i'm so very sorry for your loss! unfortunately you are among friends here... fertility journeys lasting years so often lead to a loss and then the "what now?" feeling! we are here to listen and share. most people think more clearly after a couple of months have passed and the physical healing is finished. (((hugs)))
__________________ Metformin 1500mg, Yasmin, managing IR/pcos with lower carbs
First pregnancy ended at 23 weeks due to incompetent cervix.
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Second loss March 9, 2004 at five weeks
Third pregnancy, Cerclage at 13w
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Fourth pregnancy, Cerclage at 13w
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I am devastated. After trying for 6 years, we finally found out we were pregnant on April 2. We were overjoyed. At my first appointment around 7 weeks, the midwife did a quick ultrasound and I saw my baby's heart beating. My husband was not with me for that appointment. This past Friday was my "official" ultrasound at 10 weeks. No heartbeat. I feel like life has just played the cruelest joke on me. I'm going for a D & C on Tuesday. How do you find the strength to try again? I don't want to go through this again. Life is so unfair sometimes.
Jennie
__________________ Me(32), DH Chris(30)
Married 7/8/00
DD Ella Nicole born 1/28/08!!!
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know your heart is broken. You find the strength to try again just because you do. I've been through multiple losses and sometimes you don't feel like you can survive, but somehow you keep on going even if you don't know how. For me, trying again meant there was still hope, even when there didn't seem to be much. Losing a baby changes you forever in ways that you can not explain. (((hugs)))
Phoenix Rising^^^ has the most beautiful message in her siggy. I think this completely explains how and why you keep on trying...
Quote:
"My heart is broken, but not my spirit. My desire to be a Mother is greater than my fear of another miscarriage." Gina M.
{{{HUGS}}} I am so sorry for your loss. I know with my m/c, I felt like I just had a cruel joke played on me. How could we have tried for so long to have this perfect gift given to only have it taken as fast?
Please be with your dh in this time. You will need to grieve together.
I'm so sorry. This should not happen to anyone. Right after my miscarriage I felt shocked and stunned, and then I felt like I could never try again... I was scared of everything. Losing a baby really is the worst thing I can imagine. But with some time, my desire to become a mother of a still-living child became greater than my fears, just like the signature above. Give yourself as much time as you need before you try again if you decide to try again. There are no wrong choices, and although the pain probably never goes away, it will become bearable.
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Diagnosed Sept 2005
Induced periods with Provera for 3 months
Currently 500mgs metformin, 1xdaily Evening Primrose Oil,
Vitex, and low carb diet.
Hair loss- Jojoba oil and rosemary oil therapy
Finally started 1000mgs of Met on Jan 26th, meanwhile no AF
No AF No AF
SURPRISE !!!!!!! BFP !!!!!!!!!!!
FEB 28th 2006 BFP
Oct 22nd - Baby girl Esha came into our lives!! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
The same thing happened to me this week. I'd seen/heard the heartbeat 3 time and then boom, it was gone. I feel betrayed and robbed. I had my D&C on Wednesday. Best of luck with yours and I think you've come to the right place to help with healing.
__________________ ~Robyn
me 33 DH 32 missed miscarriage 5/1/06 - 10 weeks 1000 mgs Met (start 6/06)
2000 mgs Met (start 9/07)
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(((hugs))) This is what happened to me during my 2nd miscarriage. I was heartbroken again and again and again. I found the courage and strength to try again by not losing hope with my DH's love and support guiding me.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Like many of the others, the same thing happened to me. Heartbeat at 6 weeks, nothing at 9, natural miscarriage at 9.5. It's like someone stole something precious away. It is so hard to get through it all, but you will survive and you'll be stronger for it. I wish you peace and I know your dream to become a mother will come to be.
It is so cruel that so many of us have to suffer this same cruel fate. With my first m/c,like yours, at 9 weeks there was no heartbeat. I had a D&C 3 days later. Having a m/c and then having a D&C on top of that is very hard physically and emotionally. Some how though you will find the strength to try again one day.
For me I just couldn't give up. It was hard to move on and to try again after the first, even harder after the second. But I wanted so badly to be pregnant again. That didn't make the fears of it happening a second and third time go away. Just take the time to heal from this loss. You will know when you are ready again. There is not a set timetable that you will be ready, but you will know. During that time we will all be here for you, and then when you are ready to try again too.
I am so very very discouraged to see yet another new name on this board, to know another has suffered throught this unimaginable pain. and yet this is the single most suportive place to go when you feel the way we all have after losing our babies...i hope you feel more at peace in the near future, but take the time you need to grieve for your angel. my heart goes out to you and your family...
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DS6yrs-preemie-30w)Twins-Met,Prometrium, Puregon Injectibles DS3YRS
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Oh Jennie I am so sorry to hear about your loss.. I honestly don't know what to say, If you need anything or just someone to talk to I am here. I will keep you and DH in my prayers.
Carrie
__________________ Me (29) DH (34)
Married 09/15/01
TTC since 09/15/01
IVF 2/08 transfer of embryos 2/17/08
2/29 BETA 722 BFP YIPPIE I'M PREGNANT
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Devastated 
and yet this is the single most suportive place to go when you feel the way we all have after losing our babies...i hope you feel more at peace in the near future, but take the time you need to grieve for your angel. my heart goes out to you and your family... 
