The best thing a person ever said/did to you in reference to a PCOS symptom . . .

ranchelmarie · 06-16-2006, 02:32 AM

Not to insult the person who starting the "worst things" post, but I think it's time we talk about some good reactions. Anyone had an especially helpful, encouraging or sweet response to PCOS?

I haven't yet been diagnosed, I have an appointment tomorrow. But I was talking to my fiance yesterday about the possibility of long term symptoms/outcomes and he said "I will always love you, even if you become a barren gigantic ape." Odd way of putting it, but I knew it was his way of showing support and acceptance.

deesh76 · 06-16-2006, 02:55 AM

Well when I first told my Best friend what I had I didn't explain all of the symptoms, but being a good friend and wanting to understand, she looked it up and read about it.

Later when I was talking to her she said she'd read about the symptoms and that she'd read that hirsutism was a symptom, I said yes. She said, "but you don't have that." I told her that it was sweet of her to either not notice or not care that I had hair on my chin, but that I infact did have lots of it. She said she'd never noticed or payed any attention.

She made me feel like at least my efforts to conceal it were fairly successful - even if she was just being nice.

MamaBecs · 06-16-2006, 03:19 AM

Well, my 'best thing' came from a 'worst thing'. I had gained weight rapidly and developed acne, so my judgemental, bigoted male flatmates called up Student Counselling at my university and tried to stage an 'intervention' where they came up with all these reasons why I was 'depressed', mainly based on the fact that I 'no longer cared for my appearance.' I didn't know I had PCOS and didn't learn for several years, but I was determined to prove my sanity, so I saw a doctor directly after the 'intervention'. (The counsellor sided with my flatmates, so I had to exercise my legal right to terminate the session.) The doctor (I had never met him before) had no doubt that I was free of depression and said that I would be surprised at the number of people needlessly pushed into getting psychiatric 'help', as a form of bullying. That comment kept me going through some difficult years, since I had little other confidence for some time and thought that everybody would think me insane after looking at my weight and skin.

JulieM · 06-16-2006, 05:22 AM

Thank you rachelmarie for starting this post!! I always get a yucky thought every time I see how many views/posts the "worst" list gets...Hmm, a good thing???
-My good friend and sister know what a long road I have been on and watch me take all those meds every night...and they celebrate with me when I finally get AF! Most other people hem and haw over how horrid cramps and menstruation is.....My sister and friend Kim know how lucky I feel to be getting mine (almost) regularly!

stacey99 · 06-16-2006, 05:35 AM

i too have a good story to tell when i first told my boyfriend now my husband about my pcos he actually listened to me. he went with me to my doctors appointment and he was more informed than i was. i mean he was firing questions off to the doctor left and right. i was truly amazed, so i married him i can't let someone that special get away.

pookiempr · 06-16-2006, 06:43 AM

a couple of my best friends took the time and looked everything up and when I had a concern...they had an answer...it was cool having friends like that
one of my friends even looks up side effects and so on and come on here to see what different people say
i just think my friends are so awesome

coree · 06-16-2006, 07:33 PM

I have been very blessed to have recieved so much support and nice words regarding my pcos, it helps to counteract the idiots who don't know when to shut up and say mean things.
My now fiance and i had just begun to see each other, as a matter of fact it was the first time i had spent the night at his house. When we woke in the morning he reached over to touch my face, and i pulled away. And of course started to cry because i knew he would notice the 'stubble' and wonder what kind of warthog he had gotten into bed with. But all he said was "whats wrong?' so i said " If i tell you do you promise you won't laugh or be disgused'. He gave me a funny look and said "uh ok". So i took his had (after about 10 minutes of building myself up for it) and placed it on my cheek. I said "Feel that?" and he said "Thats all?, you are upset about THIS?" i was like "Well yeah!" and he said "i noticed that the first night i met you, and i don't care." Then of course i cried more!
he convinced me that i needed to see a doctor and there was no way i was the 'only one'. I went and sure enough....here i am!
Its really true that the right guy will make you feel like a princess!

I also have a very good friend who, when she found out that i had PCOS, came to this website and read absolutely EVERYTHING so that she could be as supportive as she could. I am very fortunate.

Coree

MM0600 · 06-16-2006, 08:43 PM

It's such a relief to know there are other women in the world who have stubble in the morning...

Pulling away so a man can't touch your face? I've been there.

That's all.

JessicaRN · 06-16-2006, 10:54 PM

I don't really have anything specific just to say I often catch my lovey staring at me. Every single time I ask what (as if there's something on my face or I dripped something on my shirt, as I'm known to do lol). He always replies, "Just adoring you."

*happy dance*

He loves me.

Makes me feel more confident about myself in general

- Jess

canadianmutation · 06-17-2006, 07:30 AM

I've always had a supportive family who knew something was up but the best thing someone has ever done with a PCOS symptom....

My sweetheart and I pluck our stray chin hairs together

one-hit_wonder · 06-17-2006, 06:52 PM

When I gained 10 lbs from bcp (before I knew I had PCOS) and could not get the weight off, no matter what, my dh (then bf) said I looked WAY hotter this way. He still says I could use another 10 lbs...

Headyfeady3 · 06-17-2006, 09:45 PM

My husband is the one that has kept me going through the crap that goes along with PCOS. He always tells me that he will love me no matter how much I weigh and that the hair that I have growing everywhere is just something more for him to love about me. He makes me feel like I am the best looking person in the room. When I cry about it he tells me that there is nothing to be upset about. I dont know if I would still be TTC if it werent for him.

The other person is someone that I just met, we are going to school together and she asked me about the hair on my chin and I was about to cry when she asked if I had any on my tummy... I was shocked to have someone ask that but I told her the truth and she showed me that so did she. Since that day we have been good friends and she is the person that I talk to about the girl stuff that comes with PCOS. She called me and asked me how my DR apt went and when I told her that I was now on met and trying to get better she was so happy and told me that if would be nice if she could get a DR to listen to her.

I know that was long but the 2 people that have helped me are now my best friends. I just had to share.

MiracleMom · 06-20-2006, 02:32 AM

My Husband and I just celebrated our 18th wedding Anniversary this past Saturday!
We have,however, been together for almost 26 years this coming August.
We were teenage sweethearts and have never been with anyone but each other.
He has been there when I was slim and he is there now when I am certainly NOT SO SLIM and he tells me everyday how much he loves me!
He reminds me,all the time, that my size is not an issue for him and that he just considers it to be "MORE OF ME TO LOVE!!!"

Celie · 06-20-2006, 03:25 PM

The best thing someone ever said to me in reference to having PCOS,is ("It must be great not to have periods, and at least you don't have to worry about getting pregnent.)

ChelNY · 06-20-2006, 06:35 PM

I'd have to say that my mom has been the biggest encourager of my struggle to lose weight and deal with pcos. she always tries to help me figure out the WW points when i'm at their house for dinner and encourages me to keep going so that i don't end up with diabetes like her. my mom's diabetes started when she was about 35, when pregnant with my brother. it's not something i like talking about, especially at big family gatherings. but i appreciate her supportiveness.