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Feeling all Alone

Posted 04-30-2009 at 04:06 PM by barbieh007

Do you ever hear "it will be ok, just stop worrying about it so much and it will happen."

I hear that from a lot of people, then finally I found out I had pcos and realized its more than just over stressing about having a baby. Now I hate hearing it. I dont want to be told everything is going to be ok, stop worrying and it will happen. I feel like no one is listening sometimes and unless you have gone thro this or something similar you DO NOT understand. I knew ppl who stopped worrying about having babies and then they finally have them. This is not the same, pcos is one of the leading causes of infertility and there is a chance for everyone with it to not be able to concieve.

So I dont want to hear that it will happen, I want to hear that if it doesnt happen I can get through this, that God has a better plan for me.

I dont know if I sound like a crazy person, or even if I am just feeling sorry for myself but truth is hearing this makes me feel aweful. I just want to feel like I can be open about this to someone and that they truly do understand and that they arent saying this just because they think it will make me feel better.

Can anyone relate??

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i haven't had a lot of the it will happen stuff cause we just started ttc and not a lot of people know, but i understand how people can make u feel. it's one of those things u don't understand unless you've been there.
i think a lot of people that don't have personal experience in pcos or infertility or even sickness in general say things to make people feel better, but really, when you're going through stuf like this there ain't much anyone can say that will make much of a difference. even someone who understands you can't make the problem better. its just comisserating! but thats why i love love love this site. there are so many people, somone is bound to be in the same boat as you. u r not alone!

Posted 05-01-2009 at 04:09 AM by JoyannaWants2BaMommy JoyannaWants2BaMommy is offline

i feel like this because i've explained to my husband of 10 years time and time again that i don't feel well. i have to here him call me lazy, sorry, and uncaring.

i hate that my husband and many other men seem to be just as needy as children. i'm not with that at all. i remember when i was pregnant with my 2nd child and i couldn't get out of bed, i didn't know what was wrong.

he complained about not having sex, me not cooking when i later found out i could have died. i had a severe case of anemia and dehydration i had to be placed on meds. so fast foward and things really haven't changed much. it kinda sucks but i don't have the energy to deal with him anymore. it's sad and too bad for him.

Posted 05-01-2009 at 11:41 PM by anti-bodee anti-bodee is offline

	anti-bodee, im so sorry you have to go thru that. i am very lucky that my dh is very understanding. someday they will grow up but sadly it may be too late to make a difference. ((hugs))
	Posted 05-02-2009 at 01:33 AM by JoyannaWants2BaMommy

antie-bodee, im sure what your dealing with is very tough sorry you have to go through. I get a bit nervous sometimes to tell ppl what i am going through because to them it might not be a big deal and im sure they dont understand so i dont want them to think im just whinning. but dont let anyone get you down. You know whats going on with you and how you feel. no one deserves to be treated that way.. good luck with the future, hope you can find someway to be happy and feel healthy.

Posted 05-03-2009 at 10:56 AM by barbieh007 barbieh007 is offline

Well, girl, it's your life. Take it in your hands and screw everyone else that doesnt matter. Speak up for yourself. Speak out or clam up. Shut up in the sense that if youve already explained the infertility aspect and the pcos aspect and ppl (family or not except ur spouse) still act like ..penises... then just don't talk to them about your thing at all. Tell them that. I say this from experience. I know exactly how you feel and no youre not alone and youre not weird or a frewak or a loser. This is not your fault. Be happy and healthy and if you and your hubby want a baby take the measures when youre ready. Its a hard journey so dont be naive or fooled. It will weigh on your relationship but it doesnt have to be in a bad way. We're here for you and I'm praying for myself and all yo u ladies and your hubbies that we all can be blessed with our little bundles of joy. Take care and hope this helps. If you want to talk or whatever you can drop me a line. It's all good.

Posted 07-01-2009 at 04:51 PM by Wonder_Woman Wonder_Woman is offline

thanks.. the past few weeks I guess havent been so bad I have tried to say less about all this to ppl because I know that they just dont understand. And unless you have gone through this type of thing they wont understand how we feel. I am learning to accept that I guess, although, I have my moments but who doesnt ya know. Well thanks for the comment, just knowing that other people relate and stuff does make me feel better.

Posted 07-08-2009 at 01:25 PM by barbieh007 barbieh007 is offline

	I'm soo sorry about you not having ANY support from your husband I myself am in the same boat he just wants me to get better so I can take cate of him like before I got sick he never has gone to any doctor appointments with me I have no family and no children other than him, I feel for you that's why I love this site because there is always someone here that understands.
	Posted 11-10-2009 at 12:18 PM by plan crazy

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