Catholic Cysters Corner - Page 59

tigir · 12-17-2006, 07:50 PM

Congrats Tiffany!

: I really enjoyed my first two pgs, but with #3 it just seemed like, where is the baby already?!?! LOL Enjoy!

Carrie ~ I am sorry about the BFN!

It is possible to get a negative and still be pg, so I would definately test again if AF doesn't show up, and if you still get a neg and AF hasn't shown up, still having symptoms, etc. Go in and have a blood test, those are usually right every time.

Rachel ~

I am really this clueless in person too. lol Stuff goes over my head like you would not believe - no, I am not blonde, but I have a sister who is, does that count?

Well ladies, I missed mass today, I am so frustrated!!!

The roads are clear so I figured I could do it this morning and DH would watch girls like normal, but we had a fight yesterday and it got pretty ugly and then I was up until 3am this morning cleaning house and just being awake. I had a hard time falling asleep and by the time I got up it was too late for morning mass and then DH had stuff to do this afternoon and that left me with the kiddos so I thought I would see if BIL would watch the babies while Anna and I went to confession, but we were running behind and I ended up calling him back to break his heart that his goddaughters wouldn't be visiting after all. *sigh* I am just worn out! I have been a crying wreck since our fight yesterday - of course the fight was stupid, they usually are, but after the last few weeks and all of the tragedy with people we know and then our usual stuff on top of that I am just a mess! AF still isn't here and I am hoping she shows up soon so this emotional stuff will not be so bad. Please pray for me gals, I am having a hard time even mustering enough strength to get up and to my duties to my kids and DH - I am really having a hard time with prayer, it just isn't happening. I will probably get off of here and pray, it does help to vent, but just want to cry myself to sleep right now.

musicteacherfla · 12-17-2006, 11:49 PM

Thanks, gals for all your support and prayers! I will test again in about a week (maybe Christmas Eve?)

Tam, I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time. You continue to be in my prayers. Are you having that rough weather like everyone else in the NW? My hubbie's from Oregon, so most of his family is out there.

Talk to y'all soon--have a blessed week!

Carrie

tigir · 12-18-2006, 05:08 AM

Carrie ~ It has been pretty nice actually. We did have a big wind storm the other night and the power was out for a short while, but mostly just crisp and clear.

I think all of the snow is gone now, but it is supposed to do a little this weekend. I am hoping it waits until I can get to church! It is at these times especially I am wishing I lived in the same town as my parish. *sigh*

Is anyone else out there feeling the pinch as Christmas is only a week away? I have a gift to make that will take me most of this week - on top of other things. I don't usually stress too much, but this year it seems like I have just been non-stop busy the last couple of months and not able to catch my breath! I think I will feel beter once the family get-togethers are over. I will have DD home and DH took the day after Christmas off, so hoping we can just spend some time as a family (and hopefully no fighting!). He came home in a grumpy mood tonight, thinking I was going to be in the same mood and I wasn't, had a pretty good day despite earlier rant. SOOOOO, he came in and made everyone cry! LOL Poor guy, too much estrogen in the house these days. lol I am up too late again, but maybe will head to bed and offer a massage. After all, it isn't all one-sided. *sigh*

CelticSpirit · 12-18-2006, 03:45 PM

Tam--I'm so sorry to hear about the fight.

Aren't most of them just plain STUPID!? I swear...when I think about some of the stupid things I've fought with my DH about, I just want to ask for a smack upside the head! LOL

I'm sorry you missed mass yesterday. I did too! UGH!!! It's so hard to go with Elisabeth at her age because she doesn't want to sit still and we miss most of the mass even if we sit in the chapel because we have to chase her.

Carrie--my prayers are so very much with you!!!!

I have a request ladies...can you all pray for me? I got AF (or what I thought was AF) last week. I am supposed to go on meds for depression and I'm not supposed to take them if I'm pregnant. Well, my temps were all wacky even after AF so I took a HPT and it was positive. I'm waiting, very impatiently, for the doctors to call me back so I can get blood work done and it's 3 hours later and no call back. Please, please, please, pray for me. I don't think that there would be anything left in there, but I would truly love to have another baby. This is so hard for me and it's really driving me crazy. If it's another loss, I'm going to NEED those antidepressants even more than I thought before.

