A bad DH

AriansHubby · 04-03-2008, 05:37 PM

I don't understand why our life has to be difficult. As I have said in previous posts I haven't been the best of husbandsbut when I actualloy try it seems its still not enough.

I recently was laid off from my job Monday due to them scheduling to many workers. I was there about a month and prior to that I had been looking for a job for 3 weeks. So the bills started piling up and I didn't even make a dent in them. I recently got my last paycheck direct deposited and the phone company automatically took their due. Understandable but it has put me in a huge mess.

Financially we are about to fall so hard. I don't even have enough to buy a pack of smokes and it worries the hell out of me. I want to work on having our child and making sure Arian gets to the doctors but if I don't have the cash to go to work for something as simple as gas, what do I do? Your support would be great guys because I have no idea how to pull out of this one.

LilBitMagoo · 04-03-2008, 07:43 PM

My thing is you can't control what your company does by laying you off.The one thing you can do if you haven't already get a resume together and get up as you normally would and go look for a job. Why does buying a pack of smokes concern you so much you mention you are having financial issues. Maybe this might be a good time to stop smoking. I'm a non-smoker but that is just my opinion. I know its hard but try to stay positive.

kmc1021 · 04-03-2008, 11:53 PM

Well I tried to send a PM but I can't because I am too new.

I see you are in TN. If you live in Middle TN I could give you a couple leads on decent jobs.

AriansHubby · 04-04-2008, 01:20 AM

Wow, that is so good of you to do th is for me. Yes, we both live in Middle Tennesse, but due to our security, I won't say what city. But yes we live in the vacinity of the Nashvile, Franklin, Spring Hill, Brentwood area. All within a reasonable driving distance. So yes, you can e-mail me at redclem@bellsouth.net if you don't want to post them here.

AlenaBug · 04-05-2008, 12:29 AM

My husband has been struggling with a similar issue, so I have an inckling of how you're feeling. We got married a little over a year ago, and ever since then we've struggled financially. I became ill nine months ago, and while searching for the cause (still searching, oy!) we discovered I have PCOS and hypthyroid in January. At the same time, my husband got fired from his job, because he made the mistake of trying to find a second job, while on company hours (they'd cut him down to 16 hours a week at $7.00/hr, and he was our only income, so he panicked a little). We spent three weeks with no income at all, then he found his current job (full time custodian at a school, $10.10/hr) and we're doing better now. But we've been staying with a friend, and now we have to rent on our own again, and we simply don't have the money to get into a place! He's very stressed out and worried, and I know that us wanting to start a family, and him wanting me to be able to go to the doctor has him very worried. My heart goes out to you, as I know how hard it is on you to try and work to support your family. My dear husband gets so down about all of this, and I just try to ease his burden as I can. Remember that your wife loves you, and cling to her for support, okay?

babygirl18905 · 04-06-2008, 11:37 AM

OH BOY I completely understand where you are coming from DH and I are in the same situation right now I have been out of work for well over a year staying home with the baby he was working and I was surviving on my saving and I never realized how fast the money would really go but it's gone. anyways I started a job a month ago and they said they could not keep me because I could not work the days and hours they wanted, they wanted me to work evert Monday-friday and every other weekend uuummmm 12 days straight driving an 1-1/2 hours each way I told them I was looking for something part time I even agreed Tues-Fri and everyother weekend but it still was not enough for them so now DH and I have been fighting and arguing like crazy about money I can't just let my son stay with someone 11-12 hours aday I want something more stable not going to work at 6:30 in the morning and not coming home until 6:30 at night 12 days in a row with 2 days off to restart the 12 day workweek. UUUGGGHHHH I am so depressed but I completely understand your money situation.

babygirl18905 · 04-06-2008, 11:38 AM

OH BOY I completely understand where you are coming from DH and I are in the same situation right now I have been out of work for well over a year staying home with the baby he was working and I was surviving on my saving and I never realized how fast the money would really go but it's gone. anyways I started a job a month ago and they said they could not keep me because I could not work the days and hours they wanted, they wanted me to work evert Monday-friday and every other weekend uuummmm 12 days straight driving an 1-1/2 hours each way I told them I was looking for something part time I even agreed Tues-Fri and everyother weekend but it still was not enough for them so now DH and I have been fighting and arguing like crazy about money I can't just let my son stay with someone 11-12 hours aday I want something more stable not going to work at 6:30 in the morning and not coming home until 6:30 at night 12 days in a row with 2 days off to restart the 12 day workweek. UUUGGGHHHH I am so depressed but I completely understand your money situation.

