Dh's!!!!!

trace · 06-08-2002, 08:41 PM

I suffer terrible mood swings, tempers.dh is finding it hard how to cope with these. How do you cope, feel, about your dw mood swings(if she has this sideeffect)?
Have you found a good way to calm the situation?
Do you ignore?
Hug her?
My dh just shouts at me and gets angry, of course this makes me worse.
Help before i have no cups left (throwing cups is my pastime lol)

Please do not just tell me to calm my moods down. I have tryed to calm down and as the other ladies know, hormones can not be controlled.

Thanks lads.

lollipop · 06-08-2002, 10:06 PM

I have suffered from these type of moods as well. They are very few and far between now. I take metformin and it has helped. I also take calcium 500 morning and 500 night before bed. I also take an omega oil. It takes time to get these moods controlled but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I have gone quite the opposite now. I am very mellowwww alot. I still have my moments, but for the most part I have mellowed. You have to take a look at your lifestyle too. Are you working too much? Are you having relationship problems? All these things are definately contributing. I totally understand and I really care about you getting this problem under control. I wish you well. Take care.

CandysMan · 06-10-2002, 04:52 AM

DW also has the occaisional mood upset,
although she'll deny that anythings wrong.
and even tho i know its kinda like feeding a kid a lollipop, we keep ice-suckers in the fridge for her to chew on when she gets grumpy. she sits there and reads her emails suckin on that and usually she calms down..
but in yer personal case.. have you considered plastic cups?
i find if i TRY ( and thats the operative word ) to anticipate what it is she's getting upset over before it becomes a huge deal, we're usually pretty good.. other times its a case of a hug. and other times just giving her space seems to work..
actually come to think of it...i'm lucky to be alive.

in the end, i love my wife with all my heart, and even tho she's moody some days, its understandable, i couldnt even imagine what she's trying to cope with. my biggest problem is vanilla or butterscotch pudding in my work lunch.
she might feel like the world is on her shoulders somedays...but if she gets tired.. i'll carry her and the world if thats what it takes.
*peace out*
Mike.

Lisa67 · 06-10-2002, 10:02 AM

Aw, Mike, that is beautiful!!!

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she might feel like the world is on her shoulders somedays...but if she gets tired.. i'll carry her and the world if thats what it takes.

Thanks for a good morning cry!!

TennGirl · 06-10-2002, 03:23 PM

I also have severe mood swings! However, cups are not my pastime, more like phones and remotes! Not at him of course! But he gets so angry when I flip out, and calls me a freak, a psycho, etc. It really hurts, because I don't understand why I'm doing it, and then he just adds fuel to the fire.

sammc22'sDH · 06-10-2002, 04:15 PM

hi trace
i just wanted to say im just like your dh
i sometimes shout at my dw and i know that it makes her worse
so i hope this forum will help all us men understand a bit more.
what are dw/s are going through. so i look forward to speaking to everyone very soon.

paul

CrazyCraig · 06-20-2002, 11:41 PM

I have the same problem. I have somewhat of a flash temper and a number of intolerances. My wife (WackyCathy) knows all this. When she gets into a mood I don't even register that this is strange behavior for her. I shift into defensive mode and lash back (verbally) and things go down the toilet quick.

I keep forgetting that she's on all these TTC drugs and her body is WAY out of wack. She can't put up with me and the chemical changes that are wracking her body.

I'm a work in progress, the hell can I say?

scarlet · 06-21-2002, 04:08 PM

"she might feel like the world is on her shoulders somedays...but if she gets tired.. i'll carry her and the world if thats what it takes"

Mike

AAW- That is so sweet. Candy is very lucky. You are too to be able to eat vanilla and butterscotch pudding daily

Scarlet

Dani UK · 06-25-2002, 07:22 PM

How to cope with mood swings?

I have a one-word answer : PROZAC!!!!!

I am the calmest person in the world now! Go figure....

Dani

TennGirl · 06-25-2002, 07:40 PM

I've been on Prozac and Paxil, and I still have the mood swings....

BabyJades-DH · 07-02-2002, 12:42 PM

I dont think that meds are always the answer... though yes they can help... but it still doesnt resolve the problem at hand... there is obviously something at one point that makes you upset... meds will only dull the pain but wont fix it... itll still be there...

I try not to ignore her but some times she needs her space... and ill talk to her when she wants to be talked too... some times she just needs to be held or hugged...

Beachy · 07-10-2002, 09:57 PM

I really dont like it when my Dh gets QUIET, he wont say a word when i have my little moods, and there not bad, usually, I dont think anyway, . I'd rather have him yell at me or something, like just say anything, but he just clams up. Oh, I dont like that at all. Then I feel like he's ignoring me or something and i think that makes it worse because you feel like your in two different worlds and so far away from eachother.

trace · 07-11-2002, 04:02 PM

Thanks all, i have made a concious effort to control moods, i am doing ok. Heyt i haven't broke a cup since my first posting. Dh is much happier lol.