Catholic Cysters Corner - Page 14

musicteacherfla · 09-16-2006, 05:43 AM

Thanks, Jenny for filling us in on all of the "how-to's" of this website!

Tam, I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles. You certainly have my prayers.

I hope everyone has a blessed weekend!

Carrie

StephanieV · 09-16-2006, 04:14 PM

Tam - I'm sorry to hear about what you are going though right now. Marriage is soo hard, but it is the most wonderful union. Most of the time, we as women, have to be the stronger of the two. That means swallowing are pride and just letting go. A home always starts at the mother, because she is the one to hold everything togerter. I know you want to stick to your guns and not back down, but where will you be then. A man is always a man, and will do certain things, whether intentionally or unintentionally, that will hurt us. But we must forgive and be the better person and focus on the future. I'm sure you two have been through a lot together, good times and bad, I'm positive you can get through this. Your family is in my prayers.

Stephanie

tigir · 09-16-2006, 09:28 PM

Stephanie ~ All you said is true, and all of it I know - just doesn't make it easier. This is something that has happened before, quite awhile ago, and of course promises were made and forgotten - makes it hard to trust and hope. I know I need to, and that it has to start with me, but that is just the problem - I have gotten to a point where I just don't think I want to, I want him to do something about it this time, I am just so tired! Like I said, it is my hang up, so maybe some prayers that I can swallow my pride one more time...

Going to confession tomorrow, hoping it will help - I think things are on there way up, but it is definately 3steps forward, 2back. You know, it really is a rollercoaster...fast to get to the bottom, but slow going back up. Marriage is a wonderful union though, you just can't give up! I haven't yet, but right now I am trying to swallow a horsepill sized pride and I have a very touchy gag reflex!

ellie_anna · 09-17-2006, 01:07 AM

Hey ladies,

Hope everyone is having a good weekend!!! Mine was looking good until DH called to tell me his car over heated! Yipee Which means if it doesn't start I get to go pick him up at 11pm tonight. Have I ever mentioned how much I dislike cars.

Tigir, I will keep you and DH in my prayers! I have only been married for two years and have learned that ever challenge DH and I have had has made our relationship stronger! I hope that, that is the case for you guys to.

Carrie, good luck with your diet!

Good night everyone!

jennynd · 09-17-2006, 05:00 PM

Tam ~ I'm sorry to hear you & DH are going through such a hard time. I love what you said about the rollercoaster... fast to go down, but slow climbing back up. It is so true! I am there with you though ~ DH & I have had so many downs that it has taken us the full two years of our marriage just to get all the way back up to the top (if we are even there). Just hang in there, remember to forgive... and forgive, and forgive, and forgive....

Ellie ~ I'm not a big fan of cars either.

Too many bad experiences! GL!

09-17-2006, 05:54 PM

Hi all. I havent read anything in a while so sorry I cant do personals. I jsut wanted to pop on here and ask for some prayers. The last couple of weeks, I have been struggling with my commitment. I havent gone to Mass in 2 weeks (I never do that). I am coming around a bit today, but I have been feeling like maybe this isnt for me, crazy huh. I dont know whats going on. I know Im struggling with the question of "who I am". I thought I knew, but now Im not so sure. So if you could put me in your thoughts and prayers, its gotta help!

I will catch up and give my support to you all.

Tam, I did happen to see that you and dh are having a struggle. Im very sorry. Dh and I too have had our ups and downs. The first couple of years in particular. I try to see these times as a chance to grow. A step closer to finding out exactly who we are and how we are suppose to blend with each other. GL, I hope things get better soon.

musicteacherfla · 09-17-2006, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Julieh

Hi all. I havent read anything in a while so sorry I cant do personals. I jsut wanted to pop on here and ask for some prayers. The last couple of weeks, I have been struggling with my commitment. I havent gone to Mass in 2 weeks (I never do that). I am coming around a bit today, but I have been feeling like maybe this isnt for me, crazy huh. I dont know whats going on. I know Im struggling with the question of "who I am". I thought I knew, but now Im not so sure. So if you could put me in your thoughts and prayers, its gotta help!

