Did I put my foot in my mouth? Dr problems

pink76mom · 06-21-2005, 01:31 AM

I am very frustrated and just need a little feedback... I have an ob/gyn that I have seen since I was 12 (when I started having cysts). She knows all of my gyn history, sexual abuse, and depression struggles. When I had my miscarriage I could not get into see her, I saw a PA. When I wanted to get back on an antidepressant I could not see her so I saw a PA. I am now on Femara and dealing with fertility issues and need an appt in about 7 weeks for if I am not preg to discuss what is next and I still can't see her!! Her nurse will not add me to the schedule. Since I am sure that the doctor has no idea that I have been unable to get an appt I wrote her a letter and dropped it off today. Just told her what was going on physically and that I wanted to speak with her because she knew my history best and I am the most comfortable with her. I listed my questions and asked that if she could not see me then could she speak to me over the phone and if not to let me know so that I can make another arrangement.
I think that they almost pushed me over the edge today by not giving me an appt. (except for with the PA, who I do like, just not the same) I am on the verge of tears, wondering what is so wrong with me that I can not get an appt. The doc has always been very supportive of me and if I can see her she is wonderful. Very patient and warm. I do not want a new doc cuz it is hard for me to feel real comfortable due to the sexual abuse. Was my writing the letter totally out of line? I am in a state of panic now... I am scared that she will call and just tell me to find a new doc. And nervous that I just pissed a bunch of people off.

Stefany · 06-21-2005, 01:44 AM

(((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))
I know what you are going though. I went though this somewhat about 4 years ago. I have the same issuse with the sexual abuse and the PA I used to see moved and I was not aware of this. So when it was time for me to see her again she was not there I really freaked out. I didn't know what to do. I asked where she moved to and was told we are not able to give that info out. I was so PO about this. So, being me I got on the net to see if I could find her since I really liked her and how she treated me. Well come to find out she is now in WI and I am in CO so that was out for me. I really didn't want to see someone new but I could not let what was going on go any longer. I now see a wonderful FNP and I have been really open to about EVERYTHING it only took a year for me to do so . She has done some really wonderful things for me in the last 3 years and didn't ever think I could be comfortable again with a PA,FNP or a MD with the sexual abuse issues.
I don't think you writting a letter to your Dr was a bad thing to do. I think you are taking your health into your hands and that is what you must do. I hope your Dr will call or be able to sit down with you so you can talk with her and tell her what is going on. Best of luck and please update me when you hear something and if you want to PM feel free.

*pEaNuT* · 06-21-2005, 01:48 AM

I don't think that it was out of line!! Please let us know what happens!! You are in my thoughts and prayers!! (HUGS)

Chaque · 06-21-2005, 05:46 AM

I dont think it was out of line either. Maybe something is going on with her life that she isnt seeing patients like she used to. You just never know. Of course, if she just wont see you for some strange reason, then you have every right to know that as well.

Best of luck with this. It sounds like a hard situation. You are in my thoughts also. Please do let us know how it turns out.

*hugs*

Bethwyn · 06-21-2005, 11:15 AM

I don't think you did the wrong thing either. You have every right to know why you can't get an appointment, especially since you have been seeing that Dr for years. I hope it works out for you and you can get an appointment and keep seeing her

DrewM · 06-21-2005, 03:30 PM

I think you handled the situation very well. A calmly written letter is always better than screaming at someone, which is what I might have done in your situation. I hope it works out for you!

lovelyinkedlady · 06-21-2005, 03:56 PM

I think you did the best thing youi could have done. Especially when they just keep sending you to someone else and no one will tell you why she's not able to see you.

I know where you've been with the sexual abuse as i've been there my self and do not trust other males lookin at my prize! I'm to the point that even if i'm bleeding out from there i'll wait a month for a female dr. It's been hell for me to get a gyno appointment because the damn dr who deals with women with pcos, isn't taking anyone in right now so i had to get my dr to do a referal for me.

But it's very flustrating when you can't get in with a person that you feel comfortable with .but you did the write thing

asrai · 06-21-2005, 04:37 PM

I think you did the right thing. Fingers crossed you get a response.

pink76mom · 06-22-2005, 02:22 AM

Thanks for your replies everyone. I truly appreciate it. I have not heard for the doctor yet (but my phone was off the hook for hours this afternoon... darling kids!), every time that the phone rings my stomach does a few flip flops. Hopefully I will hear something soon. I am not sure when she has been on call, but she should be in the office soon! I'll keep you updated.

Little_Lady · 06-22-2005, 04:01 PM

I hope she replies to your letter or at least gives u a quick phonecall. I think u did the right thing. At least if its in writing they have to acknowledge it (so i'm told) All the best! Hope u get an appt with her soon.