Devastated and Feeling Guilty for it

Gabbysmom06 · 08-09-2009, 03:38 AM

I just found out my best friend is pregnant. She only tried for 2 months. I have been trying for 2 years this month with no success at all..not even a chemical pregnancy. I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I do. I am actually feeling angry and a little hostile about the whole situation. They can't even afford a 2nd child. They are up to their eyebrows in credit card debt and they live in a tiny little shack of a house (about 600-700 square feet i'm estimating) and now they're bringing another child into the world. Her poor husband even has to work 2 jobs for them to break even. My husband and I are not rich in any manner, but we're pretty financially stable, and have more then enough room to expand our family. I hope I get over these feelings soon. Right now I don't even want to talk to her for a while..at least until I get my feelings sorted out. I love them and they are wonderful friends..but I just don't know what to think or handle this. Thanks for reading. I had to vent.

PaulaCystic · 08-09-2009, 03:45 AM

Oh honey we have all been there and understand. It is hard to put that happy face on for other people when we are green with envy.

I misscarried last NOV, and my friend that was consoling me found out she was PG right after my miscariage. She waited a very long time to tell me because she felt so bad and didn't want to "rub" it in.

If she is a true friend she might has some of the same guilt and discomfort around you. I am sure she will understand you withdrawl. Take the time you need but remember everyones life path is different. Everyone has different struggles and hardships in life to over come.

BOOBOODUCKIE · 08-09-2009, 03:45 AM

My heart goes out to you. It's so hard when you are hurting that way. I have some friends finding out that same news also. And nothing anyone can say will make the situation any easier. Just know you are not alone. And there is someone thinking about you and saying a prayer for you tonight.

HRkswildcat · 08-09-2009, 12:10 PM

It would be really difficult, but it sounds like your friend will need your support more now than ever.
Take time to grieve and be angry. Hopefully you can look past the bad and help her through this.
Good luck!