I will catch up and give my support to you all.

Tam, I did happen to see that you and dh are having a struggle. Im very sorry. Dh and I too have had our ups and downs. The first couple of years in particular. I try to see these times as a chance to grow. A step closer to finding out exactly who we are and how we are suppose to blend with each other. GL, I hope things get better soon.

Dear Julie,

Welcome back! We missed you!

Of course, you have our prayers! It sounds like you're a bit depressed--am I right? What's making you feel that way--questioning who you are & stuff? I can tell you who you are--you are a daughter of God, made in the image and likeness of Him! How beautiful is that! He wants you to come to HIM with your troubles, down on bended knee. He wants to show you the way--you just have to ask Him--and then listen! You may not get the answer right away--and in the way you might expect--but you'll get an answer. The answer might be "no", "not right now", "yes", or something totally different. But no matter what the answer is, it is the right one for you--for God always knows what's best!

Our Loving God is a Father who is waiting to hold us in our arms--just like a daddy--and tell us that everything's going to be okay. And he'll even offer great advice! "Father knows best!"

Julie, I strongly urge you to start with praying to God--pour out your heart to Him, and then get to Confession! Missing Sunday Mass is a mortal sin. When we're in a state of mortal sin, of course we're going to feel down. I promise, after you do that, you will feel better!

I hope I didn't sound too preachy. I just felt called to share that.

God Bless,
Carrie

tigir · 09-18-2006, 05:55 AM

Ellie ~ Sounds like I am not alone in the "car trouble" dept. I will be thinking of you!

Jenny ~ The last time this "incident" happened was right around the time I had DD #1 which has been over 11 years ago, but it took me two years to finally work my way out of a depression over it. I was really distrustful of him for the first few years of our marriage and then we got to good and even GREAT! I am hoping we can work it out before the two year mark again.

Julie ~ I totally hear you! I sometimes get into those "funks" where I am just not sure I want to be Catholic anymore. I have found the best way to compat those feelings are to get up and go anyway - no excuses. It has even taken DH pushing me out of bed and practically throwing me out the door to get to mass, but once I am there I don't know why I was so reluctant. I think for me it is partially the driving. I live two hours away from church, so the thought of leaving my house by 5:30am just makes me want to stay in bed sometimes. Also, when I am at my lowest points I just don't feel like even praying - something I have neglected recently even though that is what I really need to be doing! I will be praying for you, even if I find it hard to pray for myself.

To Everyone ~ Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers over my DH and I! I am sure I am making him sound just horrible, even though that isn't the case - it is just hard to say anything when you are trying not to say anything, KWIM? I would like to edit something I posted earlier...While I do think I need to forgive - that part needs to start with me, I don't believe in the "Men will be Men" thing. I believe people are people and will make mistakes, but it is up to all of us, man or woman to fix what we have done wrong and make amends. It can't be one sided all of the time, there has to be a give and take both ways or it just doesn't work. Things have been going better, I just hate when I have a set back!

Well, I hope all of you have a great night!

StephanieV · 09-18-2006, 02:25 PM

Tam - When I said a man will be a man, I did not mean it to say that men will always make mistakes and never account for them. Please do not take my words out of context. I know that all people are human and everyone errs in their judgement and have to make amends. I was just trying to say that sometimes we need to forgive and forget to ease ourselves of more heartache. When you have an open heart without anger its easier to work through marital problems. Yea, I'm sure its easy for me to say since i'm not feeling the way you are right now. And I am very sorry you are going through this right now, but like i said before your family is in my prayers and I'm sure you can work things out.

Julie - What are you feeling that isn't for you? Are you questioning your choice of religion or faith itself? Your in my prayers.

