Okay, I hope I'm not the only one who goes a little emotionally crazy during PMS. I mean really, out-of-my-mind crazy: I don't remember things, I blow up over crazy things, I burst into uncontrollable tears. It's usually a 5-6 hour period right before AF starts. Rationally, I know it's coming, but once I'm in it, I can't do anything to stop it. I get completely out-of-control, and I know I'm doing it, but it's like the hormones and my body take complete control over my brain.
The problem? DH thinks I should be able to control it. And he freaks out if I can't, and we end up yelling at each other over dumb stuff. Last night, I wanted him to come in 30 minutes before he'd planned just because I was feeling needy, and when he wouldn't do it (and for very good reasons, he wasn't finished with the project he was working on), I had a fit, a very childish fit. I tried walking away and ended up sitting in the driveway sobbing my head off, which made DH even worse because then he had to deal with me freaking out.
So, first, how can I control this? Is there anything I can do? DH suggested putting notes up around the house to remind myself that I'm just PMSing, but those don't work because when I'm in the moment, I don't look at them. I want what I want and I want it immediately.
Second, how can I help DH understand that I'm not entirely in control in those moments? He just does not get the whole hormonal cycle thing. When we went to the seminar on TCOYF (charting) he was blown away by all of the hormone stuff and really just doesn't seem to get how it works. On top of that, he doesn't understand the PCOS side effects (and he's read the books). He figures if my blood sugar is under control (the only thing he seems to have picked up on in this whole mess), then I shouldn't have any of those problems.
Help!
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Mandy (33) and Will (42): Married March 2002
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Mandy, I have some horrible pms a week b4 AF. DH just tries to avoid me. For a day, I just can't be patient. I try to keep my kids busy with other things besides me. Their dad will play with them, while i hibernate..LOL!
I don't have advice, but to warn DH and ask him to do his own thing during that day, so you can pass through it, without him being there to witness it.
I am sure someone will have some good advice for you..
So Here's a bump!
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I feel for you so I get downright evil that last week before AF. I wish I knew of a way to control it, ohhh how I do, but sadly I don't have an answer for that one. My evil PMS caused me to have relationship problems with both friends and boyfriends all my adult life. Everyone in my life knows to just leave me alone and avoid me during that time (and bring me 75% or higher cocoa chocolate ). But there were many rough years before my partner and everyone in my life could understand and deal with me during those times. I do my best to avoid confrontation and just stay alone and calm. If I start to feel that flood of emotions PMS can bring, I'll apologize and just walk away or end the conversation.
Since you've tried explaining things to DH, all I can think of is bring him along to your next endo or GYN appointment. Have the doctor explain it to him. Sometimes having someone "official" explain things helps people understand you aren't just making this stuff up. And there's always couples counseling as well. Sadly that's about all I can think of.
I hope you find an answer!
Dana
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I am SO glad you posted this.....I was really starting to think it was only me. I mean, I know alot of women get a litte moody around that time. But I've never heard of anyone reacting the way I do. And since I tend to have my periods for months at a time, this goes on the WHOLE time. I'm really not like that usually, only during AF. It makes me feel so bad about myself and as sweet as my husband is to me, I can tell it drives him up the wall. But you're right, when you're in it, you don't know it's your hormones and you can't control it. It's only in hindsight. So basically, first you're a raving lunatic and then you sit there crying for an hour because you feel so stupid for how you acted....again....Well, at least now I know I'm not just crazy. Do you think there's anything that can be done about it?
Crazy during PMS and helping DH cope 
I get downright evil that last week before AF. I wish I knew of a way to control it, ohhh how I do, but sadly I don't have an answer for that one. My evil PMS caused me to have relationship problems with both friends and boyfriends all my adult life. Everyone in my life knows to just leave me alone and avoid me during that time (and bring me 75% or higher cocoa chocolate 
). But there were many rough years before my partner and everyone in my life could understand and deal with me during those times. I do my best to avoid confrontation and just stay alone and calm. If I start to feel that flood of emotions PMS can bring, I'll apologize and just walk away or end the conversation. 
