I feel like such a selfish person, but I'm terribly despressed over this. Being diagnosed with PCOS was like being crushed with a boulder. At the time, my three closest gf's who I had known my whole life all got married and pregnant within three months of each other. I had just broken up with my BF of 4 years.
Now I'm with a great guy, but I feel like I have had to start all over again. I don't know when it will be my time to be a mother and enjoy that part of my life. I'm getting older, that clock is ticking, but I"m so scared that I will never concieve.
The thing that bothers me is that my gf's are always asking me when I'm going to have my kids, when am I going to get pregnant. One's husband even accused me of spoiling their kids because I can't have any of my own!! They know the situation. Am I wrong to be upset. This is plaguing my every day thoughts. I just want a happy life......
I know how you are feeling. My best friend is pregnant just now and despite knowing that I have PCOS and no periods keeps telling me that it would be great if I was pg and then we could have the experience together. How I would love to be able to but......
I'm so sick of people asking me when DF and I are going to have kids it sucks even his BIL is asking me now.
If you ever need to chat pm me and we can moan together!
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well on one hand yes......to be constantly asked when your going to have children of your own, if they truely know the situation for you. The husband i'd take that as a compliment.....and say you know what your right, i do spoil your kids because i can send them back to you.
It's not eazy, it's really hard to deal with your friends pregnancys. I feel like that quite often......been trying 76 months.....somedays it's eazy, somedays it's hard and those days i cry.
If you need to cry then cry, explain to your friends in the most simplest terms what is going on with you if they don't know. As them for a little bit of kindness.
best i can give ya
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I know how you are feeling. My best friend is pregnant just now and despite knowing that I have PCOS and no periods keeps telling me that it would be great if I was pg and then we could have the experience together. How I would love to be able to but......
I'm so sick of people asking me when DF and I are going to have kids it sucks even his BIL is asking me now.
If you ever need to chat pm me and we can moan together!
Same here JennJo. My friend is six months pg now and if it isn't: "I wish we could've done this together" or "We got it on the first try" or "Maybe it is better that you wait so that we don't have to share the moment"
I am happy for her and it was hard at first but when God thinks it is my time then it will happen....that is what I tell myself now.......
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Same here JennJo. My friend is six months pg now and if it isn't: "I wish we could've done this together" or "We got it on the first try" or "Maybe it is better that you wait so that we don't have to share the moment"
I am happy for her and it was hard at first but when God thinks it is my time then it will happen....that is what I tell myself now.......
That's HOrrible that she said so you don't have to share the moment! I really don't think people understand how hard it is to not be able to concieve easliy.
It seemed to me that the harder it got for me, the more they were on my case about it. Maybe I was just oversensitive too.
I'm dealing with a friend who just had a baby a couple weeks ago and she sent me an email telling me all about the birth and naming him and bringing him home and how he's so perfect and everything....then she asks, "You know, you were voted 'most likely to be the first to have a family' in our senior high school year book, what happened? Everyone was sure that you would be the first to start popping out kids." It's so hard for me not to just be like "Well, if I could, I would!" I wish people were more sensitive about this. The thing is, she knows about my PCOS. That makes it especially hard to take.
I've been having trouble dealing with this also. It hurts so much and makes me wonder...."Will I ever......?" I'm praying this will get easier.
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Just a suggestion as women can eazily hold a grudge.........have any of you tryed telling your friends look i'm happy for you but some of the things you've said to me really hurt me deeply.
I think being politely honest with people is better then holding a grudge sometimes people don't realize how something may come across.
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I told my friend that I am very happy for her and her husband and I have been praying for their baby because he had some problems at birth. I then proceeded to tell her that I have been going through tough emotional times due to us now deciding that we are going to ttc, but knowing that it could be difficult has been hard for me. I went on to explain that even though I am so happy for her and her husband, that right now it's hard for me to deal with hearing all the details of her pregnancy and giving birth. I also mentioned that she had made some innocent comments about me not having children yet, but they hurt. She responded with, "Well, if you can't take a simple comment, maybe it's best if we don't talk at all." and that was the last I heard from her. It's not that I don't want to talk to her. I would have just appreciated her being a little more sensitive to my situation.
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I know how you feel, a few month's ago it seemed everyone was pregnant!
Even my DF's sister was, this was even harder as he was all excited about and he even sent me her scan pic, telling me how he'd felt the baby move etc, and yeah i was happy about it, but it was hurting like hell inside and i just kept wishing that it was me who was pregnant!
Sometimes he talk's about the future and how we'll have children one day, sometimes this hurt's too, as i know this day might never come.
Well yu did what you needed to do, you did it politely. Sadly your 'friend' showed her true colors. Maybe it is better you don't talk, if she's going to act that rude.
G2 word of advise, if you constantly stay in the negetive thinking that it will never happen then it probably won't, but if you change your thinking to it may happen someday, then it probably will. Your df is holding out hope and he's not giving up.
I know how hard the road of infertility is, like i said i've been trying 76 months, and it's not exactly been eazy. It's been total hell......I keep seeing everyone around me getting pregnant....even the ones who don't deserve to get pregnant, ( irresponsible people ). but i keep going forward, untill i've tryed everyway and when i give in, for me i've failed. But i won't give in, what keeps me going is knowing that some day i'll have a child of my own, and i know the risk and the % chance of it not happening. I won't let it stop me.
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I USED to be bothered by everyone having babies and asking me about when I'll settle down and ahve kids and all (people have been asking me that since I was 16 though - seriously). Now it doesnt botehr me quite so much. I suppose what it really takes is you learning to be comfortable with who you are and accepting that what will be will be. Now everyone I know seems to be getting preggy and yes it makes me sad that its a 50/50 chance I'll ever have children maybe less of a chance but I have to be happy for those around me who do have them. And trust me I KNOW how hard that is I currently know 9 people I deal with on a fairly regular basis who are preggy and 5 more who are ttc. I cant give any advice other than to try and make with yourself on teh subject and it wont bother quite so much when others arent at peace with your situation.
HUGS and luck to all ttcers
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well i hope all of you ttc have the best of luck just thouht i would give my two cents in. If your frinds can't see that they are hirting you and can't think befor they talk and under stand what you are filling that is if you have told them then maybe thay aren't a true friend. and i now some of your pain i do have one dd that will be 4 in 3 weeks but a year ago after ttc for 2 years we had some test done and my dh had some bad test # and that was on thr. and on fri. he found a lump in that area than on sat. his sister who has a son that is 6mon.older than my dd told us she was having #2 and she told my dh first becouse she was not sher how to tell me that she was and that it was due 2 weeks befor my b-day i took it hard but you have bad days and good days. see we see each other just about ever day are kids go to the same daycare and we go to his parents house every sunday and go to the same church. we all live with in 10 miles from each other . so you just have to take it one day at a time. some times its hard becouse they don't noe how to act i would whan't to now how she was doing and she was afred to tell me. sorry so long and for any spilling
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