Stephanie

tigir · 09-18-2006, 05:10 PM

Stephanie ~ I understand what you are saying about having an open heart, I think that is something I have had a hard time with a lot. Because this isn't the first time it makes it harder to forgive again - if it was something different it probably wouldn't be as hard, you know? Sorry if you thought I was upset at your post, I wasn't, I just get fired up over the "Boys will be boys" thing - I know you didn't mean it in that context, I guess I just took that and ran wild. LOL

You know, I have done my share of wrongs, but DH always forgives me - pretty easily. I don't know if that is more along the lines of how men are or just him in particular. I think sometimes women have a harder time with that - not always, or all women, but just in general? Not that I am making excuses for myself, but it is just interesting the differences. Thank you so much for your prayers!

Julie ~ How are things going today? I will say a prayer for you.

tigir · 09-18-2006, 07:33 PM

Julie~ I was looking at my missal today and this quote was in there, thought it might help....

My Daily Thought From the Following of Christ:
A generous lover resteth not in the gift, but in Me, above every
gift. All, therefore, is not lost, if sometimes thou hast not that feeling
(of devotion) towards Me or My Saints which thou wouldst have.

09-18-2006, 08:07 PM

Thanks for your prayers and support ladies.

Tam, how are you doing today? I am feeling OK, but guilty. I need to get to confession! What a beautiful quote.

Carrie, I have been a bit depressed, but it only stays a bit and then is gone. I repeat the cycle pretty often.

Stephanie, yes, my faith is what I was questioning. I think I get overwhelmed at times and want to throw in the towel. This is a struggle I have.

Does anyone else feel like you are giving a book report when you pray? Its not suppose to be this hard is it? Everytime I start to pray, I forget what I want to say. There are little prayers throught the day that I do OK with, but when its time for our "BIG" talk, I freeze. I do OK writing in journals. I might just have to pray that way.

tigir · 09-18-2006, 09:01 PM

Julie~ Today has been a very weird day! I started out in a really great mood, but one little comment over an email from DH and I was in tears! I feel like I am pg, but I know that isn't it. I think I am really just needing some time for myself that I am just not getting. Mom is falling apart and needs a tune up.

I understand what you are going thru with questioning your faith, etc. I have been Catholic for just over 7yrs. now and every once in awhile I think, why did I do this? Who is the heck am I? Is this right? What if I am wrong in the end? I always come back, but there is a constant struggle there. I usually come back stronger. I find that when I am depressed it is worse. I need to get to confession myself - I never made it church yesterday and I have quite a list to share.

CelticSpirit · 09-18-2006, 10:07 PM

Hi all! Sorry I haven't been around in a while.

I've been having a rough time with my kids lately and I'm really stressed out.

My special needs kids aren't getting the help they need and I know that I have to fight with the school system to get it. My daughter hasn't even been classified yet and I know that when I try to get the evals done, they're going to blow off my concerns. I'm finding that that guy running the special ed program has a less than stellar record. We moved to this town because of the reputation this school system had for helping students. Now, since this person took over, it's going down hill. It's going to be a huge battle and I'm praying that I'm prepared to get in someone's face to defend my children and their rights. God help me!

Please know that I read all the posts, but there was so much involved. You all had quite a chat! My prayers are with you all. I love this thread! You ladies are WONDERFUL.

As for the conception outside the marital bed thing...my opinion is that I can't judge anyone else for doing what they think is the right thing. I can pray for you all that you follow the teachings, but everyone sins. I just keep in mind, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone..."

Do I agree with IVF? No, I don't. BUT, I *can* understand the desire for a child can be so overwhelming. And, I've also been fortunate enough to be able to conceive with the help of clomid (and met). So, I don't think that I'm in a position to tell someone what to do. Just know that my prayers are with you.

09-19-2006, 03:06 AM

Stacie, Hugs. Im sorry you are having a hard time getting what you need for your kiddos. THat must be frustrating!

Tam, is there anyway you can get dh or someone else to give you a break for a day or night. Its so important to work on ourselves to be the best we can for everyone else.