Ok there is this one guy (my only guy friend) and he likes me but the thing is - I could never get into a relationship with him. He makes a g8 friend but if we were ever to get together it would be a disaster.
He doesnt respect my personal boundaries he insists on asking questions all the time on topics that make me uncomfortable, and he's been told so many times to think about what he is doing but he just cant help but ask, he wants to know literally everything about me.
I have struggled with the idea of cutting him out completely or remaining friends, and I just cant decide yet, so for now I have decided to keep up being friends.
Anyway when I was younger I won an award with the local SPCA for the work I did with animals, anyway he flicks me an email today saying 'I know something new about you' and gives me a web address, turns out there was an article published in an online magazine, when I asked him how he found out he replied 'i'll tell u next time we meet up' and then says "lets see what else I can find out about you".
I'm kinda creeped out now that he is going out of his way to dig up info on me from 4 years ago, you dont just stumble across that kind of info!
I thought guys would have some good feedback for me, what do u think?
I think it's becomming more and more common for people to do online searches for their own for friends names online. Have you ever tried Googling your name and see what comes up? I think I would feel a bit creeped out by all this attention that he's giving too and you might need to remind him that you're just friends. If he's not going to back off you might want to limit or stop contact.
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Thanks, I have been really considering severing contact, the limited contact works ok for now but we have yet to meet up again after about a 4 month period where I have been far to busy to deal with his crap and so we haven't done anything fo that long. will c how well the "re"contact goes again and decide from there.
I did Google NZ search my name and it was the 4th hit, and I still live in the same suburb so that is the only way I can think of him finding it and knowing that it was actually me
Sure I've googled my name and others just out of curiosity if there would be any hits. If he had said "Hey, I found a cool article on the web that mentioned you", then no problem. But his whole manner and approach with you is kind of stalkerish . . . especially when he says "Let's see what else I can find out about you."
He clearly has issues with respecting boundaries, especially when he persists in asking you about subjects that you've made clear to him should be off limits and make you uncomfortable. That's not being a friend to you.
I would probably sever contact with him, but from the sounds of him, he'll probably "haunt" you for a while.
"Let's see what else I can find out about you." I know was meant in jest, but I cant help but feel its an invasion on my privacy, what I care to tell someone is my business and it is their place to take it as it comes (at least that's how I c things!) not go out and find out as much as the internet would yield.
Maybe its just me but I have never even imagined googling friends, let alone my own, but to see how he may have done it and what else came up I ran my own name through
Creepy or not? 
