Can some one give me some advice or words of encouragement pls?

ednviv01 · 05-26-2009, 10:25 PM

Hello. I am new to the whole computer and blogging program. I wanted to know if anyone can answer some questions that I have about transabdominal cerclage. I know I don't have the abbreviations together but I will certainly try.

It all started in 2003 for me. I was pregnant with my first child. We named him Donovan James. One day I was feeling this horrible pain in back and when I went to the doctors they advised me that I was 3cm and was about to deliver. I was 20 weeks. The doctor's had no clue why this occurred. I was devistated.

My long recovery from depression ended in 2005 when I found out that I was pregnant again. This time with my daughter. Tamia Nicole. I had the pleasure of spending 1hr with her in my arms before she passed away. See unfortunately at 22 weeks the same occurred. I delivered early again. This time the doctor's finally gave me an answer, so I thought. They told me that I had an IC.

I didn't think I was going to get out of my rut until 2007 when I was told I was 3wks pregnant. But instead of feeling happy and joyous I was nervous,scared and depressed once again. At 13wks I had a cerclage put in. The doctor's thought it was the perfect solution. 20wks came and went and I thought, "I made it passed the hurdle! I can do this." At 24wks I went to a doctor's apt and found out that once again I was 3cm even with the cerclage and an emergency cerclage would have to be performed. I couldn't believe it! 24hrs later I developed a horrible infection and was told either I deliver now or I could loose my life as well as my daughters. They had me on so many drugs and medications that when I finally woke up I was told by my husband that we had lost our third child. A little girl we named Leticia Denise.

What I am feeling now and have been feeling for the past 6yrs is undescribable. I'm needing to know if there is hope out there for me. Any help or suggestions or anything that can bring my spirits up again. I thought I had everything. The house, the cars, the perfect husband, the job. But I would give it all up for the one thing that I so dear in my heart. A child. I live in Atlanta GA so if anyone has anything they can share please do so.

Thank you for listening.

GroupieKilla · 05-26-2009, 10:38 PM

I can't relate as I have yet to concieve after trying for two years but I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how brokenhearted you must be and I wish I could just reach through this computer screen and hug you.

ednviv01 · 05-26-2009, 10:49 PM

Thank U for the reply. I wish you all the luck in the world! And I will be praying for you!

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Originally Posted by GroupieKilla

I can't relate as I have yet to concieve after trying for two years but I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how brokenhearted you must be and I wish I could just reach through this computer screen and hug you.

Binxsmommy · 05-26-2009, 10:56 PM

Welcome to SC (soulcysters), although under some pretty bad circumstances...

There is a thread for woman spefically with IC (incompentent cervix) which sounds to me what you were DX(dignosed) with because you were given a clearlage. You can chat with them I'm sure they have similar experiences and things to share with you.

Pregnanct with IC/IC Miracles part 6

Looks like that is "part 6" so you may need to start from the begining but apprently miracles do happen

ednviv01 · 05-26-2009, 11:16 PM

Thank u for the help. I want to get informed despreately.

Missyinbama · 05-28-2009, 01:32 PM

ednviv- I have actually just recently asked on the IC thread about a trans abdominal cerclage. I'm not 100 % what the cause of my recent loss was either a failed cerclage, or an infection that brought on the labor. Maybe both. Today is when I find out what happened. I'm sorry for all that you have been through and I can relate alot. I hope you find some answers, I have done some research online, and there's alot on there about the TAC. I'm hoping to get one just to beeven more preventive next time around.

dstaiger · 05-28-2009, 04:25 PM

i'm so sorry for your losses. it's heart-wrenching to hear a story like yours.

i don't know about TAC, but i am wondering if you've done a complete repeat loss testing. a lot of cyster have a problem where their Dr thinks they know what's going on and so don't do all the tests. i'd be concerned about MTHR and clotting factor (lupus anticoagulant and Factors III & V).

i'm sorry i don't know more. there is a thread in the trying to conceive buddies section - TTC after loss. (part 2) come join us in your ttc journey the support is great.

dianna

Reebekah · 05-28-2009, 11:09 PM

join www.abbyloopers.org to learn everything possible about the TAC. i'm so sorry for your losses -- good luck to you.

SheriKCMO · 06-02-2009, 01:16 AM

I honestly don't know how you have survived this. I am so sorry. My loss at 23 weeks was nearly the end of me, and I swear I don't know how some of you who lose so many can cope. My heart is aching for you. The TAC might be the right answer for you, or the original preventative cerclage might have been less than perfectly done or might have also needed bedrest with it. Mine were great, and I never needed bedrest. There are many women on this board who have carried to viability or even term with bedrest alone after similar IC losses but definitely many have done bedrest in combination with a preventative cerclage. That might be the answer for you. It is hard work, but after what you have endured, it will be easy. I wish you peace and a bright future with kids who get to fill your life with happy memories. (((((Hugs)))))

ednviv01 · 06-19-2009, 11:01 AM

I first wanted to thank everyone who has listened to my story. I appreciate all the advice that was given to me and believe me I have taken it all in. Today I am going to a specialist who deals with TAC and TVC to see what he can do to help me and my situation. I thinking positive so wish me luck!!! And thnx again everyone!