thats not correct, soldiers always come first". Well this was just after my m/c, he didnt let his command know we were pg or m/c so they didnt know and he was asked to take a soldier for a docs appt two hours away, it was on a day I was sick and couldnt get out of bed and he tried to get out of it. Hence why is command asked him "soldiers or family". Anyways, he came home in tears and thats when it hit him how much he wanted this child and how hard we had been working for it. This is when I think he started to greive.

The second m/c we knew was going to happen. The BETAs were low again and the doc told us we were going to loose it and to stop the progesterone so I would start bleeding. The innocence was already gone, so maybe that made it easier.... I still went through hell... emotional as can be... but this time Gary went hunting the weekend after I m/c and that seemed to help him come to term with it. Funny how guys deal with things.

So thats how we got here... afraid a third m/c would break our hope, we have decided to wait for testing. I have found alot of support, hope, adn inspiration here. Thats why I respect all of you... its sad way to get to know one another, but I am glad I know you now.

SABTeacher · 09-30-2005, 11:17 AM

Misty,

You are in the exact same place as I was about 4 or 5 months ago (I even have a similar situation with my DH). If you have any questions about the testing or just want to chat, please feel free to PM me. I'm no expert, but having been through two m/c's and a complete battery of recurrent miscarriage testing, I may be able to offer you some support.

Best wishes,
Shari