Catholic Cysters Corner - Page 110

juststartn · 12-10-2007, 10:15 PM

Hi ladies--long time no see, I know....

REALLLLLY long time (I think that I last posted in September, lol).

Alot has happened since my last post...DH IS HOME--FOR GOOD!!!!!!

He deployed June 1st for what was supposed to be a 15-18 mos deployment, but has been sent home to be retired. His herniated disks (which we knew were bad) prevented him from doing the job, so he's likely to be out of the army for good, by April. Whew. He got sent home in mid-Oct, so we've been trying to planout the next few months,getting the house ready to sell, packing up stuff, getting rid of stuff, etc. We're probably going to move out closer to DHs family, somewhere out in Ks/OK.

The boys are 7mos old...my "Met Miracle Babies" :-) They aren't huge, but they measure right at 50% for their adjusted age, which is normal for my babies...

I've gotten back on the met (I went off of it for a few months, and I am paying the price). I've still not had a cycle (I pumped for a couple of months, but my supply dwindled and finally died, since the boys never would latch on properly, and the pumping just wasn't enough to keep things stimulated...It looks like I *may* have ovulated this month, but we'll have to wait and see whether my temps stay elevated or not...

I've read the last, oh, about 12 pages or so...so I'm caught up--Carrie, I am SO sorry about your losses...What does one say, other than "I am sorry"...((HUGS)). Candice, how are things going for you? Brooke, how is your wee baby? Getting big?

For those who are having problems, please please please do NOT give up! It took me four years *undx, I might add* to conceive my first...I wasn't dx'd til Aug of 06...a month on met, and I somehow timed it just right...cause we got the boys (the twin part was a 21 wk u/s surprise, btw). PLEASE do NOT give up!! God's timing is perfect...even if it doesn't suit our plans and dreams...I think of that, every time I pray the third of the Joyful Mysteries...cause come on, what woman, at TERM, would want to be on a DONKEY, for goodness knows how long, only to deliver her baby in a STABLE?!? If the Mother of GOD can say "Okay, Lord, 'not my will, but Thine'", how much more can it mean for me to say the same?

I know it is hard..hard hard hard. Heart aching, soul ripping hard...shoot, my younger sister got pregnant before I did...unmarried (she was engaged)...had the first grandchild (a BOY) before me...I'd been married 4 plus years when I finally got pregnant...finally. So I know that God's timing is perfect...I don't know WHY I had to wait that long..maybe because I needed to realize that fact...maybe for some reason I will never know on this side of eternity...but remember that, in this time of Advent..of waiting...of preparation...of listening to the word of God...

(sorry. I just felt that needed to come out. There is always hope...there is always prayer...Our God is the God of Sara...of Hannah..of St Elizabeth, mother of John the Baptist...).....

Rachel

Swingin' Cyster · 12-11-2007, 11:07 AM

LADIES!!!!

I am officially in a relationship! The Catholic Match guy (Steven) came up to Michigan to meet me. It was kind of an arduous weekend. I was giving into the devil and had myself completely convinced that the two of us were not going to work out. I was so nervous b/c all my other experiences thus far have been the guy really liking me and me not liking him. So when he first arrived, I was very guarded and stand-offish. But he didn't let that stop him, he still pursued me. We went to Mass for the Feast of the Immaculate Conception and there my guardian angel was finally victorious and kicked the butt of the demon whispering in my ear. God talked to me instead and said, "Kara, what is the purpose of marriage?" and my good Fransican Univ training came out, "The purpose of marriage is sanctification - for each spouse to work and pray for the good of the other to grow closer to the Lord and join Him in heaven." And God replied "Yeah, now look at the guy sitting next to you. I gave you an easy one. I could have willed that you marry a pagan and struggle for the rest of your life but I gave you a devout, charismatic, Catholic boy who wants to be holy and is head over heels in love with you! Quit being such a punk!" A huge burden was lifted right then and like Tobit, the scales fell from my eyes. I was a different person after that, open and warm. We sat down the next day (Sunday) and had a very important talk. I wanted to know what exactly his intentions and expectations were. I'm 27 years old, not interested in a casual dating relationship. He completely took the reigns and told me, "Kara, I want to enter a relationship with you discerning marriage." Good answer! And then .... HE LAID DOWN GROUND RULES!!!

