SianCat

I want to post something positive here about body hair. These women don't have pcos, or not that I know of, but they have alot of hair. Seeing things like this makes me feel more comfortable with my own body.
First is Cher. Apparently she has to get electrolisis once a week.
Madonna: When I was in highschool I'd hang out at my guy friend's house and his dad had all these old playboys. My friend showed me one with Madonna to make me feel better about my own hairy belly. In it was an au natural madonna. Naturally dark har, pleasure trail with some fine hair on the chest, unshaven very hairy underarms, and tons of pubes.
Lots of movies with ladies bleaching their mustache: "Pretty Dirty Things" starring Audrey Tautau (Amelie). The main character, a man she fancies, drops by her apartment so she scrambles into the bathroom to bleach her upper lip.
My Big Fat Greek Wedding: bride's sister bleaching upper lip, aunt plucking her mother's chin.
Before I got Dxed with pcos I wrote a letter to My Messy Bedroom (a weekly sex column by Josey Vogels) under the name hair prejudise remover. Lots of women in my mom's side of the family have lots body hair. They have dark hair and are french med. so I wrote about how I've learned to accept the hair as a part of who I am. She published and responded really well to it.
I still have trouble with things like getting intimate with a guy but I am slowing getting more accepting my body. Anyways just though I'd share this. Yesterday I was trying on a dress in a changeroom and the light and mirror was not flattering so the hair issue is back on my mind.
How does everyone here else deal with hair issues in terms of self image?

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hairlvr

I notice that most of us complain about our facial hair but i haven't heard much about the rest of our body.personally i have a ton of body hair,my forearms are completely covered in the longest thickest hair that you could imagine and believe it or not i get more complements from mostly men on how attracted they are to it...go figure.Sure i get the negitive looks and stares but mostly from other women.To answer your question ,i guess im pretty comfortable with it.

fairy2323

I haven't been able to really come to terms with the excessive body hair. I can't stand the fact that my skin is never smooth, even after shaving. So I guess my way of dealing with it was to spend $5000 for pretty much full body LHR. For me, I am just not comfortable so even if I had a man that liked it, I would still hate it and feel uncomfortable.

Corvidae

Having a bit of body hair is something I've always seen as normal I just don't want to be the person in the crowd with the most hair.

I went the last ten years without wearing short sleeves in public. I didn't just have dark hair on my arms, I've also had very bad skin from Omega 3 deficiency. Since I've been diagnosed with PCOS (and other things) and I've been on meds, the hair has gone much lighter and my skin is smoother. I've started taking an omega 3 supplement to help it along. I'd tried that before but interestingly it's only worked since I've been on the PCOS meds. I'm so impressed with the results that I've bought a short sleeve top and can't wait until it's warm enough to wear it and get a bit of sun.

I never wanted the dark hair in my arms to show, especially around the wrists and hands so I cut regularly it with a body hair trimmer. The trimmer left it about an eighth of an inch long... short enough to look lighter and long enough to not feel prickly. I only had to do it once a week. I do the same with midline hair. Legs and pits get shaved as needed... it's normal to have to do those and I don't mind doing things that are normal.

SianCat

I can relate to that. I had this guy who always insisted on touching my prickly chin and didn't mind if I plucked my hair infront of him and didn't shave my really hairy legs and pubes. I know he was showing me that he was cool with it but it is something I just don't want to share. My highschool friends used to tell me that there are guys out there who have a fetish for hairy women. God that just made me feel like a freak growing up. I certainly don't mind hair on men but I don't want someone to like me sexually for my own hairiness. Finally I discovered that I could be with guys with no such fetish.
Being prickly everywhere is what bothers me about the hair.

rayj629

SianCat:

For my part, I found the body hair on the woman I loved attractive not so much because of any particular fetish, but because I viewed everything about her as unique, special and a blessing. Did this later translate into a greater appreciation for female body hair as sensual adornment? Certainly. Do I prefer such traits to the exclusion of deep, essential connections? Not a chance.

SianCat

Thankyou for this reply. What a great perspective.

ttara123

I agree that while many women may have body hair, and some guys might like it or just not mind, I do mind. I don't want to share it. I don't like it about myself and I don't want to have my guy think about my body hair any more than needed. I accept it, and I'm okay with it, I just don't like it.

My current BF has just right-out asked me about my body hair. While I know it's because he feels comfortable enough with me to talk abotu something like that, I hated that he did because then I had to admit to him that I know I'm hairy and that I have to work to look like a girl.

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october_sky

It took me awhile to accept the excess hair, but eventually I did. The hair doesn't bother me but it's a pain to remove everyday. If I don't have to leave the house for a day, I don't shave or anything, just leave it alone. Just one day I would love to wake up and leave the house without checking for obvious hair in the mirror or have spontaneous sex with my boyfriend instead of running to the bathroom to do a quickie shave.

