Berni

Hi! My names Berni, and i'm 16. I need some guy advice. How do you get past the factors of having PCOS when it comes to boys? I was officially dxed March 3 of this year, but I've been dealing w/ the hirsutism since I was 14. I've been called "man hands" b4, and I don't wear any sleeveless tops or shorts, which are musts here in TX. I've never dated for the fear of a guy calling me out on my hairiness. Do any of ya'll date, and what is the guys reaction to your PCOS?-Thanx!

Drieduptears

Hey hun,
I was 12 when i was diagnosed. I had the same problem. I never had a boyfriend until I was 18 for fear of them calling me out or spreading rumors about it. At first I was very secretive. But when I had my first boyfriend and we dated for awhile I felt comfortable to disclose my "secret". He was very understanding He didn't judge me or end our relationship because of it. Ever since then I have always had very meaningful relationships always waited til I could trust the guy b4 disclosing anything. Some guys can be understanding. its hard in HS to think that but I am 21 now and have realized any guy who you think won't understand...he won't and if he doesn't its not worth wasting your life on them because they will never understand anything. If you think it will cause a problem telling him then move on to a guy who will. And you will know righ away the guys who will be okay with it and not judge you. Good luck!!!

LookingForHope16

While I don't date guys -- I've never found an issue with any person that I've dated.

I think that if the person truly has feelings for you, then they will be understanding.

You kinda get over the fear. But you can't expect someone to love you until you can love yourself.

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ksdksd412

Absolutely. I've had not-so-serious boyfriends throughout my life, but a few very serious ones. Now I'm with *HIM* for sure, and things couldn't be better. I am going to be completely honest with you and tell you that I thought that I was so hairy because I'm part Indian! Hah.. not to put a stereotype on the Cherokee, but I swear I just assumed that's what it was LOL. I think it really depends on where our hair growth is out of control. Mine is on my face, belly, ya know? And I've just always worked around it. But guys that did notice it didn't seem to care really. I am too nice of a gal to be thrown aside because of some hair. You're worth a lot more than that. If they put you down, they're not worth it.

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Wishez

I was diagnosed with PCOS when i was 15 and i have to admit ive never had a boyfriend. but im always loud around them, and for some reason i cant keep my mouth stum, lol My bessie mate always tells me to shh!! but i cant lol. Anyway, if you can belive in yourself you can do it. When i found out i was like great when a boy i like finds out hes proberly run, but i acted normal. but the boy i like didnt like me back i don't think lol a well life goes on when you move school lol
I totally agree with ksdksd412, if they put you down, they are not worth it.

-Ann

well i don't date either...but i have a TON of guy friends...and i'm around them all the time! and they know some things about pcos and they know that i'm loaded on drugs! haha but you know...if they're not going to except you, find someone else because somebody will!

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MAFlowers

I have a tendancy to be very open and blunt. It's a trait I don't exactly appreciate. I always jump at the opportunity to explain what PCOS is to people. Some people just don't really want to know. I don't know why, but it makes me feel better. There's SORT OF a reason I'm carrying this extra weight.
I'm not very experienced in the dating area, but as far as appearences go, I was taunted for having a mustache when I was about in 5th grade. I've started shaving absolutely everywhere. I shave my hands and some of the dark hairs on my upper arms. You shouldn't worry about arms though. If you can stun them with an awesome personality, they shouldn't notice a little bit of excessive hair.

Again, I'm not experienced in dating. I'm not even allowed to date for another year.

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Navi

I think even young guys can be accepting and caring about something like PCOS. I've had my share of dating issues but it was never about that, both when guys knew what it was and didn't.

I've always been embarrassed about the hair growth, but I really don't think a lot of guys care - and if they do, they're not worth it.

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