Confusion with BF

magicfish · 11-05-2009, 11:37 AM

Hello

I was diagnosed with PCOS recently and have spoken to my boyfriend of 3 years about this, he seems very dissmissive and not open to talk to me about it, i understand how it seems and how he must feel but i need support with this, im really struggling myself to come to terms with it, and every time i try and bring the subject up im directed to another topic or ignored.. Im really unsure what to say or do..

Any help advice or similiar situations out there?

Sasha

mzb · 11-05-2009, 11:57 AM

Just let him know how you feel and ask him to be supportive of you. Cause you are going to need a lot of support. But unfortunately if he is not willing to help you or whatever you may have to just find someone else that you can "vent" to about the situation. I almost guarantee you, you will find someone that is willing to be there for you. You will more than likely find another girl with PCOS and she may want to talk. I had to do that.

MrTW · 11-05-2009, 04:02 PM

when i found out about my gf having pcos, i was both unaware of its seriousness and kind of denial about it from the short research i did do on it.

your going to have to really drill it in to his head and let him know what pcos is all about. tell him its like a problem that can be solved, but only if hes willing to be there and help you solve it, like a puzzle of the human body.

monikak · 11-09-2009, 01:44 AM

The facial hair issue, is a problem that is brought up everY now and then by my boyfriend, he doesn't like to bring it up very often cause he knows it upsets me. I'm currently on progesterone cause birth control had 2 many side affects and I thread often. Does anyone have any suggestions on controlling hiritism? It makes me feel like less of a woman.

wannabamama1 · 11-09-2009, 05:35 PM

Heres the deal, guy's just don't speak the same language as us women do. So when he's acting that way he telling you he is either A) uncomfortable talking about the subject (meaning he is rather immature), B) trying to avoid the conversation (meaning he is not interested in children and paranoid this is your way of forcing the issue to be a priority topic of discussion), C) does not care, Or D) does not know how to respond (yet again immature).

I don't know you or him but seeing as how you two have been together over 3 years I would assume that your serious and old enough to understand the complications PCOS brings to relationships. IMHO If he's not strong enough to be there for you now it's better to find it out now rather than later.