Coming out to my son

Tinkertaz · 11-03-2005, 09:52 PM

I was married to a man for 8 years and I thought in love with him. But the sexual attraction between both of us was never there. The whole time I considered myself bi. But now looking back...I realize I really did love him with all my heart but was never IN love with him. I was mistaking the closeness I had with him with love. When I look back I see we were always just really good friends and very comfortable with eachother. I wish I had realized that at first ...we hurt eachother way too much because of it. He was also very feminine.
Anyhow...lesson learned.
Im gay. And I'm not out. I am going to move in with my beautiful girlfriend in December but theres a big problem. I have a 12 year old son and he loves her to death too. He will be going with me but I havent talked to him about my relationship with her. As far as he knows we are just friends. Does anyone have any advice for me. I'm sure he knows somethings different but how do I tell him? I am scared he will not be able to deal with it.

bluedragonfly2000 · 11-04-2005, 09:20 AM

Hi, I know that when I told my mom, I sat her down and said this is who I am - do you have any questions? I think if you are open and allow him to ask questions that would help. Perhaps you can find a book for kids about coming out that you could read together as a starting point for the talk

keep in touch
Mel

Tinkertaz · 11-09-2005, 06:34 AM

Thanks very much for the advice. I know I just have to tell him. In a sad way I wish everyone would just confront me so that I wouldnt ever have to "bring it up" I wanted an easy out but I know wthere isnt one.
Thanks for your support
M

11-09-2005, 09:30 AM

Best of luck to you for your future.... :flowers1:

bluedragonfly2000 · 11-09-2005, 02:06 PM

Good luck, I know that for a long time I would hint to my mom and just wish she would ask me. I thought that that would have been easier, but that didnt happen so I did have to come out and tell her. She seems to think someone has talked me into being gay. I know that this is just her way of trying to figure it out and come to terms with it which I am ok with. Let me know how it goes.
Mel