Hi girls. It's been a while since I've been here but I don't have anyone else to talk to. I am so completely lonely! Poor dh is working so hard to get his degree and provide for our family, he isn't ever really home. We don't really communicate on the phone so I don't get a chance to really talk to him. My mom and sisters are great to talk to but they all have their own problems and I feel guilty complaining to them, knowing that their lives are worse off than mine. Plus, I don't like to share too personal information with them about dh because I don't want them to form judgments about him.
How do I get over this? I don't make new friends because it is too much work to get to know them and vice versa, just to find out that we aren't really that compatible. My old friends all live too far away to spend any time with... I'm just lonely but I'm not willing to socialize with others. I just want dh at home.
Thanks.
LYnn
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Im sorry to hear you are so down.I am in a simuler situation,but i am not married and my bf and I live with his parent.He works all the time and my friends and family live four hours away.Any way I just wanted to say I'm sorry and hope things get better for you soon
Lynn, hope you have a happier day. It is hard to get out and make new friends, especially if you're a little down. Do your friends have a computer? Maybe you could chat with them that way. You can always "talk" here of course. Hang in there. It's almost Spring and I think almost everyone feels alittle better then Lendi
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I'm just lonely but I'm not willing to socialize with others.
I'm not trying to be unsupportive, but this sounds like a self-perpetuating problem. I really can sympathize with you, because it's hard for me to make myself get out there and make friends. Usually I'll make a friend, have a good month or so being friends, and then drift apart or find out we don't have enough in common. But this last time has really gone on a lot longer. I met a lady at my work, we have lunch together every day and maybe about once a month we get together outside of work. You have to keep putting yourself out there or else you'll just get lonelier. I know how it is to want DH to be home, but since he's working and getting an education, you need to try to support him, even though it's no fun for you, and it's probably no fun for him either. I bug DH all the time on the phone because I miss him, but I have to try to remember that too (what I just said above). The time will come when school is over and he can be home more. But even then, you don't want to be solely dependent on DH for company. That can lead to a lot of stress on both of you and your relationship. It sounds so cliche, but try to start up a hobby. Take a pottery class - that's what I want to do - or another class. Take a language class. Join a book club. Join a gym. If you're religious, do more women's activities with the church/synagogue. Try to meet up with some cysters in your area. You've got to do something to occupy your time and you could really make some lifelong friends out of it. You can't give up. I hope it hasn't seemed like I'm fussing at you, I am supportive, and I can relate to what you are going through.
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Jan/Feb - Clomid 150mg, O'd, BFN
Feb/March - taking break due to 3-inch cyst
March/April - Clomid 150mg, praying...
Thank you everyone for your support and honest feedback. I have since had my synthroid dosage adjusted and am feeling much better all ready (of course, I just spent a nice weekend with dh too)! I do belong to a church but I don't usually go the the monthly activities because I work all day and then go to classes at night. But, I think you are right, I should make more of an effort to get to know those women. It might really help.
LYnn
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Now *your* mailbox is full! LOL I just tried to send you another private message. Why don't we switch to email? My address is kswinton at hotmail dot com.
Combat Loneliness! 
Lendi