He wanted us to make sure we kept God as the center and wouldn't get too physical. He was very open with me about past struggles and how easily he can be tempted. (That being said, he is very affectionate and touchy-feely, but respectful too) And I shared with him about PCOS. I told him this could be a challenge in a marriage and I'd rather him know now and tell me if he can't handle it then when I want to marry him, find out then he can't handle it and be devastated. I was getting very emotional while telling him things like struggling with my weight, acne, thinning hair, bleeding problems and the possibility of infertility. He got up, pulled me to my feet, wrapped me in his arms and said, "Kara, you are beautiful." Sigh....
More happened, but that's just for us.

Thank you so much for all your prayers. Like Rachel said, God's timing is different than ours, but He knows how to do it right.
Love, Kara
O come, o come Emmanuel!

jorologrl · 12-11-2007, 11:39 AM

God bless you Kara. I'm so glad things are working out for you. Your story sounds similar to mine. And DH and I are still very happy with God at the center of our marriage. I'm very happy for you! We will keep praying for the two of you. God is good!!

Juststartn ~ Thanks for the words of hope and encouragement. They came to me right when I was needing them. We are starting a 2ww after ovulating for the first time since my MC last February. I am trying to remember to just be thankful for the ovulation... at least an opportunity for hope.

Blessings to everyone!!

Swingin' Cyster · 12-11-2007, 02:03 PM

Carrie -

The classmates of mine who were murdered were named Aaron Land and Brian Muha. There's information here: http://www.aaronandbrian.com/. I think some of the stories, especially from the parents, would be helpful for you!

<3, Kara

musicteacherfla · 12-11-2007, 11:20 PM

Hi, Ladies!

Kara, I am SOOOOO excited and happy for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was smiling the whole way through reading your message!

Please keep us posted on everything!

Rachel, it's good to see you're back! That's great that your hubby will be home permanently, even though it is not for a good reason (I hope he gets better soon!)

I am doing better emotionally, although I still am sometimes not motivated to do the things I'm supposed to do. My family in OK has been involved in the terrible ice storm, so I'm wondering how they are doing. They of course still haven't found Cori. Please keep praying.

I just finished my 4th round of Clomid a few days ago, and DH & I tried very hard to take advantage of that. I've actually been cramping a lot the last few days, and yesterday even saw some spotting. I'm not supposed to ovulate until today or tomorrow, so I'm wondering what this is all about. Perhaps I'm actually pregnant for a change!!!

LOL!!!! We'll know soon enough!! I'll of course keep you posted!

God Bless,
Carrie

Texanna · 12-12-2007, 02:17 AM

Hi Ladies,

I think that I might had Oed today. So tonight I am going to get DH to BD tonight. I am feeling really sad these days. This saturday will be one year since I lost my frist angel. I just feel sad and have a lot of heartache. I just can't believe that it has been one year and I am still not pg orhave a baby. I just wish I knew when it is going to be my turn.

Carrie- We have the same wedding anniversary! December 30th!!

Kara- Congrats on finding your new man. That is so exiciting.

Drebee- I am looking forward to starting the Creighton model the frist of the year. There is one doctor here in Austin practices the model. An interstenting thing about him is that he is not Catholic, but his wife has infertility issues. They used the model and she got pg. So he is a firm believer in the model.

Blessings,
Anna

wohiomom · 12-12-2007, 07:43 AM

Kara,

Just wanted to stop in briefly and say CONGRATS. I'll be praying for you and Steven. My daughter, the one whose a freshman at Franciscan, asked how the search was going a few weeks ago. I forgot what saint you were praying to about your future spouse but she loved it when I mentioned it to her months ago. Anyways I'm off today to do the drive(at least 4 hrs each way) to Franciscan to pick her up. She's done with finals at noon.

