Bi-Curious? Question!

NeSs_a_mon · 01-16-2007, 05:01 AM

I wasn't really sure where to post this but since im still classified as a teen ill post it here but i would like the older ladies to feel free posting in here aswell. I'd like everyones opinion.

Anyhow, Would u say that having more testosterone in your body makes u more prone to being bi sexual or curious to see what its like to be with a girl?

I've always kinda been bi-curious i guess but i'd like to know if the PCOS is maybe causing it a little.

I'd like to see your opinions on this.

Ness

LookingForHope16 · 01-16-2007, 06:54 AM

Well -- I'll be the first to respond. When I came out to my mother and "sister" as gay, my "sister" said that her friend was telling her about her PCOS causing her to think she was gay. I am gay and very NOT bi.

I've never heard of anything saying that it's fore sure that the hormones can affect your sexual prefrence.

With that being said, if anyone can find an actual thing on it, i would love to read it!

Hope that helped a little. Feel free to PM me.

AlexisB86 · 01-16-2007, 08:28 AM

how old are you? I definatly went through a phase in high school and some of college where i was questioning if i was bi or not. I definatly liked guys, always have but i started getting attracted to some of my friends, one in particular. I think that the only way you will find out is to try doing things with girls. I have done a lot with girls, and i enjoyed it but i decided after a few years that i like guys more and i like looking at girls and dont mind kissing them and stuff but its just not my thing. eventually you will just fall into place into your sexuality. I dont know if our hormones being jacked up could affect that but i you are so not alone in thinking this. I thought that might be the reason many times. But i also think that its more of a decision of ours to see what we like than our hormones. the best way to know, is to feed your curiosity. with me now, i am up for having threesomes with my bf and another girl, but not girls exclusivly. Still like making out with them though. But i am not afraid to think "wow, that girl is hott!" You can apprciate womens bodies and be physically attracted to them without being sexually attracted to them. if you dont mind me asking, how is your self- esteem? cause i know one of my friends thought she was bi and then it ended up being she just wanted to look like the girls she was looking at not wanting to be with them. but we are all different, definatly play with it. you will figure it out.

Lexi

NeSs_a_mon · 01-17-2007, 05:51 AM

Thanks for the replies ladies. Anyways in reply to Lexi of how old i am, I am 20. I'd have to say that i do find girls very physically attractive, I just like to look at their bodies, god that makes me sound like a perv, ha. i think it started to happen around the age of 13 when i was becoming a 'lady'. Yea i guess i wont know till i try it which i do plan on doing some time but to be honest it kind of scares me because i dont want to try it out and end up realising maybe i like girls better. I actually DO want to be with a male and get married n live in a nice little house n stuff, haha corny.

I always get worried that one day ill get caught looking at some girls ass by my friends or something.

Lookingforhope sheesh u have guts to come out to your parents, i dont think i could ever tell my family that i am interested in trying it out with girls. Especially my mum she is like my best friend and is fully old school.

I'm still going to stick by that i think the hormones being all wacked is causing this...maybe....

AllureX · 01-17-2007, 07:35 PM

I'm not sure if there is a correlation or not. I do not feel attracted to girls at all. I can definitely say a girl is pretty and say "WOW I WISH I LOOKED LIKE HER!" but never do I say "damn i wish i could get into bed with her."

i loveeeee boys. love the guys

hotlips48801 · 01-18-2007, 12:33 AM

I think I have been bi-curious but not until I was 21-22. I can look at a girl and be like "wow, she's hot" or comment about her body. But I never wanted to have sex with a girl, making out maybe but nothing further. I've always been very boy crazy, they have ways that women don't

I'm now married and trying to have a baby. Not sure if the hormones have anything to do with it but you would think they would a little.

LookingForHope16 · 01-18-2007, 03:33 AM

I'm not sure that it has anything to do with the Hormones. It's possible though.

Ness, is it the little house and kids or the actuall guy that you want?
I plan on having a house and kids. With a girl.

AlexisB86 · 01-18-2007, 04:05 AM

well even if you realize you like girls too that doesnt mean you cant get married and have a family. thats the whole point of the term bisexual is that you like both but its okay to physically and sexually and emotionally like both and still marry a man. I know lots of girls that are like that, myself included, i dont exactly term myself bi but maybe i should- all itis is a label of your sexual preference, in my opinion being bisexual just means you like both- dont prefer either but if you like guys and girls thats fine- have you had sex with a guy yet or no? sorry if thats a personal question. i think that maybe you will find that the idea of looking at girls and being with girls are two totally different things, or maybe you will love being with a girl. you dont know until you try, but hey if you like guys too, that is fine. i never told my parents because thats not right with their religion and although i tell my parents everything that is my personal life and i dont feel the need to come out to them. for me thats none of their business what i like in the bedroom. its what you enjoy not necessarily a lifestyle- for some yes and thats great but for me its an occasional fling with a girl but i never have dated any girls for more than a week- in between guys- i guess for me i am attracted to girls, but not in the same way i like guys, girls just add a little spice, a little fun once in a while. its completely normal to have these feelings, this is the time when you need to explore, find out who you really are, find your identity separate from your parents, find you. these next few years are going to be the years where you can do that. i wish you the best of luck, thanks for being honest and open with this issue. talk to you soon.

