Men find several things rather difficult to do in life and romance is one of those areas that is a prime example. Figuring what to do, what to say and how to be consistent doing those things are not readily made things that we are programmed to do...we have to actively seek them out and put them into practice. Usually, I am pretty good about just being there for her, talking with her, listening to her and surprising her with poems, cards, paying for dinner after a day where she looks stressed, etc. I was just wondering if any of the other husbands or husbands to be (like I am) on this board had some good ideas or some good links to check out. Because I want to learn how to get better and to do so more often because she deserves anything I can give her.
__________________ Current situation: We are now happily engaged to be married...the love we share has taken the next step.
Take a massage class and learn how to properly give massage. She'll love that one!
Making cute things in the kitchen, like looking up low gi recipes and making them for her would be really nice, because it shows that A: you're cooking for her, and B: you're doing your homework about her condition and being considerate!
Learning things together brings people closer... so a dance class or learning another language together is perfect. I recomend the language one. Then you can have your own phrases that you can say in public without anyone understanding you.
I have read your posts around the boards from time to time and you seem like a very considerate caring partner. The most romantic thing that you could possibly doing is being informed about her health and taking an interest in her well being. PCOS is not a very nice condition and it can often leave women pretty down about themselves. Good on you for giving her the support she needs.
I would like to add that I love it when my DH does unexpected, thoughtful things for me. Such as sending a flower/flowers "Just Because" on any random day; planning a special date night or a night of quality time together.
If you will be the one getting home from work (or otherwise) before she does, greet her soon after she arrives with a hug & a kiss- let her know you're elated to see her.
I also think it is important to set aside a specific day/night for you to go on a date or do something special. For instance, every 2nd/4th Saturday of the month or the 3rd Saturday of the month- it depends on what your budget allows. (It gets harder to go on dates the longer a couple is together, unless you make a point to set time/money aside for it. I don't think anyone plans for this to happen, but it is easy to get into a routine of work, eat, sleep, clean, do laundry, etc... and before you know it, it has been 6 months to a year since your last date!)
I really think that the simple, thoughtful, unexpected things are what will continually make her feel special & loved.
Just my 2 cents! Sorry so long! :p
__________________ Me 30 DH 35
DD born 9/04
DS born 6/07
SoulDoctor - I would just like to give you an "atta boy" for your post. It sounds like you are wonderful to your Fiancee, and I have to say...most women adore the little romantic things! Also, the fact that you are posting and asking for more ideas really shows your love and interest. I'm sure she feels very special.
I don't really have any ideas to offer, you have already been given some great ideas in the other posts. I just wanted to tell you to keep up the good work, and congratulations to both of you on your engagement! I wish you both all the happiness in the world!
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Flowers, dinners, dates, etc.........all those are wonderful! I just want to add that sometimes the smallest things can have the biggest impact. If there's something she really likes (for instance with me, ladybugs are one thing) you can surprise her with a small trinket along those lines.
If she has a passion for watching a certain "chick movie" one night you could suprise her by asking to pick the movie, and putting that one in.
Love notes are awesome things........anything 'just because' is an awesome thing.
__________________ Mandy
Proud Mommy to Emily born April 7, 2005 and Joseph born January 17, 2008
I would just have to say, that I agree with the responses that you've already gotten. The little day to day things that you can do for her, are some of the most romantic things that you can do.
I know that since the birth of our child (17 months ago) it's been a lot harder for me to buy my DW flowers/cards for no particular reason & surprise her with them; it's been harder for us to go out on date nights, etc. You really have to make an effort to keep the romance alive, or it will get too easy to get caught up in the daily grind. Anything that you can do will help to show her that the romance is still alive...so I would suggest just doing little things for her on a daily basis, that you know she would appreciate...but also don't forget to do the occasional suprises of flowers, cards, candy, dinner, etc.
Good luck & Congratulations on your engagement !!
__________________ TxLady's DH & Hannah's Daddy
"That which does not kill us, only makes us stronger."
-Nietzsche
"It's not what lies behind us or before us that matters, but what lies within us."
-Mark Twain
We have some exciting goals for our lives mainly living out our faiths in what we want to do in our lives. We are not exactly sure of what God has in store for us in the future but we accept His plan with open hands and hearts. Thank you very much for the response this post has received...I certainly do appreciate it. Maybe that will have to be a book I will write in the future because unfortunately, it is difficult to track down a book or a website that is written by men and for men concerning romance. You all had some wonderful things to contribute and I will definitely take those to heart and add to them my own personal touch.
Yesterday, she had a rough day with worrying our fiances, her work place misprinting her hours so she was mistakenly late and she had a verbal fight with one of her best friends. I work at the same place but at a time later than she did. So I did my best to write out a small note saying something like "I love you. Sorry your day hasn't been the best. I hope this gives you a smile." Along with that, I just bought a bottle of water for her from the vending machine because she had to leave the house in a rush and I wanted to get her something to drink that wouldn't hurt her diet too much. Afterwards, I told her that I would call her after work but I surprised her by showing up at her home and giving her a big hug before taking her out to share a piece of pie at a twenty four hour sit down restaurant. I know that I won't be able to do stuff like that all the time but in the ways that I can, I try.
__________________ Current situation: We are now happily engaged to be married...the love we share has taken the next step.
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