Having been reunited with God very recently. I know the power of prayer. I wanted to talk with you all today, I am troubled by the events unfolding in my life.
As most of you know, my DF and I are getting married in August. We both lost our jobs in January but with his serverance and my unemployment insurance we are managing. The last two months have been difficult. DF has been very depressed and has been saying things like..."why are you with me?" " at my age I should be settled" etc. He knows that I would never leave him because the love that I have for him is strong and will never die. It's just been a strain for both of us and our stress load is more than we can both handle.
This week we both applied for a temporary call centre position. I was sure we would both get it but I got it he did not. The truth of the matter was, he was overqualified. I am worried now. This is a position of nights and I am not going to be around to make sure he has a hot dinner and do all thoes "traditional wife things" that make a marriage happy. Granted this is only a temporary job for a few months. I am just...well worried about him.
I think it's harder for a woman because we are suppose to be bread winners and wives, mothers, lovers, best friends and homemakers and the list goes on. Yet we still have to find time for ourselves??
Cysters, please pray my DF and I. I am just so scared that this will drive us apart. I am relying on God's decision that this is for the best. However, when your ego is hurt we don't always remember that. Please pray that our path will become clear. I need your support now more than ever.
God Bless,
April
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I am so sorry that you and your DF are undergoing so much stress- I mean planning a wedding in itself is stressful, letting alone trying to fine gainful employment for *both* of you.
Congratulations on the new job! I know you are worried about your DF dealing with the fact that he is still unemployed- but knowing that you have this job should help to make your burden a little lighter. Hopefully, DF will find something soon- and the two of you can focus on your happy upcoming event.
That being said, I know things like this are hard to deal with- and that the solutions don't always come as quickly or as easily as we'd hope they would. I will keep both you and DF in prayer that he will find employment and that the two of you can find some peace among all the recent stress.
Hang in there, April! You and your DF truly love each other- be honest and lean on each other- just remember (and remind DF if he needs a little encouragement) even (and sometimes *especially*) before the wedding, you always need to remember- you're there for each other...
For better or worse
(and dealing with the "worse" parts always makes you appreciate the "better" parts more )
If you need to chat- you know where to find me, hon!
xoxo *Aimee*
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I think I sort of know what you are going through! My DH moved here 1 1/2 years ago to be with me. This meant leaving his very good job that he had been at for quite a while. We both thought that he would find something when he moved here but there were a few rough (and I mean rough) months before he found the job he is at now. I was working at my current job and still trying to be everything to him. He was depressed and asked me more than once why I was with him. I just told him that I loved him whether he was employed or not. I also told him that I believed in my heart that God had a plan for us...I did not know what but something had to happen if we trusted HIM. We were also planning our wedding for August 31, 2002. I was afraid this would tear us apart also. I decided to Let Go and Let GOD and we got through it! I will be praying for you and your DF to find peace and understanding for each other and that your fiance will find a job soon! Good luck with the wedding plans too!
Dear April, I totally sympathize about having your DF and you lose your jobs. I will pray that God will lead you into the direction He wants you to go, and to give you strength for the journey.
Cysters, my heart is troubled...I need prayer.. 
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