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The SA is in a few days and I told him we had to BD or it would mess up the results. We both fell asleep last night and the night before, and all I could think this morning was
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where is my coffee?

He got up to watch sports before work and I had to tell him to come back to bed. It was weird. I hate that infertility can take the fun out of it and make me feel like it is a job.

Anyway I knew y'all would understand. It just was the opposite of romantic.

ready2conceive

I know exactly what you mean. DH had his done in April and it was funny because we had to bd and it was the same thing...weird.

Then the next three days we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. I guess because we knew we couldn't do it. It was tough.

And it only gets worse when actively ttc. Last night was first bd that I actually enjoyed in a long time. It wasn't forced even though we knew we had too...we actually wanted too.

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zilla

We take care of my Mom and it makes it harder to be spontaneous. One time my sister(who is desperate to be an Aunt) came and got Mom for an afternoon out and said "get to it". It really makes me feel like I am in some Animal Planet "Breeding in Captivity" special.

Ugh.

zilla

I can't really talk about it with my family either, they want the result but all the awful details are mine alone. That is why I am so comfortable here I think. I have good friends but we don't talk about things like this.

ready2conceive

LMAO!! That is funny.

That would be uncomfortable for sure! That would certainly add pressure.

My dh almost died over the weekend. He went to visit his parents and his mom walked out of the room and his dad asked him "so how are the fertility pills working?"

He came home asking me what I told his mom. I talk to her everyday and they are just so excited about possibly becoming grandparents...I keep her posted on the treatments.

He was so embarrassed! But like I tell him...your parents know what it takes to make a baby. It isn't like they never did it before. However, they aren't in our house while we are trying to make a baby! LOL

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ready2conceive

I know what you mean. I can't talk to my friends either. They are all fertile and have no problems spitting the kids out. As a matter of fact, I am 28 and have 0 kids. All my friends have about 2 or 3 and their oldest are 10 or older! They thought I was just smart and waiting to get married. Well, now I am married so they are like "when are you going to have a baby??" I tried to explain that I need help and they all shoot that down. "You just need to relax, you don't need fertility treatments, just relax!"

I decided not to even talk to them about it since that makes me sooo mad to hear that. I could lose some friends over this if I kept hearing those things. It is annoying. Like they won't take the time to hear what I am saying or understand that I DON'T OVULATE on my own!! I swear they have babies, but don't have the slightest idea about how they are conceived. They all just pop up prego!

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supermouse

ready2conceive---I hear you---that must be soooo frustrating to have people telling you to just relax. I've been very lucky, in that whichever of my family and friends knows about our troubles, has not suggested that we are just too tense.

As for planned/timed BD, i agree, it can feel like a chore. We've gotten up to IUI and may have to go on to IVF, so now, we can pretty much have sex whenever we want to, and may have to avoid at certain times, so DH can provide a good sample. It's a little odd to have spent so many months trying to make sure to have enough sex at the right time, only to have that turned on its head and now we'll have to watch that we avoid sex at the wrong time. Either way, it doesn't look like i will conceive the usual way, which is very disappointing, but somewhat freeing for our sex lives.

I hope the timed intercourse works out for both of you, because despite the annoyance/pressure factor, it's still nicer to conceive your child in a bed, rather than a hospital room with your husband standing several feet away and fully clothed. Hell, if we get to IVF, NEITHER of us will be in the room while the embryos are conceived.

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watermelonpatty

My DH decided to "clear the pipes" on his own 5 days before his SA because we just weren't feeling it. I think we were both a little stressed. When we actually did TTC after the trigger and got our little BD schedule from the doctor, we did try to make it romantic with music and candles, but it still felt very "scientific". It's difficult, but it's just one little sacrifice for the baby we want so badly.

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ready2conceive

I have been thinking about doing something different...maybe dressing up and surprising him when he gets home. But then I start to wonder what would he be thinking? A-He would be thinking like a normal man and get extremely excited or B- He would be thinking oh great...again
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LOL

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becca1115

I think that he would be excited that you are trying to do something different. If you try and do different things like dress sexy, the like that. My DH and I were watching something on tv last night about exobitionists and we saw a woman that was taking sexy pics for her husband for when he gets sent over to IRAQ. she was in the kitchen just wearing an apron, sitting on the floor putting whip cream on a pie.....he says....man that is hot....would you do that for me?

So they think about stuff like that. Maybe get dressed up hair and make up and either dress sexy or maybe not so many clothes.....

Works for me when I try it

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lucille

It is hard to BD on a schedule, especially when it falls during the work week and both of you may have other stresses and commitments on your mind. I try to enjoy when it falls on a weekend and we can maybe take the opportunity for a "date night," just to try and take the science out of it a bit!

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ready2conceive

LOL I was thinking about if I should post this or not but I have too! DH is no longer performing ... sorry if tmi...oral. There I said it!

I know it is because of ttc and where he is putting his swimmers and I know he is grossed out. Please come forth and tell me it isn't just him who is neglecting this. I feel kind of weird asking him why he doesn't do it anymore...but I am pretty sure I know the answer!

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JenniferEnsoll

This week is O time for me and for the first couple days leading up to O it was nice...romantic....no stress, we both really wanted it...
last night I had the Eggwhite and I knew we definetely had too...
I was not into it...
Not even once we got into it....it's hard I know he wants to say something and is trying to hard but my head starts to take over and then I can't think of anyting else...

We are at 17 months and all the romance is gone..
My sister is good to talk to she understands (emotionaly) but she is a fertile mertil and can't completely understand..
My Mom has no understanding and actually tried to dispute it with me the othe day...I got frustrated and ended up ending the conversation.....

Jenn

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Reenie79

My Dh told me he didn't want to know when we I oed as that would make him feel pressured to perform. Instead he asked me to just seduce him when required! Luckily I'm quite often in the mood so it wasn't too much of a problem for me but it's still not as much fun as spontaneous sex! But it did get us our BFP so it was well worth it :-)

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AvarraClover

Don't be embarressed I would be upset too. Talk to im about it even if it is embarressing. My DH2B and I are both big on that and I know I get it a lot less than he does.

I know I get it more if I am the one working to make the situation sexy and fun. I recently introduced Handcuffs into the bedroom... SO much fun.

Try to spice it up. I never mention anything having to do with babies or anythign like that when we are in the mood or its BD'ing time. It sometimes can be a mood killer. Although DH2B tends to bring it up afterwards with his hope that it works.

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