And, yes, I did have lots of pregnancy symptoms even during the week of "AF".

I'm trying to hold myself together, but it's not going so well.

musicteacherfla · 12-18-2006, 09:06 PM

Hi, Ladies!

(((((HUGS))))) for everyone! Stacie, I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time! I really hope it's not another miscarriage for you! I'll be praying!

Love,
Carrie

juststartn · 12-18-2006, 11:35 PM

Stacie, I know it is probably not that comforting, but I know of a large number of women who have had "periods" during their pregnancies. One who had it alll the way thru at least one of hers. I know a number of women who have had this "difficulty" with later pregnancies--not their first.

You could easily have had that happen. I will pray for a positive outcome for you.

Carrie, I am sorry to hear that it was a BFN. I don't know anything about whether bd'ing the night before will affect the outcome...so I will be praying for you, dear!

Tam, sorry about the fight. DH and I have had some interesting ones before. But you know, you all have been under alot of stress lately, and that is bound to affect things--even if you don't think so...we all process things differently, and so that is likely playing a part.

I missed Mass this weekend too (boy, Ol' Scratch was workin' overtime, wasn't he?!?) I was able to make daily Mass today and snagged Father for confession afterwards--so, YAY! I'm clear!

Now, just to make sure it doesn't happen again! And to get DH to go to confession of his own free will and volition and make a great, sincere confession and act of contrition...

Maybe ya'll can pray for that? He NEEDS to go, badly. And nothing I have said (admittedly, I haven't said anything to him lately....but he knows how I feel) has changed his perspective on the issue.

Thanks, ladies.

Good news, wee one/s is/are wiggling about....I get quite a bit low and to the right, and again up top and to the left...and then to the right and top...and then back down low on the right. And my stomach is big and hard (it was hard almost two weeks ago--and high then, too)....I mean BIG big. Not just fluffy big. Sheesh. I don't know what to think. I am sure DH is a bit concerned (I won't say scared)....

Rachel

CelticSpirit · 12-19-2006, 11:32 AM

Rachel--we have the same issues here getting DH to go to confession. What is with these men? I swear!

As for me being "pregnant". I'm trying to remain as hopeful as possible. I have to go pick up the scripts for the bloodwork in a few minutes and then run over to the lab. I'm trying to think positive, but I'm just so unsure. Which causes a whole range of emotions. God has His plan...I just have to keep that in mind!

Just pray that if the results are negative, that I won't find out until AFTER Christmas. The last thing I need is knowing that I had a loss right before Christmas. It HAS happened to me before and it really sucked. God saved my sanity (this is total irony) because my son wound up in the hospital for a bad stomach virus on Christmas Eve. God gave me something to take my mind off my pain.

juststartn · 12-19-2006, 03:13 PM

Stacie, I know what part of DHs issue is, at least. When he was about confirmation age, he had a priest tell him that "one only needed to go to Confession once a year, and that anything more often than that was just a waste of the priests' time". He doesn't get it why I go so often. I mean, I am a SAHM! How much "trouble" could I get into? LOL If he only knew!! (ok, so maybe I shouldn't laugh, but you all kwim!).

Now, admittedly, the MINIMUM that one must go is once a year. MIN-I-MUM. But hey, we aren't here to do the minimum and just skim by, right? I mean, you don't hear about saints going to confession once a year--they went weekly, or even daily in some instances! Now, I aim for every other week, unless something happens (like missing mass this weekend, so I took care of that asap), then I may go once a week.

