Butch like

sige621 · 05-11-2004, 01:15 AM

Hi all,
Well, it is official, my mom thinks I am a butch. I cannot help it if I look like a man. The PCOS caused hair and weight gain, and a deep voice. Even though I am the girliest girl you would ever meet, everyone knows I am a lesbian from the looks. And that is not a good thing living in Oklahoma. lol Any advice to make me look more feminine?

missmelanie23 · 05-11-2004, 12:12 PM

Why would you want to change the way you are? You look the way you look and that's that. Don't change your style for anyone, be it because some find you butch or some find that you obviously look more like a lesbian. It doesn't change the person you are and that's what important. Don't change because of what others say!

Wiggleynose · 05-21-2004, 09:57 PM

Okay, I'm not a lesbian or bi but I like to check out all of the sections.
If you WANT to look more fem then that's up to you. But if you do not then it's none of her business in my opinion and you should look how you want to look!

If you want to be more fem though you could do stuff like get your nails done (or paint them). Use make-up, curl your hair, etc. Wear girlie clothes.. all that stuff that makes girlies look all foofy and stuff. heh

Krystina · 05-23-2004, 03:49 AM

I think as long as you are comfortble in your own skin that is all that matters. I am a Girly Girl and that does not make me any more of a women then you. Our Parents forget sometimes regardless of change we are who we are . And Im sure you are beautiful the way you are

Butch Is not a bad thing

......I promise.
And when your mom starts to see that what is on the outside is not going to change who you are inside maybe she will learn to not sweat the small stuff.

Now unless you feel you dont want to e such a tom boy there is tons of things you can do to feminize yourself. Waxing,hair,makeup and wardrobe makeover. It's all up to how you feel.
I myself think butch women have a special beauty about them.Just be true to you and the rest will fall in place.

Good luck.

squidge63 · 05-23-2004, 08:49 PM

I agree with the other posts on here, be yourself, i spent too long trying to be what i wasnt.. (not that i didnt have a great time along the way..lol)..
I am very masculine looking, never mind about attracting other lesbians, i get more attention from the gay men..lol. Luckily i have a girlfriend, and she loves me the way i am.
Never came out to my parents, and not going to, its not worth the hassle, and i know deep down they know.

bazsmommy · 05-24-2004, 01:24 AM

Not trying to beat a dead horse but i agree be yourself. If you are girly then be girly, if not then don't be. I am a married bi and i can't find woman as play partners because i don't lool like a bi/lesbian. I would love a girl partner but i am so girly girl that no one would ever guess that i am what i am. Sometimes i wish i was more butch or less afraid to ask a girl that is looking at me that special way if she is interested. You know what i mean. So be who you are. Love Holly