Fostering can be a rewarding and challenging experience. I would suggest that you and your hubby are on the same page before doing it. It takes A LOT out on a marriage because you have additional stress in the house.
My ex and I fostered about 9 children in 5 years ranging in age from 2 to 18. I still have close relationships with 2 of them (one is now 22 and the other is 19 with a baby of her own which I am the godmother for and was there for the birth). I've had placements that lasted 3 day up to 1 1/2 years for one. Unfortunatly none of the children we cared for were available for adoption so there is time that you have to say goodbye.
You truly are doing a great thing being a foster parent, but be willing to give so much of yourself for little in return. The community and school districts are not as supportive as you would think, and don't be suprised at the sterotypes that your neighbors will come up with (especially with teens). Although it is a thankless job, I wouldn't hesitate to do it again. Needless to say, my ex and I got divorced because he got into a relationship with an 18 year old fosterdaughter we had. Take my advice and that of all of my trainers and advisors (I ignored it because I thought I could trust him)...don't leave your spouse alone EVER with a child of the opposite sex. It can get your spouse in trouble even if they didn't do anything inappropriate (unfortunately mine did do something inappropriate). Don't let my experience sway you though, it was a truly rewarding experience I will never forget. Good luck to you.
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anyways i was wondering if anyone has foster chidren and how it has worked out for you. i was placed in foster care when i was 15 and i believe my foster mother has really inspired me to do this. istill have a great deal of questions about this. i meet with a social worker on monday . 