But why do I go every other week/once a week? Cause I know that A) I forget things. EASILY. And I don't want to forget anything (even though I know that venial sins are forgiven via the Mass, it is always a good idea to mention as many as possible in the confessional, too) B)I need to be kept accountable. It's easy to write things off as "oh, it's not that serious" when one only goes once a month, or once a quarter. But when you go every other week, or every week, you see things more clearly, I think. Time doesn't diminish the seriousness of it....plus, you stay more aware of what is and isn't sinful on a day to day basis. Habits have a harder time to get established when you are going frequently.

Besides, I like knowing I am not committing sacrilege by receiving unworthily. It bothers me ALOT because I know that my dearest love doesn't seem to "get" that. He has missed Mass ALOT since he returned from Afghanistan in March, and has not, to my knowledge, been to confession once in that time--yet has no problem going up to receive--compounding his sins...and all of my worries, all of my prayers, all of my anxiety does nothing to convince him how important it is. So I keep praying. That's all I can do...it's all I know how to do!

He won't read anything about it (I've tried), so the only way I really get anything across, is by teaching the dc...esp the oldest, since we talk about things like sin, confession, grace, and the Eucharist, ALOT (we homeschool, so it's really easy to fit in to the daily schedule, when "Catechism" is already on there, lol). Its clear as a bell to her, but he doesn't get it.

I just pray he "gets it" before it is too late, iykwim.

I know my contrition is not always perfect. I'm not quite "there" yet in some ways. But darn it, I'm working on it (another benefit of frequent confession). I can't imagine only telling DH I was "sorry" for the things I had done that made him angry or served to separate us--even a little bit--once a year. I mean, surely he would not like that. (I can imagine me telling him, "Oh, I'll tell you sorry before Easter. Once a year, you know.....that's all I have to do to make things right between the two of us." And my relationship with God is supposed to be even greater/deeper than that...so how on earth can I justify not saying I'm sorry more often than that).

I know I am preaching to the choir, though. I just have to get these sorts of things off of my chest sometimes....

Rachel

CelticSpirit · 12-19-2006, 03:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by juststartn

I know I am preaching to the choir, though. I just have to get these sorts of things off of my chest sometimes....

That's US!

I totally agree with your WHOLE post. Maybe we should hold back on OUR apologies to THEM for a whole year! I don't think they'd deal with it well. LOL

musicteacherfla · 12-19-2006, 09:00 PM

[quote=CelticSpirit;1888196138]Rachel--we have the same issues here getting DH to go to confession. What is with these men? I swear!

I'm sorry you ladies have so much trouble with your husbands going to Confession. I wish they were like my hubby, who's on his way to Confession right now--voluntarily! Y'all are in my prayers!

God Bless,
Carrie

juststartn · 12-19-2006, 10:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CelticSpirit

That's US!

I totally agree with your WHOLE post. Maybe we should hold back on OUR apologies to THEM for a whole year! I don't think they'd deal with it well. LOL

Oh, no. He definitely would NOT like that at all. Of course, I am getting better about admitting my wrongs and asking for forgiveness from him, when I've misstepped, or some such, and doing it promptly.

It's no fun, knowing that any time, he could drop over dead...or be in a car accident..and I would KNOW that he hadn't been to confession...and knowing that...he doesn't even realize how much that bothers me.

Of course, I've been accused of (ahem) "acting like I think a saint would act" (I'm sorry--how else am I supposed to GET TO BE ONE!?!?)...drives me up the bleeping wall.

Oh well

Rachel

CelticSpirit · 12-20-2006, 12:39 PM

Rachel--I so understand. I guess we can only hope that God will be forgiving of their errors if the worst should happen. Of course, I can only hope that God would forgive me for smacking DH upside the head over it all!

I have a question for everyone here...

Does anyone else get all weepy over the gospel readings this time of year? I swear, Luke 1:26-38 KILLS me! I read it and start bawling! I guess it's just so amazing and such a testament to how Mary was so willing to do what God asked of her.

I just can't even put it into words...it just reaches into me and touches my heart and soul!

musicteacherfla · 12-21-2006, 12:05 AM

Hi, Ladies!

Stacie, I LOVE your new avatar! I can't say that I get weepy over the readings this time of year, but I think it's very sweet that you do!

