sassyrh

Hello,

I am Marc. My girlfriend whom I have been dating for seven months has PCOS. Let me start by telling you about this wonderful woman I fell in love with. First of all, I believe this woman was especially created by the Hands of God for humanity. That's how great she is to the world around her and the people in her life. She loves life and loves to give to the world. This woman is incredibly beautiful inside and out. Now here is my question to you all great men out there with your wives or girlfriends with this nasty illness. What are we going to do about this PCOS thing? I think it's time for us, men to take a stand together for our women; and fight for them as they have been fighting for us for years and stand by us through thick and thin.
I am willing to start a support group for men with women suffering with PCOS or PCOD. My goal is to push for more research for PCOS/PCOD. I went through my medical program, where PCOS/PCOD was a disease mentioned just like any other disease out there and I only learned the basics of it until today I am dating someone I very much care about also is suffering with PCOS.
It is painful to see what it can do to a beautiful woman that you LOVE. The emotions overboard and the temper tamtrum every once in a while that can turn one great, excellent moment to disaster. Why not turn it around for them guys. Join me or let me know what you are going through and help these wonderful precious women of our lifetime to battle this thing call PCOS/PCOD
Darling, I love you tenderly and truly
Marc

Sweetface

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Sweetface

Marc,

The person you describe is me except I don't have a BF like you. Mine ran off after my hormones created severe anxiety. I think what you are trying to do is great because men don't understand this disorder and classify it under PMS and think we use it as a crutch, when we don't. No woman wants to destroy her relationships, but this imbalance can really do a number on us and little do the men we love know is that we really do need them, their compassion and support. I'm glad you want to do something as I'm sure if 10 percent of our men were growing boobies and developing hips and acting like women I'm CERTAIN everyone would know about it and try to cure it. It's nice you want to be our advocate and that your a man, not a woman. This condition needs to be Oprah, it needs more education and definately needs to teach men that it is very real and not in our heads.

So, thank you. I'm envious of your girlfriend. I wish the men I dated had your resolve and love but they don't. And I've been told I'm absolutely gorgeous, kind, healing, soothing, wonderful until the anxiety kicks in. That's when we need you guys most, that's when it really matters...so I know your GF well. She is just like me.

luvin_my_redneck_man

You are a wonderful man to say all those sweet things about your GF. She is very lucky to have a man stand with her rather then 10 feet behind her. Cudos to you!! My husband is alot like you and wants everything to be better, he has been such a great man and husband to me and could not have come this far withour him. I wish you and your GF all the best in life and hope you all will have a happy life together. Keep up the good work and be strong, sometimes we are not easy to deal with but we get better. Have a great day!!

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The Man of the Board

I think is great you want to take an active roll in your GF PCOS and try to get men in on it too. But i am sorry if i take this the wrong way there are many of us men that support and deal with everything PCOS has to throw at us. My brother I was dealing with PCOS for 2 years before they even told us this is what we were dealing with. No meds no anything at all. And there are alot of men out there like me. I am finding this board when others post is a great place. Most men including me find it hard to post cause we are to the rock of the marriage and nothing hurts me. I tell you want though theres nothing like dealing with a disorder that you cant really help with only deal. I hope you are digging far into PCOS and not stopping at the basics there is alot of info out there PCOS effects every women differently. remember this no matter how tough it gets being able to talk to your GF is the best thing so you both are on the same page. The moment you both stop talking the faster down hill everything will go. Basic things you should be for your GF tell her every min of every hour how much she means to you, looks, anything you can come up with. I wish you much luck with everything and if you want to talk I am on these boards every day.

*Jazzy*

I must commend you for your interest in helping us women with PCOS. Your gf is very lucky to have a support system such as yourself. My bf and I have been together for 7 yrs and I was just dx with pcos last yr. I feel as if he doesn't take my pcos seriously, he constantly complains about my mood swings and lack of intimacy without taking any interest to what pcos is and why I'm this way. From a mans ( or womans pov) what can I do to make him understand me and what I'm going through.

*Jazzy*

I commend you for taking an interest in helping us women with pcos. Your gf is very lucky to have a support system such as your self. My bf and I have been together for 7 yrs, I was dx with pcos last yr. I feel as if he doesn't take my pcos seriously. he constantly complains about my mood swings and lack of intimacy with out taking interest in pcos or why i am acting this way. From a man's (or woman pov) what can I do to make him understand?

sassyrh

Ok, I understand your frustration. Understand that just as much I you love him , he loves you the same. First of all, get to know the person you are with. From there, I believe one of the way to help him understand what you are going through is to communicate everything with him. As a man, myself, I used to find it hard when my girlfriend just lashed out at me not even knowing why, it used to drive me crab until I started doing research on PCOS. I learned that one of the symptoms of PCOS was mood swings. Even my girlfriend didn't know about it until the discovery. We talked about it. Then we realized the best way to overcome her mood swings was to communicate everything that she is thinking about. My job is to be more receptive to her complaints. That doesn't mean the problem had been resolved. But, it's a start. With practice, patience and lots of love long term both of you can overcome the situation. Good luck

hopethereis

JAZZY,

A guy here.Do you,at times,feel that this condition consumes all of your rational thinking?I kind of just broke-up,rather she wants to take a break from me,in the last couple weeks.When we spoke she told me some hurtful things but that she doen't know why.She says maybe it is her "crazy" hormones talking.I feel like there is a monster in her at times.If I had to sum up her condition it would be the incredible,constant pelvic pain and the depression/mood swings that are or can be pretty constant.
It gets so bad that she doesn't even recognize who she is in the mirror.She has started to draw the images so she can better relate to what she sees so she can confront.I don't know what meds she is on but I do know that vicadin plays a pretty large role in her life to alleviate pain.Thoughts would really be helpful.You take care.

The Man of the Board

Hey hope I know this road that you are on all to well dont give up if to you she is worth it FIGHT her for her if you know what I mean. At first when she is dealing with PCOS she will drive everyone away and really not know why. My wife told me that I used to work 16 hours days cause I thought she did not want me around. Heck I thought she was cheating on me and she thought the same of me. Vicadin should NOT (and by no means am I am doctor) just be taking this Pain killer for this. You are doing right so far and learning what you can to help her. The best thing you can do is talk to her and let her know that you are there. Hurtful things suck but know its mostly the SF of PCOS talking if this is what she has. Get her in that clinic and get seen. If you need to talk more I am always looking to talk. The Man of the Board

zimiegrl

It is great to hear a man open up like you did. I know my BF is standing by through this whole experience, but he is not as good at sharing his emotions and thoughts with me or anyone else. But all women need guys like you to remind us there is someone there for us as we do for them.

Thanks again!

hopethereis

Zimie,

Can you explain some of the things he goes through based on your moods,etc?