DanielleMarie1228

little overview...
iv been diagnosed with depression for 6 years, this is the first time i have stuck to the treatment of activly going to a doctor. This year i was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder, i am on TOPAMAX 100mg.

I was diagnosed with PCOS a couple weeks ago, and i have been feeling very upset, i have made the proper doctors appointments, i have changed my diet, started supplements...but im sad...its like..just another thing...

I dont have many friends, the women i work with (3 of us) are the few people that i talk to, when i told them about the pcos and got teary eyed because the doctor told me im progressing into diabetes quickly...the idea of not being able to have children, the fact that my hair has been falling out so much and now i finally know why....

they tell me..."your not dieing....these are all possiblities its not like your hair is definatly going to fall out, youll be able to have kids and you wont get diabetes, just dont be pesimistic..."

i already have depression....and this has added more to my thoughts, i think if i want to be upset i can be, i dont know why no one understand why i would be upset about pcos...i know im not dyeing but...its not an easy thing..i feel like im falling apart....

elizabeth229

i agree that pcos is really frustrating to explain to people because it's not necessarily that serious but it has such an impact on your life. i think your friends giving you that "you're not dying" speech is just the stock sympathy answer. it's hard to know what to say. i'm sure they care about you a lot and didnt want to hurt you by being like "yeah that sucks!" if someone came to me and told me she had pcos, i'd probably say the same stuff lol. anyway remember that about 1 in 10 women have pcos (so try to avoid thinking "why me!?") and remember that thankfully pcos can diminish with the right treatments...soon it can be one LESS thing for you to deal with! good luck!

etuc

Sorry you are feeling so down.

Are you seeing a therapist regularly? I found that counseling really helped me to change my negative thoughts into more positive ones.

Many cysters have kids, so don't feel like this means you are never going to have kids because there are so many who do have them. Check out the mommy section of the board, that might give you some hope.

I never really talk to anybody about this in real life (unless I know or suspect they have it) because most people do not understand problems they don't have.

Best of luck.

DanielleMarie1228

thank you
yes i go to theropy it helps, i have one i talk to and another that gives out the meds...*sigh*... i dunno...

i guess i just hoped the people close to me would support me but it wasnt like that.

etuc

Glad you have one to talk to.

Sometimes we just need to have somebody say "I can see why you would be upset, I am sorry this happened" it would be nice if people we knew could help to validate our feelings, but often they try to get you to not dwell on what is upsetting. I feel like I can move on after accepting my feelings and IF people tell me I shouldn't feel that way sometimes I just would get stuck. That "it could be worse" approach sometimes has the opposite effect for me.

So I validate your feelings Danielle, I can see why you would be upset about having PCOS and I know that you will in time come to terms with it as best you can. You have been struggling for some time now, so I can tell you must be strong.

When I was diagnosed at 37 (after having a long list of bizarre symptoms since a teen) I was depressed, horrified and relieved. The relief came in knowing that at least this has a name to it and it finally explained so much about me. I had to go through a grief process, to come to terms with it though.


I hope you are checking out the hair forum. Also wanted to add taking calcium helped my moods quite a bit and adding ground flax seed seems to help my moods and my hair some too.

DanielleMarie1228

Thank you so much

i had read about ground flax seed maybe ill try that. thanks again!