babygirl18905 · 04-06-2008, 11:39 AM

OH BOY I completely understand where you are coming from DH and I are in the same situation right now I have been out of work for well over a year staying home with the baby he was working and I was surviving on my saving and I never realized how fast the money would really go but it's gone. anyways I started a job a month ago and they said they could not keep me because I could not work the days and hours they wanted, they wanted me to work evert Monday-friday and every other weekend uuummmm 12 days straight driving an 1-1/2 hours each way I told them I was looking for something part time I even agreed Tues-Fri and everyother weekend but it still was not enough for them so now DH and I have been fighting and arguing like crazy about money I can't just let my son stay with someone 11-12 hours aday I want something more stable not going to work at 6:30 in the morning and not coming home until 6:30 at night 12 days in a row with 2 days off to restart the 12 day workweek. UUUGGGHHHH I am so depressed but I completely understand your money situation.

babygirl18905 · 04-06-2008, 11:39 AM

OH BOY I completely understand where you are coming from DH and I are in the same situation right now I have been out of work for well over a year staying home with the baby he was working and I was surviving on my saving and I never realized how fast the money would really go but it's gone. anyways I started a job a month ago and they said they could not keep me because I could not work the days and hours they wanted, they wanted me to work evert Monday-friday and every other weekend uuummmm 12 days straight driving an 1-1/2 hours each way I told them I was looking for something part time I even agreed Tues-Fri and everyother weekend but it still was not enough for them so now DH and I have been fighting and arguing like crazy about money I can't just let my son stay with someone 11-12 hours aday I want something more stable not going to work at 6:30 in the morning and not coming home until 6:30 at night 12 days in a row with 2 days off to restart the 12 day workweek. UUUGGGHHHH I am so depressed but I completely understand your money situation.

babygirl18905 · 04-06-2008, 11:41 AM

OH BOY I completely understand where you are coming from DH and I are in the same situation right now I have been out of work for well over a year staying home with the baby he was working and I was surviving on my saving and I never realized how fast the money would really go but it's gone. anyways I started a job a month ago and they said they could not keep me because I could not work the days and hours they wanted, they wanted me to work evert Monday-friday and every other weekend uuummmm 12 days straight driving an 1-1/2 hours each way I told them I was looking for something part time I even agreed Tues-Fri and everyother weekend but it still was not enough for them so now DH and I have been fighting and arguing like crazy about money I can't just let my son stay with someone 11-12 hours aday I want something more stable not going to work at 6:30 in the morning and not coming home until 6:30 at night 12 days in a row with 2 days off to restart the 12 day workweek. UUUGGGHHHH I am so depressed but I completely understand your money situation.

babygirl18905 · 04-06-2008, 11:41 AM

OH BOY I completely understand where you are coming from DH and I are in the same situation right now I have been out of work for well over a year staying home with the baby he was working and I was surviving on my saving and I never realized how fast the money would really go but it's gone. anyways I started a job a month ago and they said they could not keep me because I could not work the days and hours they wanted, they wanted me to work evert Monday-friday and every other weekend uuummmm 12 days straight driving an 1-1/2 hours each way I told them I was looking for something part time I even agreed Tues-Fri and everyother weekend but it still was not enough for them so now DH and I have been fighting and arguing like crazy about money I can't just let my son stay with someone 11-12 hours aday I want something more stable not going to work at 6:30 in the morning and not coming home until 6:30 at night 12 days in a row with 2 days off to restart the 12 day workweek. UUUGGGHHHH I am so depressed but I completely understand your money situation.

silverhawk · 04-06-2008, 09:01 PM

http://www.soulcysters.net/marriage-...-paper-241460/

for a story about a real bad DH. It's what is happening to me right now.

your confidence and self esteem may have taken a hit, but you are trying to do your best for your family so please don't knock yourself.