So for me it's all about what others think of it. I'm lucky to have a boyfriend that knows about it (though not ALL of it) and doesn't mind and accepts me. But at work, my boss or coworkers will stare at my neck and cheeks if I don't shave for one day. That makes me extremely self concious and want to hide. But no one has EVER said anything to my face about it, although I'm sure they talk about it when I'm not around (shrug).

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KrA

It is the one thing that is a constant reminder that I have a problem. I hate the stubble, the feelings that I get, and the way it makes me feel about myself.

Fuzzy Bear

Facial hair is the most depressing thing about this for me.

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SianCat

That's just it. Having to remove it everyday and the irritation from removing it daily is a constant reminder. I would like to be more carefree like going out in a bikini without worrying. One of my friends always shows off pics of his girl at the beach. Not that I want to be that girl but I could never be at ease with everyone seeing my wicked hairy torso. I can now defend myself, accept it and live with it but I wish I didn't have that extra thing to worry about when I wake up. It's not a conversation I like having with a significant other either. I hate to have it brought up.
The facial hair is what gets me distressed. It's the one thing I cannot ignore because it is what people see. Sometimes when I get stressed it starts growing in the middle of the day and it is very itchy.

alisha511

I actulaly love my hair It's not excessively dark on my arms. My stomach shows a lot. to be honest, I never thought I was weird or anything and people that have seen it, thinks it's pretty cool. I do shave my legs and arms, but very rarely my stomach. If I ever got married, my husband would have to love that part of me since it's been a prt of me since forever

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Purple_monkfish

I'm fortunate in that I only have a very small amount of facial hair... one or two hairs on my chin that I pluck whenever I notice them. I never have bothered to pluck eyebrows, so they're naturally thick and damnit I like em that way.. however, my tummy is really hairy. I'm covered in fuzz all over my body really, with a really thick happy trail. I've always been a little self concious of it but none of my partners have ever minded it... in fact, my current partner loves to stroke my fuzzy belly commenting on how lovely and soft it is (hahah. he's a bit wierd at times) I tend to joke, telling him i've got more chest hair than he does (which sadly enough is actually true.. he's pretty much hairless.. b&*stard)

I shave my legs when i'm gonna be showing them off, in the winter they tend to go a bit hectic.. haha. Pits I refuse to NOT shave.. I have the usual (tmi) sweat problem I lot of Pcosers seem to suffer from so keeping them cleanshaven tends to help a little.

I think it's sad that western culture is so anti hair.. I mean why can men be like rugs (eww.. back hair.. gross) but women have to be completely smooth? And the thing is, it seems to be other women who enforce this belief! All the guys i've known have never cared about my facial hair or body hair, but any girl who's ever seen it always looks grossed out and asks why I don't do something about it. I tried electorlosis.. but it didn't work... hurt like hell so I gave up after a few sessions.

the prickly thing I totally understand.. doesn't bug me but my man gets irritated.. he's actually said he'd rather I let it grow then shave or pluck because then at least it's soft and doesn't prickle him.. haha..

I hate my tummy hair, but over the years i've learned to live with it. I just ensure I never wear anything that'll expose it too much. The closest i've ever gotten to bearing my belly is a croptop with a longer lace top over it so it conceals the hair and you just get the effect of belly exposure.
I pluck my chin because the long curly hairs piss me off, you have to really look to see them but I know they're there and it bugs me.

To be honest, as i've gotten older i've started to care less and less. I suppose having a lot of male friends who jokingly objectify me kinda helps the self esteem thing.. you know? they've seen me in pretty bad states, most have seen my belly i'm sure when I reach up to grab something and my top rides up.. none ever seem to have been put off or if they were got over it damned quick. I've never been shy about letting my men see me in my full hairy glory and always made a point to be upfront about the whole issue, they've always understood and been really supportive. I just don't like the general public seeing it...

I think it helps that my mother and sister both have the same hair problem. My sister's blond so it doesn't really show and she's obsessed with hair removal.. it's scary.. my mother is a bit more self concious than me and gets a little more facial hair, but since a very young age i've known my mother plucked her chin and it never seemed that wierd when I started having to. I dunno...

I wanna know who the hell decided hair was a negative trait anyway... it's natural damnit! Maybe one day the world wont be quite so obsessed with these artifical ideas of beauty and hair will become as insignificant as eye colour or whatever.

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KrA

I can totally relate. I'm hoping to one day get some laser hair removal, but I always wonder because of the hormones behind it if it would just grow back anyway? If I didn't feel like a freak already ya know? just to add the hair to it is a cruel joke