Constant worries

Jmacfeely · 02-18-2005, 08:15 AM

Hi there,

Just asking for a little help. Since being diagnosed with PCOS I have had a lot of trouble coming to terms with the possibility (not yet trying) that I might be unable to have children. I know logically that it could happen but it really depresses me. I'm on met and exercising and all that but it's an everyday battle ...as if I'm not a whole woman. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Thanks in advance.

TickledPink · 02-18-2005, 02:50 PM

Do you think you have depression? Or just the occasional blues?

Depression usually is dx'd after 2 weeks of some or all of these symptoms:
feeling sad
isolated
change in appetite
change in sleep
crying
fatigue
panic
worry

and there are many more..........

If you think this is the case you should talk to your doctor about it!

Best of luck!
keep us posted!

(((((hugs)))))

Jmacfeely · 02-19-2005, 02:32 AM

Hi there,

I do have depression. Doctor can't seem to help. I deal with my depresion through non-perscription means. This issue seems to be a constent in my head though.

Thanks,

TickledPink · 02-19-2005, 02:58 PM

ohhhh honey please if your doc isn't helping please see another! There are good meds and therapy that can help you! Don't be ashamed or worried to get help! You don't have to live in depression forever!

In my case the first drug I was pt on was horrible for me, but then my doc switched me and so far so good.

do it for yourself you deserve to feel better!

keep us updated ok!

(((((hugs)))))

if ya need to talk, just keep posting or pm me or email me tickledpink77@gmail.com

enligh10dwon · 02-20-2005, 01:07 AM

I often dwell on the possibility of not being able to conceive a child of my own and it is heartbreaking to say the least

The whole fertility thing or lack there of of pcos has kept me out of the dating scene because I sometimes feel unworthy. I'm not ttc, I'm in the beginning stages of a relationship and I obsess over how to tell my bf about this disorder. I fear that he won't want to be with me once he finds out how hard it's going to be for me to give him a child, IF I can give him one at all. And my logical mind KNOWS that I am totally jumping the gun because who's to say that he is indeed "the one" but yet and still, it's something I struggle with on a daily basis.

It had gotten so bad that I couldn't even go in to children clothing stores without experiencing some sort of dis-pair...I'm the only one out of my friends who has yet to have a child. My cousins are popping them out left and right and my aunts always ask me when I'm going to have one...And I'm like HELLO, it's not that easy for me

My family don't understand pcos being that I'm the only one who has been afflicted with it, so they tend to down play the tolls it has on my life. I have to constantly contend with my mother's demand for a grandchild and her constant belittling of pcos.

Since I've joined this site, I often "lurk" on the ttc and the pregnant cysters message boards whenever this has me feeling down. It helps to see the success stories and it gives me hope that it is in fact possible to conceive with pcos. I also search the web for every possible "remedy" I know that my weight plays a huge factor so I'm trying to incorporate a low carb/ exercise routine into my life style, so when the time comes that I do ttc, hopefully I won't have the weight thingy hanging over me.

We'll I've babbled enough, just know that you are not alone in this

*pEaNuT* · 02-20-2005, 01:57 AM

((((HUGS))))

Jmacfeely · 03-04-2005, 05:22 AM

Thanks ladies. I see my doctor on Mar. 10 about meds and questions. (It's that time of year again) so I will talk to her.

waiting.for.baby · 03-05-2005, 03:59 AM

I have the same worries as you too. I used to cry and cry....One time, it got so bad (while driving!) that I had to pull over to the shoulder. That's where I realized that I can't let it control my life like that. I was a soppy, emotional mess!!

I now journal daily...I write about not only feelings, but symptoms I felt that day. It helps me see if it's getting better. (physically, emotionally, mentally...etc.) It really worked wonders for me! So I suggest that maybe you give it a try....?

The hardest part is the fact that I work in a toy store....All the time, I see beautiful children and their mothers....And I wonder, "Why can they get pregnant so easily....?" And I always think to myself how I once took the concept of getting pregnant and giving birth for granted. I NEVER thought in a million years that it would be difficult for me. And, I always said that if I ever had fertility problems, that I would really commit suicide.................Well, I'm still here and hanging on. I KNOW I will bear my own child someday. And, if you believe, you will too! Just hang in there : )