depressed about relationship

red clover · 01-23-2008, 10:28 AM

My boyfriend and I are not doing well, i moved in with him abut 4 months ago from Edmonton to Toronto. And now he says he feels so much pressure and told me part of him wants to be with me but part of him wants to venture.
He said he is'nt interested in a serios relationship with anybody and that he deeply loves me and cares for me.

I understand that he doesnt want to totally commit, part of him wants to meet other people.

So now im heart broken and i have to move out but i was just layed off and i have no money to move right now.
Now i feel sad to be around him and i just want to leave, i dont want to be with someone who cant feel committed or wish to be with me 100%.

I have no family or any friends that can help me out here in Toronto.
Any suggestions for what you might do in this situaton?

bec415 · 01-23-2008, 11:17 AM

I'm just really sorry that you're having to go through this. Did you really know eachother before moving in and were you both ready to commit? I think it would be best for you to move back home to Edmonton since you don't have anyone in Toronto and he's clearly not someone who you can depend on.

sgordon · 01-23-2008, 11:43 AM

I would be moving home too. If he decides he really loves you and wants to be with you, let him chase you.

AboveTheExtreme · 01-23-2008, 07:28 PM

i agree with what they said.. if you love something let it go.. if it comes back then you know it was meant to be..

red clover · 01-23-2008, 08:14 PM

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I'm just really sorry that you're having to go through this. Did you really know eachother before moving in and were you both ready to commit? I think it would be best for you to move back home to Edmonton since you don't have anyone in Toronto and he's clearly not someone who you can depend on

We felt like we where ready to move in and that we wanted a commitment. Problem is we had to move in with his father who is 73 yrs old and very Greek orthodox because he can not afford the mortgage on his own since my BF older brother has moved out to marry his GF.

Since we moved with him he has pressured both of us to get married soon and me to have babies afterwards. Its stressing us both because we are not ready for marriage and his father is a very critisizing man and controlling man. He wants you to do things his way because he beleives its the right and only way.
The man still lives in 1964 Greece and in a church, he has been in Canada since the early 60s but never ventured out of his community so he doesnt eat anything that is'nt Greek and isnt fluent in English.

We are both so stressed and i know i have to leave, especially if its come to this point where my BF is unsure if he wants a serious relationship with me.

I am going to try and get a job and find my own place, but if i cant by March 1st i have no choice but to go to Edmonton. And honestly i never liked Edmonton and i have lived in Toronto before and i like it here more, so im hoping i can find a good paying job soon!

Thank you for all your replies and guidance

dreamy28 · 01-24-2008, 09:20 AM

I feel so sad for you! I am in Toronto - perhaps we could get together for a chat and a coffee sometime? What line of work are you in? I could let you know of all the good sites to go to re: job search wise. xo