LookingForHope16 · 01-18-2007, 06:00 AM

Alexis, thanks again for replying!

See my thing was I never wanted to be with a guy. I found it repulsive. (Sorry girls!!) So I totally liked girls.

I guess the same way with some girls looking at girls and thinking they are hot but getting in bed with one is different. I'm the same about guys. LOL

StephUk · 01-18-2007, 07:04 AM

Im 29, happily married to a man but am bisexual.
Ive had two exclusive relationships with women but in the end a marriage with a man is what was meant for me, mainly because my soul-mate, the person I love and adore, is male.
Ive noticed that my interest in women does peak if my hormones go out of whack.
The more out of whack they are the more I look at women and think of them sexually, the more under control I am (which is 99% these days) the less I look.
Ive always had the extreme hots for guys, I adore them.
I could say the same about women though.
I must say though that I found the belief that women know more about what another wants to be totally false in my case.
Im a weird bi though, the thought of doing sexy things to a woman is very sexy to me but having a woman do them to me doesnt appeal to me one tiny bit.
So, I guess what I meant to say is that I do feel that for at least some women, it has got alot to do with their hormone levels, then again some people are just plain old bi or gay with normal hormone levels, thats just the way they were born and all power to them I say.

NeSs_a_mon · 01-18-2007, 10:57 AM

Wow great replies! I'm now glad that i asked this question.

Lookingforhope- It's the whole package i want, kids, home, husband, dogs. I couldnt see myself being with a female and having a family.

Alexis- I have a boyfriend at the moment and to your answer no i havent slept with a male i wanted to wait till marriage for that and my bf is supporting me all the way. He knows im interested in girls n we've had a few arguements in him not wanting me to explore it because he doesnt want to share me but now he is convinced that its something i need to do to be able to find out what i want. Tho i do LOVE guys alot.

I'm not really sure if i want to 'go down on a girl'. It's more of the kissing part that attracts me to them and for them to go down on me instead.

LookingForHope16 · 01-18-2007, 06:26 PM

Maybe it is just your hormones!!!!

I personally have only partially been with a guy and HATED It!!!!!!!

I knew from the moment that I kissed Amanda this was ment to be ( she was not my first girl relationship)

jess02 · 01-18-2007, 09:10 PM

I believe that it is one's choice to be gay... but I also think that it could be the PCOS... I mean I'm so into men... obviously I'm getting married to one... but hell yes there have been times where I'm like, "Should I be with a woman because there is something wrong with me and these things are happening to me?" But, I guess it's up to the person. There have been times when I thought I was suppose to be a boy... that's how the doctor made me feel before we found out I had PCOS.

PrincessJen09 · 01-19-2007, 12:12 AM

Ness, I have felt the same way that you have and I thought it was just me. I have always liked to look at other girls' bodies. Sometimes I wonder what it would be like with them, but I know that I prefer guys. I guess it is just something that I thought about and explored a little on my own and figured out. I never thought about PCOS having an affect like that, but I would say that it does make sense. PM if you want to talk in more detail.

LookingForHope16 · 01-20-2007, 04:58 AM

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Is it possible you decide you only want to be with a female because your unable to find a man?

No, I do not believe that this is the case. I have been with guys to an extent and don't feel attracted to them at all.

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Also a girl knows what a girl whats, right? That why women like being with other women. A lot of men can't please them the way they can.

I personally think that if you have NEVER been in a relationship with a girl then you don't know.

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Personally i think that a child needs a man as well as a women in their life. If it is two males or two females the child will be missing out. It's not fair to the child that you made that "choice" without thinking about them first. Isn't your future child important enough to you? Just curious. Also I think being gay, lesbian or bi is completely choice and can even come across as being selfish. This is my opionion and I don't mind if someone wants to agrue that.

Why do you think this? I was raised without a father in my life and I'm just fine as a person. What are you to say that a child needs both a man and woman in their life if you've never been in this situation? My friend was raise by two mothers all his life and he's a wonderful student and person. What are you to judge someone?! I think that it's crazy that you are going to make this judgement!

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I believe PCOS has a big reason in why more women are lesbian or bi. It definitely has to do with hormone imbalances as well as a higher level of testostrone. (some women have a really high level ).

Again, I think that you don't know if this is true because this is not you or anything about you.

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No women or man is born "gay" it's impossible. God did not make anyone born that way. Like with anyone, rather male or female you just have to learn to control your hormones.

I'm sorry but the GOD that I believe in doesn't make mistakes! He infact, DID MAKE ME! I'm not a mistake!

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Yes another girl can understand us more, relate to us more, possibly please some of us more but I don't think it is a good "BALANCED" relationship. You need a man. For you and for your children. Your children will grow up especially girls being needy and going down the wrong path because they don't have a father figure in their life. It's not fair to your child to not give them a real father. I know situations happen where it wasn't your choice but to make the CHOICE to not give your child a father isn't right.

Again, you don't know don't judge people when you don't know what it's like!! I again have a friend who was raised by her two mothers and now she is married with kids to a guy. That disproves your theroy!

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I think it is completely normal for you to find girls attractive. there is nothing wrong with that but I think you know what you really want for your life and I think you should continue to seek that. I wish you luck in trying to figure yourself out.

I wish you luck in being less judging of people. I know myself and I am HAPPY in life!