Being a crybaby today!

Phoenix Rising ^^^ · 04-28-2005, 12:44 PM

Hi Ladies,
I'm having one of those days. I'm really feeling sad and weepy. Maybe, it's because Mother's Day is coming. Last year, I was pg and, everyone was wishing me a Happy "almost a Mother's Day" WTF?
We lost Nicole between Mother's Day and Father's Day. My poor DH was so distraught on Father's Day, it was horrible. Here we are almost a year later, and we've lost another baby. I work on Sundays and everyone is deciding on who gets what shifts or the day off on Mother's day. Someone is also buying corsages for all the Mom's to wear that day. Can you guess who has to work and gets the crappy shift on Mother's Day. The're not even aknowledging me as a Mother (no they didn't order a corsage for me either). I really wish I could take the day off, but, it's just not possible.
Why is the world so insensitive?

Gina

kwannabee · 04-28-2005, 02:14 PM

[[[hugs]]]

Is there any way you could take that day off??? I would think that would be just too emotionally wrenching for anybody...i couldnt do it. If you do work that day...just remember all your cysters are watching over your shoulder and sending you hugs...

take care,

Kim

VivC · 04-28-2005, 02:21 PM

Gina,

I'm so sorry you work with such insensitive people. It seems so wrong that you're not at least getting a corsage! Could you tell your boss how much the day is going to drain you? Or could you call in sick?

I'm staying in bed that day - no phone, no tv, nothing except the blanket over my head. I can't imagine having to go to work.

Phoenix Rising ^^^ · 04-28-2005, 03:25 PM

Thanks, Ladies,
I wish I could be off, but, in my job those with the most senority get the day off before me even though I have 15 1/2 years there are still people with more time in then me. Unfourtunately, I don't get much sick time and after being off for 5 weeks after losing Jamie, and a bout with bronchitis 3 wks ago, I have no sick time at all.
I have even spoken to some of the older ladies I work with asking if one them would please work that day so that I can take the day off, only to get a "Oh no, are you crazy? I refuse to work on Mother's Day, I deserve to be off I have 5 kids and 11 grandchildren." A simple no would have been sufficient. Maybe by some stroke of luck, this will work out.

Thanks for listening,
Gina

GabrielsMom · 04-28-2005, 03:41 PM

Gina, I am so so sorry that they're doing this to you

I can't believe how insensitive they are being. In fact, I'm angry FOR you. I hope it works out by some miracle.

LaurAnnHere · 04-28-2005, 04:13 PM

I am so sorry. Why don't people realize that this is going to be hard for you. Is it possible or you to take a sick day? You deserve the day off just as much as they do, after all your the mother of angels. If I worked with you, I would voluntarily take your place. They ought be grateful that they can hold their babies in their arms. This is my first mothers day with a baby in my arms, but I will never ever ever forget what it is like to spend mother's day in tears, feeling left out, and feeling heartbroken. You should get a corsage. Is there any friends you work with that you could mention that to, and maybe they could pass the word. I know that I would feel so grateful (for lack of a better word) for that gesture.

saluki_fan · 04-28-2005, 04:36 PM

Gina, please tell me where you work. I want to FedEx you the biggest corsage ever! (I don't think I could afford it, so I'll do it "in spirit".) Can you just TELL the person who orders the corsages that you will be needing one too?

You ARE a mother; your co-workers are insensitive and it makes me angry just they are acting this way. I want to show up and holler at them!

GabrielsMom · 04-28-2005, 04:40 PM

If this was happening to me, I would be so b!tchy, I'd be intolerable. "Yo IDIOTS... just because my baby is DEAD doesn't mean I'm not a mother."

I know, it's immature. But how else are people EVER going to wise up?

saluki_fan · 04-28-2005, 04:47 PM

You know, if my mother were to pass away, this won't mean I was never a daughter. Why can't people understand that just because your children are now at rest, you are still a mother!

GRRR!!! I'm just so - well, indignant about this. It really is rubbing a sore spot with me.

LaurAnnHere · 04-28-2005, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by saluki_fan

You know, if my mother were to pass away, this won't mean I was never a daughter. Why can't people understand that just because your children are now at rest, you are still a mother!

GRRR!!! I'm just so - well, indignant about this. It really is rubbing a sore spot with me.

Me, too. I don't know what else to say.

VivC · 04-28-2005, 05:07 PM

Gina, I'm really annoyed by the whole situation. We need Tetley to give us some revenge ideas!

Viv

GabrielsMom · 04-28-2005, 05:07 PM

I'm glad I'm not the only one.

SheriKCMO · 04-28-2005, 07:05 PM

Just sending you big hugs! I hate bad days! I hope tomorrow is better.

Phoenix Rising ^^^ · 04-29-2005, 01:57 AM

Thank you all so much! I'm so glad I've got you guys!

My DH and his Mom are in cahoots planning a Mother's Day something for me. It's a big secret. I'm sure it will get out, DH cannot keep a secret. Also, he has promised me a corsage better than the cheapy ones they'll be giving out at work.

I'm still hopeful that I'll get the day off somehow.

Thanks again Cysters!

Gina
P.S. Where is Tetley when you need her?

saluki_fan · 04-29-2005, 11:47 AM

Gina, do I need to send my dog out there to deposit some "land mines" on the desks or workspaces of the mean ladies who won't trade days off with you?

I KNOW your corsage will be better than anyone elses!