I see so many posts about Cysters TTC that I thought it would be nice to hear from some of my Cysters not TTC.
DH and I have made the choice to not have children. We both love children, but we decided we wanted to be the Aunt/Uncle who spoils everyone, but that we did not want to have our own.
Anyone else?
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Hmm...Nope I want to be a mommy god willing. I always said I wasn't going to have kids then the choice possibly ripped away from me kinda knocked me on mommy track. If it doesn't happen ok not a big deal- -hopefully my brothers will get on daddy tracks so I can spoil there kids rotten
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because we already have a son , he is about to turn 7. And I am about to turn 43, so TTC time is pretty well over for me. I haven't used BC since DS was born and we haven't had to worry about it.
I have a sister like you, she and her husband just want to spoil the nieces and nephews and it works out fine for all of us!
My husband and I don't plan to have children. He does have a son from a previous marriage. I've never felt like I was the "motherly" type, and never did desire children, so finding a husband who already had one was a bonus for me. Also, I figure with my PCOS, and his having been through radiation treatment for thyroid cancer, we've already got 2 strikes against us. It's easier to not plan, then to have our hearts broken.
I'm not TTC now. Maybe later. I'm a happy Auntie, too. I did try for several years, but just got really sick without the bcps. My husband has always said he wanted a dozen kids since we got married. I always begged down to six as a joke, but I don't know anymore. I didn't know about the PCOS until recently. He doesn't really want to talk about it.
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Well, Hubby and I were TTC for over 6 years and a couple months ago we realized it wasn't what we wanted at all. We've been wanting to adopt since before we were married we were TTC because it was so much cheaper...but recently we realized it's not our heart's desire, so now we're focusing on working towards adoption. It's quite a relief really, because TTC is no fun (IMO) and really hard on me emotionally. So we aren't TTC and happy about it.
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My DH and I are not TTC. I am going to school full-time and I want my degree before I have a baby.. Before we got married it was discussed about not having children and it was not a problem then.. A baby will not complete us only make us happier.
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I see so many posts about Cysters TTC that I thought it would be nice to hear from some of my Cysters not TTC.
DH and I have made the choice to not have children. We both love children, but we decided we wanted to be the Aunt/Uncle who spoils everyone, but that we did not want to have our own.
Anyone else?
We are in the same boat.
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TTC sounds so medicinal,and unromantic....I believe children are a gift from God.Allot of women get so focussed on TTC that they neglect some other aspects of there life,and it leads to depression,and a sense of worthessness.Fertility is a blessing,and most people want children,however we dont always get everything we desire,even with the best of intentions.
I am not TTC right now because I need to focus on my health issues and some other things in my life.I do want to have at least one child in the future.But right now is not the time.I leave the rest up to the Lord. I can understand where allot of you are coming from.I would like to experience pregancy and motherhood once in my life.Because its such a beautiful thing.One would be enough for me.......but that is up to God....
As much as I agree that children are a blessing - I have no desire to have a child.
It is nice to hear from you Ladies. I know PCOS can wreck fertility (one of the issue we dealt with in making our decision), but I also feel that coming to the choice of not having children is also a blessing.
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I personally find the other aspects of this disease more maddeing then the fertility issue, but maybe I am not that motherly either. I guess I do want kids someday, but life will go on if I don't have one...
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As much as I agree that children are a blessing - I have no desire to have a child.
It is nice to hear from you Ladies. I know PCOS can wreck fertility (one of the issue we dealt with in making our decision), but I also feel that coming to the choice of not having children is also a blessing.
For now, same here AlyBlu! I keep going over my decision, analyzing it and making sure -- but thus far, I am positive that I do not want any children. Of course, I go back and forth. I can't concieve at the moment either way. My husband knows he'd like a child... of course, he's not ready *now*. The question as to whether we'll ever be ready remains. The thought sort of frightens me, they are so much responsibility and work! LOL.
You know, we've always left it up to chance. My husband and I were basically doing a 'pull and pray' for the last five years -- when my endo heard this she gasped. She sadly said I was probably not able to concieve, but she'd need tests to verify it. It was an odd feeling. Having the choice taken away sort of sucks, very odd feeling.
I am not TTC. I think that I do not want children at all. When I was younger, I definitely thought that I would have children, but, I think that I've lost that desire (I will be 32 in a few months). I am of the belief that unless you are absolutely, without a doubt sure that you want children and that you are willing and able to put children before everything else in your life, you should not have them, because it's just not fair to be a parent half-heartedly. I think many people get married and have children because "that's what you're supposed to do" rather than because it's something that they geniunely want for their life.
I really like children, but am not totally convinced that I want to have my own. Although I am a little concerned that later in life I may look back and wish that I had decided to have children, but for now, children are not in the plans.
Add us to the list of spoiling aunt and uncle. LOL. We just decided that maybe this is what God wants of us, to take care of our neices of nephews. It's something we have prayed over, and this is where we found our peace.
Cheryl...
I loved what you said...Children won't make us complete, only happier. Thank you!
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Julie
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