Has anyone seen the movie The Nativity Story? DH & I saw it last weekend, and it was AWESOME! It really put things in a different prospective.

Ladies, please pray for the step-mother of the family my DH helped raise. She may have to have brain surgery this week. She was diagnosed with a blood clot on her brain this past weekend, and they're not able to determine the cause with an MRI--so they may have to operate. Her name is Cathy. She and her DH have only been married six months. Thanks for your prayers.

God Bless,
Carrie

CelticSpirit · 12-21-2006, 07:14 PM

Carrie--let me know if you want the avatar pic. I can send it to you and you can use it also! I will gladly share my goodies!

Update on me--I'm not pregnant. I might have been. I might not have been. I'm definitely not now. I'm so depressed over it, you can't imagine. Can I crawl in bed and let the zup-zup's overwhelm me?

At least this time the doctor AND the nurse, were both really, really nice to me. There is one positive to it all.

It's just hard because DH isn't on the same page as me about having more kids. I can't just get the clomid script and be on my merry way. I could but it's not exactly a nice thing to do to my DH and I can't do something like that to him.

Anyways...

Hey Kara--where are you? Or did I miss your post saying that you were in the middle of something big?

I've been lost in my own world lately, forgive me!

Where is everyone else? It seems like we're missing some folks.

Rosebudlife · 12-21-2006, 09:19 PM

Hello! It's me the hidden new lady who reads everyone's messages, but doesn't take the time to write. The other day, I actually responded and had 3 very juicy paragraphs to contribute, but I got impatient at the end of my school day and the computer was extremely slow. So needless to say, the post didn't go through. I had commented on the hubbies and confession, but I think what's been said is enough.

My biggest concern of the day(s) is that I am extremely frustrated with this PCOS diagnosis, and I guess God is really trying to teach me that I just *have* to let go of the reins. I haven't been on my meds for more than a month, so I should let them do thier work too, but it is so heartbreaking each month since we've been trying and I end up with my thermal shift on day 18 and then start with the prespotting and of course AF comes into town. So my questions are for all of you... I noticed that a lot of you have had children, or are trying as well. Did your children come before the diagnosis or were you on meds and they helped? Did you have to take clomid for it to work? Does PCOS ever get better?

I'm on Metformin and Thyroid, and now my doctor put me on Prometrium. Will the Prometrium help with the hormone regulation? Will I stop prespotting? With the slim chance this month that I am pregnant, do I keep taking the Prometrium? I have contacted my doctor, so she'll answer that one too, but I am just so new and in the dark about this that I am searching for answers on all sides. I have read a lot of the FAQ's on the main page, and will continue to search for info, but I don't want to become totally obsessed with this issue. I'm just super tired of being frustrated, and I have even suggested to my husband that we put it on the backburner, but he insists that we should try every month and if it is God's will it will happen. I feel like I have stressed so much about the issue and hoped so much that it's not helping, and I read in Marilyn Shannon's book that it's probably best to just forget about it for a while and once the stress of trying stops, then it is more conducive. I went through so much last year -- the accident was only the tip of the iceberg. There were plenty of other stressful events that I believe caused my hormones to totally go out of whack...

Another thing.... how in the world can I stop drinking coffee???!!! I am so addicted to the horrible stuff. I like the taste so much and it's one of the worst things I can do for my hypoglycemia/insulin resistance. I don't like the thought of drinking decaffinated because of the probable chemical process they use to take out the caffiene.

So, I'll stop babbling. I'm really looking forward to reading your stories. I realize you have probably shared them many times before, but I don't have time to peruse through the last 59 pages. What have you tried? What works? Has anyone used Vitex and had good results? I bought the tea, but don't make it enough because it's so time consuming.

Anyhoo... no more typing... Btw, I'm 30 right now, so I realize I have plenty of childbearing years left, but I was praying for 5 or more kids.... It's possible, but it would require less breast feeding instead of the desired 2 years (imo).

Ok. Bye!

Amy :-)