Other than that we're busy with the foster/adopt process. Hopefully we will finish it up by the end of January.

Becky

Swingin' Cyster · 12-12-2007, 11:36 AM

Thanks Becky!! Ask your daughter if she knows a Zach who's a member of Foot of the Cross household - he's my brother!!
I've been praying to quite a few saints, but the one that's a bit odd is St. Norbert. I felt very impersonal praying just for "my future husband" so I prayed for "my Norbert". It felt much more personal and real. And I figured Norbert was a good name to use b/c the likelihood that that was his name would be pretty small. If I'd used James I'd wonder if every James or Jim I met was "the one" you know?
Blessings on your adoption process!
Did your daughter join a household?
~Kara

Swingin' Cyster · 12-12-2007, 03:38 PM

BTW,

Happy Feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe

vieenbelle · 12-13-2007, 04:15 PM

Hey Ladies!

I'm new here and I just wanted to drop in and say hello to all you Catholic Cysters! My name is Dayna and I'm 20 years old. I'm an English Major studying in my third year in Ottawa, Canada.

I just had my diagnosis confirmed today, so please pray for me while I try and figure out what this all means. I'm so glad to see a group of women here who are praying through PCOS it gives me a lot of hope!

Thanks and God Bless!

elcmoonjumper · 12-13-2007, 09:48 PM

Hey guys I am sorry I was away for so long. I developed an intestinal disease similar to crohn's and was really sick all semester. Anyway I am on a new med and I finally have energy to post again.

Kara, congrats! I tried catholic match this summer, and dated two nice boys a few times, but I was too shy to kiss them. It was a problem so I stopped dating for now until I feel ready to get over my fear/dislike of kissing. It is so hard because I really like guys and get crushes just like every girl and want a boyfriend but then I freeze up when it comes to kissing. Anyway I am rambling, but I hope it works out for you! He sounds wonderful.

Dayna nice to meet you!

tigir · 12-14-2007, 04:18 AM

Wow ladies!!! This thread is really growing!

I am afraid I am going to have to do a few "blanket" posts until I can be on here more regularly and get to know everyone. LOL We are very busy here with Christmas and getting things wrapped up with DD's schooling until after Christmas break. This weekend is dedicated to putting up our tree and making gifts. Lots of family time!

Baby is sure growing and so is my belly! LOL Only 10 weeks left (give or take) and I will be holding my little one. I can hardly believe it!

Carrie ~ I am sorry they still haven't found your cousin. I will be praying.

Kara ~ HOW EXCITING!!!!

I kwym about those defeating thoughts. *sigh* I get those myself and boy are they hard to stop!

Congrats to all of those who are pg or have had their babies, or getting married!!! Welcome to all newbies and welcome back to everyone who has been away for awhile! LOL

Lynn ~ There is absolutely nothing wrong with NOT kissing someone! There are some people who don't kiss before they are married, so maybe the timing is just wrong for you, iykwim. Congrats on the weightloss btw! Wow, can't wait until I can say I only have 2lbs to lose.

If I am not on here everyone have a very Blessed Christmas and Happy New Year!!!

drebee12 · 12-14-2007, 04:16 PM

Hi All. I know I could probably just go look this up somewhere but I thought I would ask it here. What is the the Church's teaching on fertility drugs? Not things like IVF or IUI but drugs like Met and Clomid to help ovulation? I am just curious and I know you all will give me the right information. Thanks!

vieenbelle · 12-14-2007, 05:46 PM

Hey,

I'm no authority on this, and you should probably get another opinion other than mine, but as far as I can tell the Church is mainly concerned with keeping sex as a part of procreation. You can check it out in the CCC if you want, it's around 2375-2378 or so, where it talks about having children and infertility.

I'm actually kind of curious about this too, I'm hoping some others have more insight into this question than I do.

elcmoonjumper · 12-14-2007, 11:28 PM

Tigir - thank you!
Drebee - I'm sorry I don't know the answer, but vieenbelle said makes sense to me.