confused 17 year old with questions!!!!

crazydishy · 07-13-2002, 04:07 PM

hiya girls,
sorry i havent been on for a while i hav been sooo busy......u probs already kno my story i am 17 & i diagnosed with PCOS over a year ago. Well i hav been with my new boyfriend for a couple of months now & i now felt ready to hva sex with him. The only thing was i wasnt quite sure if having PCOS wouold effect me or not. Well i tried to hav sex wiv him neway....& i didnt bleed like i thort i wud coz i made him stop because of the pain. It was a total disaster & very embarassing!!!!! I am sooo confused please help me.....my boyfriend thinks i dont like him because he says i was so nervous that i wudnt let him near enough to me to hav sex.....we did kinda do it tho but i was wandering if ne1 knew if havin PCOS would cause me any problems with sex.......please help me...u r the onluy people i can talk to who understand!

thanx luv u all....a very confused crazydishy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Tange · 07-13-2002, 06:47 PM

PCOS shouldn't cause sex problems. It causes ovulation and cyst problems. Not everyone bleeds the first time. I didn't and I also felt so much pain that I made my first stop. Just take it easy next time. BUT don't have a next time if this guy is not the right one. I am no one to tell you to wait until a true love comes along and you've dated him for a LONG time but it is the better thing to do. BUT if you do decide to do it....remember to use acondom and take it slow. Some lubrication may even help take the ease of the pain away. Keep me updated and tell me how it goes and what your choice is. Good Luck!

Starr · 07-14-2002, 01:08 AM

Hi!
I'm so sorry your first experience of sex with your boyfriend wasn't a good one, but there's really no need to be worried about your PCOS affecting you when you have sex, it shouldn't make any difference as far as I know.
I do know lots and lots of people who don't have PCOS who've had the same problem though, especially the first time they tried to have sex...it's all to do with one or both of the partners being nervous or selfconscious and it's VERY common. It feels pretty bad at the time and it makes you both feel confused about how the other person feels and why it went wrong, but the important thing is to try to make sure you both feel comfortable and ready to have sex, and RELAX!! because if you're worrying about something then it can mean that you're very tense and then it can hurt. It's not so very long since I had a smiliar experience - it was really embarrassing, and I didn't feel like I could talk about it to my boyfriend...isn't it silly, how you feel close enough to someone to have sex with them, but not close enough to talk about it!!??
Basically just take it one step at a time (easier said than done with some guys, their trousers are on the floor as soon as they get a hint that sex is coming up!!) and if you're both comfortable with it then it'll happen, and you'll really enjoy it!

Good luck!

scarlet · 07-14-2002, 06:26 PM

My first time was VERY painful and also for the next few times. It just takes time and practice I think. My friends have also experienced this. Don't worry, it will get better and soon very enjoyable

Scarlet

Aliya · 07-14-2002, 07:25 PM

Honi, trust me pcos has nothing to do with your sex life. me and my boyfriend have an active sex life with no problems. pcos just has to do with hormones. my first time i didn't bleed but it did hurt. just explain to you boyfriend that it hurts your first time. trust me in time it will hurt less as you get used to him. honi alot of it hurting may have to do with you being nervous. if you calm down and relax and not think about how you have pcos and things will go smoother next time.
the mind is a powerful organ and if you doubt yourself you body will respond to that. when you are ready to try it again just remember to relax and it will happen for you. i promise

PCOTeen · 07-16-2002, 10:55 PM

I do have a medical stance on this. There is a condition, which may be associated with PCOS that causes an excess of bacteria in the vaginal canal. I had it twice, and I am not sexually active, but it did hurt VERY badly to get my physical done. They do a simple pap smear and give antibiotics. I am cured now, but it seems to come back occasionally, which makes me believe that it has to do with various horomone levels. Just my two cents.

Slyprincess · 07-29-2002, 09:43 PM

I am only 16 but love my boyfriend very very much he has been there through the whol diagnosis of pcos. we just started haveing an active sex life. but even though i am younger hear me out. #1 everyone is nervous the first time and not everyone bleeds. my first time hurt as well but he went slow and i didnt make im stop. if your boyfriend is playing this poor me act its not worth giving yourself to him. you dont want your first to be with someone you end it with a month latter me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years now and i dont regret a thing. as far as pcos affecting your sex life, it doesnt yes other facters can come in but just pcos does not do anything i went to my doctor before i had sex and i asked her about it. she told me that no it doesnt effect it at all!!! GOOD TIMES!! HEHE!!

Try it agian if your ready and you really want just make sure to breath and make him go very very slow!!
Big Smiles

Sonz · 07-21-2005, 05:56 AM

my first time with a man didnt hurt, tho i had previously been with a woman so i guess that might be why. tho the first time i did have something larger than a couple of fingers inside me it hurt like hell and i couldnt understand why in the world everyone thought sex was so great when it hurt so much. it does get better tho, time and practice and lots of lube. i have a question, can PCOS impact on a womans ability to become sexually aroused? cause i would think with all my hormones going wild and crazy (in a bad way not in a horny teenage way lol) that it would have an impact somewhat at least.

HOPE9800 · 07-27-2005, 10:20 PM

HEY i was diagnosed with pcos about a year ago. i recently became sexually active with my fiance and i was wondering what are my chances of me getting pregnant without using protection/birth control and no fertitlity treatment???