For those of you who foster to adopt....are you ever envious of those who get to have baby showers?
We have an 8 month old foster son with us at the moment. Almost everything we have for him, we purchased ourselves. We've had neighbors and family and friends buy him some things, but nothing like you'd see at a baby shower.
I look at it like this....at least we can get him exactly what we want him to have this way. But I always wondered...if the "arrangement" ever became permanent, would there/could there be a baby shower for him in the future?
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Honestly I sometimes wish I could enjoy that part of having a baby, I have lately stopped going to baby showers. I always send a gift but I am around several pregnant women at work and it is hard.
When we finally get to the adoption stage we are planning on having a big old party welcoming our child into our family and celebrating--I feel this will be my "baby" shower. We will probably never get the chance to adopt a baby so this is how we plan on celebrating.
If all goes well we should be celebrating real soon.
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Oh absolutely have one! When we adopted my daughter my friends threw me the biggest shower I'd ever seen much less been to and she was 3 weeks old at the time, but regardless of how old she was I would of had a shower for her or party.
Now our son is due to be born in October & my friend is wanting to throw one for him to. i told her not to worry about it and she so no we sure are because he's your son, he's a boy and because I want to. LOL
I don't see nothing wrong with it at all. Why not. It's showering you as a parent and showering him with love. I'd do it in a heart beat!
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When we adopt, there is going to be baby shower, well maybe not a baby shower but a welcome to family party! It depends on how you look at it. No matter what there is going to be a welcome party!
We didnt get one but I think thats becuz we were so excited about adopting and actually having a child that we got ahead of ourselves and bought everything ourselves...
We did have a Daddy is 30, Grampa is 50 and Welcome Aerik to the family party...but really I wanted a shower just for me I recommend having one even if you have to have it yourself ! LOL
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My family had a shower for me for Emily. It was a happy day and I wish everyone who was adopting could have one too.
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Yesterday I was talking to my sister... She said she was already in the process of planning a shower. Even though we are just in the inital stages of planning to adopt. She said she hopes to have everything planned, and then she can just pick the date.
my sister is already planning my shower.. them my MIL is planning another one for her side of the family...(yeah free stuff)
as for being a foster parent.. i dont see why you couldnt have one too.. call is a foster shower.. they could buy non gender clothes.different sizes and toys for different ages... if you have a sister.. ask her to throw you one.. be a trend starter!
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Our dd came as a fosterbaby. She was 6 weeks old. The week after she came my best friend threw a baby shower for HER. I stressed to everyone that the shower was for the baby and that anything that they bought would go with her should she leave us. Foster/Adopt is very risky and the chances that she would leave were great. She received a ton of clothes, pampers, formula, equipment, and bedding set complete w/matching lamp, wall decor and mobil. I did not even register. It pained me to look at all the things that she received knowing that I may never see her in all the clothes. I did not even open up some of the linens. 2.5 years later I can laugh and look at the wonderful pictures from the shower. One of my biggest regrets is that I feel that we should have taken more pictures of her as a baby...Take plenty of pictures of the baby. We later threw an Adoption/Baptism party inviting our families/friends a 1.5 later. Have your baby shower and enjoy! Your foster baby is a blessing and should be celebrated!
We are in the process of adopting and just waiting for our referral of our little angel from Korea! I have "heard through the grapevine" that my family is in the planning stages of a shower as well. I know they are waiting until our referall so they know specifics but I think that it is wonderful that they are doing this for us!!
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i never had a shower for Brandon, really bummed, i aws planning a welcome to the family party for him, but my mom ruined it by refusing to come if my step dad was ther, her x husband, he and his side felt bad, and didnt want to come, so i ended up cancelling the whole thing. now that i am expecting my second, she said she would have a shower for me, but i have to invite everyone and plan it. whatever
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But I always wondered...if the "arrangement" ever became permanent, would there/could there be a baby shower for him in the future?
There should be a shower, or at least a "welcome" party.
i have a friend who is adopting from Korea and I am absolutely going to have a shower for her, once she moves further along in the process. (She's filing the paperwork now, it will be at least another year.)
I think a shower is in order! Do what the other poster said and have it just for the baby with the understanding that if the babe does not stay with you, the stuff still goes with baby. If it becomes a permanent situation I would definately have a "Welcome to the family party!!"
My DH and I are fostering to adopt and when our church family found out...they had a shower for us. It was huge! We got tons of stuff that we could use right away...and some for next year (not all of it was new, but we can use it anyway) But we were very blessed that our chuch took care of our new family like this!!!
My kids are almost 2 and 3 but any age should get a "Blessing shower" like we did!
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Baby showers?? 
I recommend having one even if you have to have it yourself ! LOL
