I have a question regarding a sensitive issue and I know you ladies can help. My friend lost her 7 month old daughter 10/07. Her birthday is 3/22. She would have been two. I became very close to the parents because of this sweet baby girl and I want to let them know that I am remembering her and missing her with them on her birthday. What is a good gift idea? I want to be sensitive to them, something simple to let them know she is not forgotten. I wanted to get this done wwww.namesinthesand.blogspot.com but they are not taking names right now. Any other suggestions?
My sister's first child was stillborn at full term, this was ten years ago last August. I sent her a card, it was hard finding one that fit for the occasion. Most of the bereavement cards were meant for a recent loss, and the other cards didn't seem fitting. I did eventually find a card I thought fit, and I wrote a note in it letting her know that her child is not forgotten. I let her know that I knew how difficult August was for her, and that I missed her baby too. She said that meant a lot to her, no one else acknowledged the loss... it's been ten years, people just assumed she was over it, but I knew better. You never get over losing a child, you just learn how to function again. That baby will always be missed.
I think it's wonderful that you are thinking about her.
I'm sure that even just letting her know that you are thinking about her, and remembering too, will mean a lot to her. If you want, I think a card, or flowers, or a letter, would be a nice gesture too.
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I think a card is plenty, but if you want to give a gift as well, donating to a charity in honor of the child is great. One of my friends donated to the heiffer project when we lost Mary Catherine, and it meant so much. If not for my baby, that contribution to someone's chances at making a living and sustaining their own family wouldn't have happened. Whatever you think the parents would be touched by. You could also plant a bush or tree in your yard and tell the parents.
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I like the donation or tree idea. You could also find a pretty garden stone. I like the ones that say "Peace" or "Grace" but you can find mosaics too. There is a site that does personalized garden stones. I think it's great that you want to celebrate her birthday. What a great friend you are
I think it is so nice of you to rember your friend's loss.It's too often that people forget how hard it is to lose someone even after years. I think a card and a donation to a charity is very special. Also,just letting them know that you haven't forgotten
I love the names in the sand site. How thoughtful of you to remember your friends at this time. I think the donation is perfect - I know the arbor day foundation will plant a tree in memory of someone and will keep a registry of each tree and who it honors.
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